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I packed his bags and took them to his work

46 replies

Imbetterthanhim · 11/07/2011 18:37

And now I'm shitting myself.

Have never really gone this far before.

I also threw his rubber fanny at him.

Oh God, please help me stick to my guns.

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FaffTastic · 11/07/2011 18:41

Without having further info, it doesn't exactly sound like dignified behaviour tbh. What did he do exactly?

P.s any man who owns and actually uses a rubber fanny is better of avoided!

BalloonSlayer · 11/07/2011 18:42

Well if you are sure that you wanted to break up, then it sounds like you did the right thing.

But . . . rubber fanny??????

Shock Grin

SkipToTheEnd · 11/07/2011 18:49

If it's what you wanted then stay strong.

Don't let him change your mind as his actions have obviously been louder then any of his words up until this point. That renders his words now pretty useless in my book.

TeachMySelfBalance · 11/07/2011 18:55

What is a rubber fanny?
That's ok, I don't really need to know. Wink

Ok, now just have a policy of no contact.
You've scraped the crap off the bottom of your shoe, now walk on and don't look back.

I know it isn't easy. Use your brain space creating metaphors Grin and that will help strengthen your resolve.

ohgawdherewegoagain · 11/07/2011 18:55

I know that this is serious but I'm sitting here reading this with my grown up daughters and they made me google "rubber fanny's" Looking at some of them, I can only imagine what satisfaction the rubber fanny gave YOU when it was flying through the air at him. Hope you got a direct hit!

Good on you, OP!

PhilipJFry · 11/07/2011 19:24

So...did the rubber fanny bounce off him?

I'm trying to conjure up a mental image Grin

iklboo · 11/07/2011 19:32

PLEASE change your name to The Bouncing Fanjo!

HairyGrotter · 11/07/2011 19:40

Did you throw the rubber fanny at him at work, in front of his colleauges? If so, I award you a 10/10

UnhappyLizzie · 11/07/2011 19:40

I agree. Stick to your guns. Rubber fanny... I know what they are, though I have to admit I was a bit shocked (appalled?) when I first saw a picture of one. Any guy who owns one of them and keeps it when he's got a real one to play with is a total loser.

Speaks a hypocrite who owns a rampant rabbit... but I have posted about my sexless marriage elsewhere... so that's actually OK ;)

stupefy · 11/07/2011 19:42

well done!

now, tell me more about this rubber chuff Shock

LynetteScavo · 11/07/2011 19:47

I started to post a few times.

But to be honest, I'm not sure what to say.

Good luck x

HairyGrotter · 11/07/2011 19:48

At least with a dildo the OH/DP/DH etc can join in, what is one to do with a rubber fanny when he's banging away at it? Finger his arsehole I suppose...thinking now, bad times.

Well done on getting rid

BecauseImWorthIt · 11/07/2011 19:49

Why the outrage about a sex toy for him, given the way they are so readily accepted on here for women? Hmm

Good on you, OP. Stick to your guns!

mumatron · 11/07/2011 19:51

Shock just one you think you've seen it all on mumsnet,

Good for you op. Now just stay strong and stand your ground.

mumatron · 11/07/2011 19:52

Just when

mumatron · 11/07/2011 19:52

Just when

UnhappyLizzie · 11/07/2011 20:02

HairyGrotter lol!!! Good points, well made

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Imbetterthanhim · 11/07/2011 20:10

There were colleagues in the room and he was sat with one showing him something.

I have since thrown his stuff out on the street and I don't give a shit if the whole thing was seen.

Getting off the floor and crawling down to a hotel reception after he gave me a good kicking in the ribs was what started it all off and we have limped along since.

He is such a charming bastard.

Recently I discovered that he had been in touch with several ex's and had told them he thought he married the wrong woman. One of them he cheated on me with several yrs ago.

I'm on my knees cos of that wanker and my only intention now is to get off them as soon as I can.

He got the rubber fanny when he bought me a rabbit only 2 months ago or so as he wasn't happy about me having one.

It hit him in the chest when I threw it. Had it bounced off it would have landed in the middle of the table he was sitting at and his colleague would have seen exactly what it was.

He has been in the house to collect his stuff and has even taken the ky jelly. Sad fuck.

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Imbetterthanhim · 11/07/2011 20:13

When he was shagging the other girl, he packed my stuff when I went to work one morning and sent them in a taxi. I'm proud of myself I had the balls to do it myself

OP posts:
mumatron · 11/07/2011 20:13

You're so much better off without that man.

Do you have dc?

lastonetoleaveturnoutthelights · 11/07/2011 20:16

Well done, I absolutely admire your strength, and the sheer gusto that comes through your post - with a personality as strong as yours you will absolutely survive and move away and upwards from such an absolute, well, words fail me, an absolutely fucking abusive bastard, I guess.

All the best Imbetterthanhim, and you certainly are times a million.

mumblechum2 · 11/07/2011 20:16

Just...blimey.

Respect.

SkipToTheEnd · 11/07/2011 20:18

Well done you. You are so much better then him and without him.

What's more, you obviously have more balls then him too. I hope is colleagues never let him live it down. I can see KY Jelly, blow up sheep, ann summers vouchers etc coming his way every christmas now.....

HairyGrotter · 11/07/2011 20:19

Go you, fuck him and his KY jelly.

You'll be on your feet in no time!

SkipToTheEnd · 11/07/2011 20:20

mumble surely you have to leave the 't' off the end innit?