The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

Hi, I'm venus, I'm an alcoholic. I've not been drinking since the early threads. It is great to wake up without a hangover, but it's been difficult and a struggle and I've relied on the support of these threads to get me through.

I'm a bit of an ageing hippy, and very lazy, so I'm more likely to suggest acceptance, meditation, and making some soup than going for a long strenuous run.

Join in and enjoy. xx

Aha, you is an ageing hippy too Venus but not as ageing as me! I have got through yet another Day 1 and am looking forward to Day 2. The wining hour is upon us, how are you all doing?

Resisted the temptation to have a drink with a friend, am going to sit through 2 hours of am-dram instead and try not to miss the 2 lines that DD has to say. And then I'm going to take her home and we'll probably cuddle up in bed together (no man in the house at present, I'm divorced), and then I'm going to look forward to waking up again in the morning WITHOUT A HANGOVER!

I'm the fourth to post - yey!!!

fifth ..... bummer.

venus and dipso can I join the ageing hippy club as well?!

Are you still with us christi? Things sound really tough for you just now - thinking of you.
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I think I am probably older than all of you (51). One child at uni, one going next year.

But, empty nest isn't an excuse, as I have been drinking a bottle to a bottle and a half of wine at night for about the last 10 years, giving myself one reason or another.

I am so lucky in so many ways, I just don't know why I do it.

Not tonight though, and you have all really helped. Even went to the shops and only came back with the paper!

I feel so much better, thank you.(but not expecting it to be easy)
First day :)

Laydees you need to go back to the other thread until we have filled it or Mouse gets in trouble and we miss eachothers posts.........

Thurso - you have made huge steps today - you have talked to DH and you have opened up to us. WELL DONE (and I suspect that you are not older than most of us at all) xxx

BOO!! [hgrin], just thought i would risk it!, mouse not about? [hgrin]

thurso - im 47, nearly 48!, i intend to grow old disgracfully!! [hgrin], do join us!! [hsmile], actually, i feel quite jaunty this evening, i got a special little wink from the AA young hunk!, made my day [hwink]

I win I win, I'm the oldest! Am 53 and don't look bad considering all those years on the sauce. Can't get away with it much longer though...

Zombie - I'm here woman, just been looking omline at those boots at River Island. God they would so suit you!! DH would have ne in them too he said!

Now get back over to the other thread please norty's and fill it up. Ooohhh er!!

AA GSO Watch
AddictionInfo
GoodTherapy.org
Life Ring
Non 12-Step
Orange Papers
Rational Recovery ?
Science Based Medicine
Secular Organizations for Sobriety (S.O.S.)
SMART Recovery(tm)
Stanton Peele
Stanton Peele on ST
The Big Book online
The Clean Slate Addiction
The Skeptic's Dictionary
Women for Sobriety
X-Steppers
Allen Carr's How to drink less alcohol

Are we allowed here yet mouse? I get confused with the whole new thread thing - not easy to confuse me these days!
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Thurso good to see you back on here, sorry if I appeared harsh to you today but got my hackles up over Mouse

Hello - just marking my place on new thread. Feels apprporiate as today is Day 1.

I might not be able to keep up or post every day as life is manic at the mo (3dc's, youngest is 9 months, back at work and work being done on the house!) I've been using all the stress to justify why I need a drink but the time has come to stop.

I hope it's ok to use this thread for support although I may not be able to offer much back for now!

Mouse - what day are you on now? I remember last time you were my day 'buddy' until I crashed and burned! How does it feel being sober for a while?!

morning all!!

well, had a bit of a crappy evening - you may remember me saying that the business dh and i have was struggling?, weeellll, its not doing too bad right now (cross your fingers for me please!), but dh and i are now in a shit place with our personal finances, in fact, we have no money!, its a bit of a worry frankly, i know we are not alone in this, the trouble is, i cant see it getting better anytime soon - the strange thing is though, i feel quite calm about it!, not being too pissed to deal with it is an absolute godsend! [hgrin], previously i would have gone into meltdown and drank and drank thinking i was somehow helping! - so, last night was a bit sleepless but i am ok!, i have been dirt poor before and im still here! [hgrin], in fact, it made me quite resourceful, so here i go again! - my attitude has astounded dh, he has never had to struggle for money and this has knocked him for six, but hey ho, we'll get through it!, worse things happen at sea and all that!!

so, i will not be drinking today or buying purple velvet boots! , the hardest of the 2 will definatly be not buying the boots! [hgrin]

so, any tips on frugal living gratefully accepted! [hgrin]

all i can say really is that im sooooo glad im sober and deal with the situation and be a support to dh, i always think that when the chips are down, thats when a partner should try and be as strong as possible!!

