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Would you ever go on a blind date with a chap with four giant children that still live with him?

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kitya · 11/08/2011 23:36

A work colleague is trying to set me up with her brother who has spent the last ten years bringing up his children on his own. He's older than me. Sounds lovely but, someone said to me, that it will be hard as he has grown up children still living at home. At this stage of my life I think what the hell? Its different for me. Would you just go on the date and see how you feel? I could do with a date!! Smile

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carantala · 12/08/2011 01:07

I used to knock around with a guy who had four grown-up sons living with him. Guy was absolutely delightful but never wanted to go home to his own house (he once stayed in my flat, uninvited with no clean clothes, for a whole week!). I already knew his lads through my own children but his kids treated us as if we were irresponsible fools. We weren't lovers, just happy friends, and he used to sleep in my bed (could not get him out of it during the day. He'd get up in the evening and take me out for something to eat!) Think that he wanted peace and quiet, bless him. He never sponged off me and I knew that there was no future in our relationship. He loved his sons and could only give them their own space if he was not in his house. They were all pulling women like mad! Didn't want their dad around. When he died, I went to see the boys and asked if there was anything that I could do. Was asked if I could pay their mortgage!

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kitya · 12/08/2011 08:28

Oh, bloody cheek!!! Poor guy, must have been young. What happened to the boys?

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RustyBear · 12/08/2011 08:37

DH is early fifties (so am I) and definitely not into 'pop' music.

Oddly enough people in their fifties are much like any other people - ie all totally different in their tastes and experiences.

Go without any prejudices, and if you find something about him you don't like, don't automatically write off all men in their fifties as 'like that'

WibblyBibble · 12/08/2011 09:52

Yes, I definitely would. He sounds lovely, and being a good dad is an important characteristic imo (and far too rare).

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kitya · 12/08/2011 10:08

Rusty, I didn't mean it!! I meant his girls are very poppy and that's why he would be into pop music. Cos he has no choice.

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SaffronCake · 12/08/2011 19:12

Maybe his kids actually are a girlfriend-hating nightmare, maybe he's a secret shady criminal, maybe he's a lifelong trainspotter, maybe he had his deceased Jack Russell stuffed and kisses it goodnight before curling up to sleep with it... Then again maybe he's Ok really and just single- like you.

If you follow the "what if" school of thought you'll never date anyone ever again. It's just a drink, no committment, you might even like him.

ImperialBlether · 12/08/2011 19:25

If the OP likes her colleague, there's a good chance she'll like her brother, particularly if the colleague is recommending him.

She also knows and likes one of his daughters, who wants to see her dad dating.

I think it sounds really promising, OP!

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kitya · 12/08/2011 22:22

I hope so!!

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carantala · 13/08/2011 01:37

Sorry, kitya - only just picked up your comment.

My friend's 4 sons had all been to uni. Parents divorced and their mother started an antique business in Spain. My friend put his new house here into the names of his sons but continued to pay the (very small) mortgage, despite the fact that they were all working.

No particular point being made here apart from the fact that my friend was always staying away from his house - not just with me but anywhere.

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kitya · 13/08/2011 23:14

Poor thing!! I suppose the house seems smaller with four strapping adults in it. I havent had a snoop on facebook. Yet.

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VivaLeBeaver · 13/08/2011 23:16

Op, are you liz jones? Grin

She talks about giant children and her partner has 4 giant children......

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kitya · 13/08/2011 23:21

No, Im as intrigued by who her bloke is as much as you are Smile

No Rock Star here, Im afraid. He owns a building company.

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VivaLeBeaver · 13/08/2011 23:44

Just checking you're not her and throwing us red herrings on the other thread. Wink

ShoutyHamster · 13/08/2011 23:53

Oh, go for it.

They could be a lovely family and you get on with them famously!

Or, they could be a bunch of stunted harpies who will hate you for pinching daddy from them - in which case you will politely decline the coffee and mints and leave for pastures less populated.

I have a picture in my mind of you being loomed over by a family of basketall players!

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kitya · 14/08/2011 22:30

Oh, if only I could lose half a stone in the next couple of days!! Smile I will give her the nod when Im next at work.

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fivegomadindorset · 14/08/2011 22:33

Absolutely, he sounds fab, my brother is a little way over 50 and still great fun, younger childen though.

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kitya · 14/08/2011 22:48

single?

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ImperialBlether · 14/08/2011 23:35

Kitya, he's got four daughters - he's more than likely seen weight go on and off and on and off at regular intervals. He'll be immune to it now.

Putthatbookdown · 15/08/2011 09:43

This sounds scary -close family unit etc Depends if you can handle this-they may be welcoming to you or not.Who knows? it will take time initially as they do not know you-difficult

flatbellyfella · 15/08/2011 16:39

Bloody hell !!!! There's no hope for me
then, I am 64 going on 16 I can play
with my granddaughter at any time of
day play rounders Chricket football tennis
with my nieces children listen & to their
choice of music & enjoy it .age does not
stop you all of a sudden from being a fun
person to be with ,you are not doing him
a favour if you go out with him because he
is Old.unless he has no one else to push
him around in his wheel chair.
Go for it, try a Golden Oldie. :-)

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