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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 1)

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TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse · 03/12/2010 16:22

Hello.

Welcome to The Brave Babes Bus. I'm Mouseface and I used to abuse alcohol and to be honest, there is always a risk that I'll do it again.

This is a bus journey for those who drink too much, or drink now and then, not at all, or actually aren't quite sure what their drinking means to them.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, everyone is welcome. Xmas Smile

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DoNotWantToBeGoogled · 12/12/2010 08:02

Morning. Thank you. I have had the attacks for 21 yrs. I have had CBT & counselling. I do believe I have been dealing with them ...every bloody day, I am sick of dealing with them. The attacks consume my life.
I will look at the link thank you.

notevenachristmousie · 12/12/2010 08:22

Morning all,

It's good to wake up sober though I still have nothing to sit on in my house which is not so much fun. Apart from one hard kitchen chair and the floor. Sofa arrives next Saturday, it may be a long week!

Am thinking too much this morning so am off to unpack some boxes and keep myself busy as this always helps!

Silver hope you are ok from last night - can you tell us what was going on?

venus thank you, it would have been very easy to give in, it is a real battle of a day at a time at the moment but I am going to get through today without a drink too. Day 3.

Love to all x

jesusthisstableiscrowded · 12/12/2010 09:57

morning girls!! Xmas Grin, mrs boingy sparkly christmas person here!! Xmas Grin

mouse - im so glad you all had a lovley trip out!, does nemo understand christmas? (i hope thats not a rude question!, i mean it kindly!)

googled - im no doctor or expert or anything but im wondering if you are not actually helping to relive the attacks by drinking - it may work in teh short term but not as a proper cure iyswim?, may even have perpetuated the situation - please dont take offence, i dont mean to cause any, just wondering!

today we are at a family lunch, im sort of looking forward to it but the mil will be there - she has been very concilatory (sp? Xmas Confused Xmas Grin) since our 'loud discussion' last week - i have never been a grugde bearer and once a row is over im able to leave it - she is a nit picker so we will see how it goes!

venus - i know what you re dh and yesterday - mine wasnt even hungover but he kept trying to sneak off - then on christmas eve he will ask 'what did WE get for so and so' gggrrr

ChristianaCatesby · 12/12/2010 10:19

Hello, sorry I have been absent for a few days.

Will read back through thread and see what I have missed.

But just wanted to say GUESS WHAT GIRLS! I've GOT A JOB! I am AMAZED!

jesusthisstableiscrowded · 12/12/2010 10:23

christi - im soooooo pleased for you!!! Xmas Grin

ONWARDS AND UPWARDS MY GIRL!!!! Xmas Grin

so, come on, what it, when do you start, what does dh think?

btw, i read your thread the other day, hope you are ok?

ChristianaCatesby · 12/12/2010 10:33

It's very exciting. It isn't really what I used to do but is using my qualifications and is actually better paid than I feared.

Not sure of start date yet am waiting for contract. I am so excited, I am going to go and buy some clothes and get my hair done and have a nice Christmas (not going to go overboard but at last we can treat ourselves to a night out and a few chocolates and some nice pressies for the DDs!)

DH seems to be already better, he even celebrated with my best friend and her DH when we heard the news on Friday, the first time he has seen ANYONE in about two months.

jesusthisstableiscrowded · 12/12/2010 10:39

so very pleased for you!!! Xmas Grin, enjoy enjoy!, btw - see! we TOLD you it would all start falling into place didnt we?! Xmas Grin, in future have faith in us wise old witches!! Xmas Grin

ChristianaCatesby · 12/12/2010 10:42

It is amazing. I feel much stronger, more empowered. DH and I are letting ourselves dream about buying our own place now!

The people who interviewed me are very nice and didn't mess me around, were strightforward and keen and charming.

witchetychicky · 12/12/2010 11:03

I am so pleased for you christiGrin

TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse · 12/12/2010 11:25

JWN

Hello, not at all. He is 'getting there'. He's 19m but more like 12m in terms of development and even size, he's quiet diddy.

He has Global Developmental Delay. He did just have delayed motor skills but there is more than one area that he's delayed in, so he's moved up to that!

He loves the lights and trees and I'm sure the excitement is felt by him.

I think next year will be the biggy for him in terms of him knowing!!!

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witchetychicky · 12/12/2010 11:35

Morning mouse - I too have mini DC's....comes in handy when they are early teens and you want to avoid paying full price for things - Mind you , I have to bribe them to keep their mouths shut! When my DS was 24 months I was still dressing him in 6 month clothes - happy to report he has all the normal hormones and stroppy attitude of a normal 14yr old Grin

Fortheverylasttime · 12/12/2010 11:39

Christi, that is brilliant news. Really brilliant. Thank you for letting us know.

