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Would you ever go on a blind date with a chap with four giant children that still live with him?

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kitya · 11/08/2011 23:36

A work colleague is trying to set me up with her brother who has spent the last ten years bringing up his children on his own. He's older than me. Sounds lovely but, someone said to me, that it will be hard as he has grown up children still living at home. At this stage of my life I think what the hell? Its different for me. Would you just go on the date and see how you feel? I could do with a date!! Smile

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BertieBotts · 11/08/2011 23:36

Yeah, why not?

ggirl · 11/08/2011 23:42

lol at giant children
yes go for it

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 11/08/2011 23:44

Why not?

Actually, I think it's a pretty good sign that they are still around. He must be a decent sort?

ChasingSquirrels · 11/08/2011 23:44

are they giant or is he a midget?
anyway
yes, I would - presumably they aren't going to live at home forever, and I don't see why it would be that hard, you are only going on a date. If it leads somewhere - well they are adults and therefore starting to live their own lives, moving on etc.

Unless giant means early teens? Which could be more interesting in the medium term.

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kitya · 11/08/2011 23:44

well, he's been on his own for afew years and devoted his time bringing them up. They are very protective of him but, want him to have some fun now!! Sod it, do you think I should look at him on fb first or, is that shallow? Im too old to be shallow now! Smile

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pictish · 11/08/2011 23:45

Yeah...I would. No real reason not to.

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 11/08/2011 23:48

Don't look, just go.

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kitya · 11/08/2011 23:57

Yes, you are right. Ive never been on a date with a 52 year old before though. Thats only because I still thing Im 30 inside!! I should tell her to arrange it. His kids think its time for him. They seem a lovely tight family unit.

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thisisyesterday · 11/08/2011 23:58

ohhhh, i thought you meant go on a date with him AND his 4 children.

i thought that might be a little bit scary for a first date lol

ScarlettIsWalking · 11/08/2011 23:59

how old are his children?

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kitya · 12/08/2011 00:02

I havent asked too many questions but, I think 19 - 25 (one lot of twins). All girls Smile

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NonnoMum · 12/08/2011 00:02

How old are his children? More like, how big are his children?

Maybe he's the kindest giant in town?

ChasingSquirrels · 12/08/2011 00:03

and how old are you? :)
yeah, do it. do it.

pictish · 12/08/2011 00:03

Four girls eh?
Mmmm...

Hahahaaa! Grin

JustFiveMinutesHAHAHA · 12/08/2011 00:03

For me it would depend on if I wanted to have (more) children. If I did, I'd want to know if it was something he would consider as well - if no, no point in dating. IMO there is little point in getting emotionally involved with someone if your lives are heading in ve3ry different - non compromisable- directions. I know others will say 'that's mad' - but it's how I feel.

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kitya · 12/08/2011 00:08

Im 42. That ship has passed me by, Im afraid. I have no baggage!! I already know one of them socially to say hi to. Really sweet young woman.

Ive always been involved with prats ie. I dont want to settle down types and,then theyve married the next woman theyve got involved with!! Ive got to change my dire relationship habits.

This colleague has been telling me about her brother for awhile now and then I met a daughter who said, I wish my dad would start dating again, he's given up so much for us.

I dont know, should I just take the man for a drink?

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ImperialBlether · 12/08/2011 00:13

If the children are happy with him dating, then what can you lose by going on a date with him? I'd hate to date someone whose children weren't happy with it - it would seem like too much trouble - but this seems different.

Do it and then tell us about it!

meditrina · 12/08/2011 00:13

giant children? You're being set up with Hagrid?

Go on the date. It's just a date, not a commitment to stepmotherhood.

ChasingSquirrels · 12/08/2011 00:14

yes you should

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kitya · 12/08/2011 00:19

thanks, guys. I will go for it. What are men in their early 50's like? It used to seem old but, its only a 9 year gap. I know he wont be into to the same stuff as me but, I think his girls keep him young!

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ImperialBlether · 12/08/2011 00:23

Ahem I would like a man that age! If you are not happy, PM me!

ChasingSquirrels · 12/08/2011 00:27

I am seeing a man in his early 50's (I'm a bit younger than you).
It must be impossible to generalise though, I don't feel the age difference at all (though I think I was born middle aged), although I do have concerns about when he is approaching 70 and I am only just older than he is now! (but that is many many years away, and we will just take it as it comes).

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kitya · 12/08/2011 00:31

well, Im assuming he has his own teeth..... That would be the dealbreaker for me!! Ive always liked them older but, when you are in your 40's older is, well, in there 50's? George Clooney is 50 for gods sake!! Smile

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BertieBotts · 12/08/2011 00:32

Don't think about the age! I don't see why you necessarily wouldn't be into the same stuff.

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kitya · 12/08/2011 00:34

He's probably more into "pop" music than I am. Irish too. I like an Irish accent Smile

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