Good morning. I think the old thread is now full and hope I'm doing the right thing posting on this one! Day 3 for me, and enjoying the clear-head I aim to keep all day long. No drinking today.

I have a question. Who, if any of you, have managed to control their drinking or have it as an aim rather than total abstinence? By that I mean going from years of regular heavy drinking (say an average of a bottle a night, blackouts, violence, the lot) to only drinking in company and not ever bingeing. I believe abstinence is the only way for me, but it's so difficult to imagine social occasions (such as the impending office party) without a drink.

Morning again on the lovely new thread. Dipso, i know exactly what you mean about the thought of social situtions and how one would cope without having a drink, especially when others around you are drinking. I can only speak for myself and I am in the early days but I thought that beating the addiction is more important than going to a party and if it means I have to be a bit of a hermit until I can safely go out and not need to drink then so be it.
I know there are some people who do manage to cut down and be strict with controlling how much they drink, I'm not one of these people, as soon as I've had one my theory is f@*k it and try to get as much down my neck as i can.
Also, zombie, i know that me and dh hae saved a fortune in shopping bills since cutting down meat to only 2 or 3 times a week. if you like bolognese there is a dried soya mince you can buy called grandose i think and its about 1.30 fvor 2 packs, each pack would easily feed a family of 5 with added veg/peppers.
Sorry about my long post i thought id better try and chip in with help for others instead of just harping on about myself

Dipso -

I am in the 0 booze camp.. as things stand the longer I go without the less I care about it so I am looking at the Xmas period with more and more confidence. Basically I feel to good to have one slip up set me back by a year and really in my case that's all it takes 1 slip up.. because I know I cant drink normally ..

I am in the stop/start camp and like you Hubba I am now giving the hermit lifestyle a go [hm]

Thanks girls, that is my gut feeling too, it's got to be zero. I've tried to cut down before (many times) and do manage quite often to just have one or two and have no desire for another. But then there are the times when I have no off switch and it all goes horribly wrong.

I like what you say diabolik about the longer you go without, the less you want it. Certainly applies in my case, to sex....
Although, after having been single almost a year, I'd quite like to meet someone. Perhaps though, while I'm trying to sort out the booze, I should avoid it as alcohol and relationships have always been a bit of a toxic mix for me.

My first post on this new thread and since I only came aboard a couple of days ago and never really introduced myself I'll do it now.
My name is Louise, I am 28 I am married and I am a problem drinker (dh also a problem drinker, we fell into the trap together) we have two dc, ds 11 and dd 6. I don't drink of a day, only of a night, I don't get fall down pissed but I drink around a bottle of wine or a couple tins of lager, then I will probably drink half bottle of brandy.

I drink because without it the night seems boring and I can't sleep.

I need to cut down dramatically or even better stop.

Sorry to interrupt- I might join you (it's all a bit daunting) if I can face up it. I asked a question rather cheekily at the very end of the last thread before I realised it was too big for new messages, so I'll just copy and paste it again if you don't mind...

Good morning- I hope you don't mind me sticking my head around the corner, but I've got a question and thought you would be the ladies to ask.

I definitely drink too much and too often. But after a night of not drinking at all, I always seem to wake up with pains in my stomach. Has anybody else experienced this? What do you think it could be?

Thanks- sorry for hijack.

tippler, im no doctor but could it be the pains are caused by your liver trying to start detoxing?, i used to get awful tummy and lower back pain which i no longer have!, it makes me shudder to think what i was putting this poor old body through!

i find that total abstinance is the only way for me - i still have a little voice in my head that says that just one would be fine - i am in no doubt at all that that one would simply lead on to sooooo amny more that it is just not worth the risk - like diabolik, i have come to decide that i am worth so much more that i find the thought of drinking and getting drunk actually quite frightening!

morning all, hi to loopylou and anyone else I haven't said hello to.
I'm another oldie - 46 - and up to a bottle a night before boarding the bus. this is the end of week 3, some success some failure.
Have cut intake by about 50% but a lot of room for improvement. have a good day y'all