Google, were you hay with your cbt therapist? Have you asked on mn how to cope with panic attacks? You do have my deepest sympathy - I know what they are like. I used to run out of shops halfway through a transaction (this was some time ago) sweating and heart beating.

Last time I had one, and it was the only one in years, was about 18 months ago at the dentist before some fairly major work. I started hyperventilating, and he told me that unless I stopped he wouldn't treat me. Well, that was urgent enough for me to force myself to do the textbook breathing through the nose, etc.

I also did a year long counselling and counselling skills course, mainly motivated by wanting to know what a therapist would do if I paid them. That was very very useful, but a bit drastic, perhaps. And getting older helps too, I think. You can learn to deal with them in some ways.

I am very cynical about some schools of therapy, but cbt and 'short, solution-focussed therapy do seem to work for relatively well documented and manageable problems.

I hope that doesn't sound harsh. I do think that a lot of your suffering could be managed, and I am not sure that your cbt therapy has been effective.

(Mouse, who do you want to win the x-factor tonight? Smile)

Fortheverylasttime · 12/12/2010 11:41

Google, I think that getting older helps because one realises that one is not as important as one thought when one was younger. Can't help you with the death bit. That is what we all have to face though.

TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse · 12/12/2010 12:03

Christi - WELL DONE!!!!!! That is fantastic news and at this time of year too!!! I bet it's a huge relief for you all.

Forthe - Matt. No contest but after last night, I'm not so sure. He'll get a recording deal, we all know that, but I have a feeling (whoooo-hooooooo) that Rebecca will win, or Wand Erection One Direction. Xmas Grin

Wichety - yes, I have no doubt that as Nemo grows, he's catch up with everything. It's quiet nice to be able to keep him in 12-18m clothes, and as you say things are cheaper the smaller they are!!

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ChristianaCatesby · 12/12/2010 12:12

Thank you very much guys. We have a HUGE roast in the oven woohoo to celebrate and yesterday I had sushi YUM YUM YUM. I'm going to eat my first month's salary before you know it!

I fancy Harry from Wand Direction

Thought the dancing of Rihanna and Cristina was outrageous... Just too much. Rihanna looked so unbelievably gorgeous in the long black dress with the slit and had DH drooling... Then when she came back on and stripped down to her bikini or whatever DH was saying how much more alluring it was when she was just revealing one long leg...

ChristianaCatesby · 12/12/2010 12:16

oh OH oh Wallis has 25% off anything and just treated myself to some new jeans and tops and this dress and this coat...

Now JWN, where do I go for some shoes, need some work-y ones... Am going to be working for v smart private bank with lots of hugely wealthy clients so need to look champagne expensive on a beer income (not that I'm drinking beer! OR champagne!)

TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse · 12/12/2010 12:17

I thought that the outfits of some on last night's sex X Factor were a bit 'ahem' given the time it was on.

DD and I were watching it and she commented on how naked some performers/dancers were. She's 11!

Christi - enjoy it!!!

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ChristianaCatesby · 12/12/2010 12:22

I call it the X fuctor now Mouse Xmas Grin

TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse · 12/12/2010 12:52

I was really Shock at some of the outfits. And last week too.

I know sex sells, and I'm VERY open minded but there are children watching the sex X Factor.

Not on.

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Fortheverylasttime · 12/12/2010 12:55

Sexfucter. I thought Pan's People' were bad.

Google, I suspect Venus might be better informed that me. But please keep posting.

venusandchristmars · 12/12/2010 17:20

Much, much better day. No hangovers here for anyone Grin. So tree is up, sort of hungarian goulash casserole thing has been slow cooking in the oven for 6 hours and is smelling good, spoke to distant dd2 (still in India) and dp and I went for lovely icy walk in the woods.

Christi you know I am absoloutely delighted for you - and you WILL look wonderful in those clothes.

venusandchristmars · 12/12/2010 17:23

Fortheverylasttime I am not quite sure what you are referring to in your last post Confused I assume it is a conversation that you and donotwanttobegoogled have been having?

donot if there is something that you think i could help with, that you don't want to post on here, you can pm me. I'll be around for a while.

notevenachristmousie · 12/12/2010 18:55

Christi many many congratulations - and thank you again for the night you talked me through. I hope you enjoy your new challenge and it takes you to new levels of self esteem in yourself as well as positivity for your family. I'm still enjoying my new look in my new job - it's a new feeling for me entirely.

Zanyisntsantacanny · 12/12/2010 19:11

Congratulations on your new job Christie

MUse be really exiting to be in your new home at last Noteven at least you can manage to get to AA meetings a bit easier now

Feeling a bit fed up at the mo. Stupid I know but thinking about XP and I guess feeling a bit nervous at a time that seems to be full of loved up couples Xmas Sad

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