If I could just attempt to draw something positive from the recent debacle ...
As most of you know, I do my not drinking the AA way. That's my personal choice and is by no means the only way.
However, one of the things that I found amazing in AA, long before I came anywhere near to my last drink, was the arguments. Because, when these people - all of them self-confessed drunks, just like me - had a falling out, they would nevertheless come back the next week, and the next, and the next. And the fact that they were'nt getting on with someone on a personal level seemed to have no effect on their willingness to help that person when the shit hit the fan.
Such maturity and selflessness won my support far more thoroughly than any Steps ever could. And I really do feel that the same thing happens on this thread. We fall out occasionally - but, though it might be distracting to the naked eye, it doesn't get in the way of our willingness to deal with the real issue of miserable problem drinking.
If I ever thought Forthe was having a problem with her drinking then my priority would be to help her rather than win the latest theoretical spat, and I am convinced that she would do the same for me.
Alcoholics/Problem drinkers are real, ordinary people, with all that that entails; what's wonderful is when they are prepared to rise above that to deal with a common problem.
Speech over; you can put your lighters away now.