I just need to know what all of you would do/feel in my situation!
Am in the process of splitting with husband of 20 years, decided in October to split & that he would leave after christmas. Hes still here! He said there wasnt anyone else, but I had my suspicians. Found out 2/3 days ago there is someone else!! Or rather was-she dumped him about a week & a half ago!! Been going on since last summer!!
Now, because hes gutted, so upset about it-he really loves her, would be there in a flash if she were to ring him!!-he needs time to get his head right, he cant sort anything out with the way hes feeling at the moment, hes asked to stay until Easter, which is what 2 months away??
I think hes asking an awful lot of me, I just want to get my life sorted!! For me & my 2 DDs!! Hes made me feel as though I was being unreasonable for not wanting him to stay that long! He says that because he paid the mortgage off about 4 years ago its the least I could do!!
Yes, I am grateful that we are mortgage free, but hes also been unemployed for almost 5 years, which was why he paid it off in the first place out of his inheritance from his parents. He only got Jobseekers Allowance for the first 6 months. He also has 1/2 share in another house with his sister, again part of his inheritance from his parents, so its not like he has nowhere to go!!
A I being unreasonable??
Please be honest even if I do get flamed!!