The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 1)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello.

Welcome to The Brave Babes Bus. I'm Mouseface and I used to abuse alcohol and to be honest, there is always a risk that I'll do it again.

This is a bus journey for those who drink too much, or drink now and then, not at all, or actually aren't quite sure what their drinking means to them.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, everyone is welcome.

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JWN's original thread

I know how scary AA is, I used to be a primary school teacher in the town I live in and saw a parent at my first meeting. But it really does stay in the room.

Why would doing the right thing mean that your husband may leave you?

It does build up doesn't it? I drink more frequently than you do but it can always get worse and it does. Have you been snowed in with the little ones?

Oh poor you, that must be so tough. They are both so very little.

You do need a break. Husbands can't ever really know what it's like, BF is so draining, my DS is 3.5 and still leaps on me whenever I sit down and during the night.

I understand the need to escape from it all.

Probably is too late but I'm glad you've stopped crying Has it made you tired? Maybe take advantage of that if you can and see how you feel tomorrow.

hello!!, just back from party!, thank god you're back wasindi, i was getting proper worried!!

pleased to hear nemo is ok!

right then!, nomore - you sound pretty desperate my love! - tbh, i think the best thing you can do tonight is make sure the kids are tucked up and warm and get yourself to bed! - if you've been drinking all day you are not in any state to make decisions/think clearly or really do anything rational! - drink some water, go to bed and start tomorrow as you mean to go on!

you have started the ball rolling just by finally admitting the problem - thats enough for one day!, you have been very brave and honest, now be kind to yourself!

Hello Nmnm. Are you off to bed? I am awaiting snow-weary travellers.

What JWN said. .

Keep drinking water. Do not think about never drinking again, or even not drinking for a month. That does not matter now.

I would imagine that your dh is worried about you because he loves you and doesn't know how to help.

my love, the whole point of going to bed now is so that you do wake up tomorrow!! , now listen to me!, you are still drunk, you feel like shit and right now you NEED to try and get some sleep - you will be fit for nothing if you are over tired and emotional, aswell as hungover!

it sounds to me like you really need to get your dh on side in teh morning + you have the dcs to see to! at least if you have got your head down for a few hours you will feel a bit better!

No it won't. You are talkiing about it now and you will talk about it on here tomorrow, or lurk and read what other people say to you. You know the serenity prayer, 'Grant the the Serenity to accept the things I can't change, the courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.'? (or that's about it). You can change things, but you can't change anything right this second except drinking water, doing your teeth and going to bed. .

darling, my dh is just the same as yours, he cant cope with my drinking either, thats why i had to stop!, sounds like you need to do the same!, however, tonight YOU NEED TO GO TO BED!! - we can talk tomorrow about your next step!

i have to go now as dh wants the pc - look after yourself tonight, stick with us and we will see how we can help you!

see you in the morning babes!!

L XXXXXXXX

wasandie - me old mucker - bloody hell you could have said you were going away - soooo good to have you back

nomore - read these posts again when you wake up and are sober. I am making the same excuses about AA at the moment - although I know what you mean about the practicalities of being able to attend - why don't we do it together next year? then we can help each other and ourselves - you will need the support of your DH and I am sure if he knows that you want to help yourself, he will be with you all the way - and look after the children while you attend meetings. You have felt low enough to post on this thread, so you obviously want help. And FWIW I think you should be honest with your friend in RL. She could be a massive support for you xx

twila - so sorry to have not said hello - here is your open ticket Babe x

Right I am back off to bed to await Mouse's bacon rolls and hot steaming mugs of tea.

xxx

Hello all.

Wasindie, love your christmas name, and so glad to see you back around.

Don't talk yourself down. 2 little children, one bf, is a stressful place on occasion. I don't like labels, because they are just theories made up by fallible humans, but the words, 'PND' came into my head. When I was a single parent, with no help at all, one night I asked my lovely neighbours to look after 4 year old for one evening because I just hadn't had a break for weeks. Really pleased you have supportive family. That is a bit help.

Re GP. I don't think he will do much because you don't drink enough to warrant a referral to a rehab or for a detox. Have a good chat with your husband because there is a good chance GP may feel he has to inform social services and you issues with alcohol will remain on your, and their, medical records.

Lots of good advice on here for you. You will be fine.