The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 1)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello.

Welcome to The Brave Babes Bus. I'm Mouseface and I used to abuse alcohol and to be honest, there is always a risk that I'll do it again.

This is a bus journey for those who drink too much, or drink now and then, not at all, or actually aren't quite sure what their drinking means to them.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, everyone is welcome.

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JWN's original thread

zany there might APPEAR to be lots of loved up couples, but take a peek behind many of the doors and you will find arguments about who is doing the lion's share of the work, the cost of christmas, which inlaws will be visited when, the amount drunk at the christmas party. Sadly that is often the real picture, and the time after Christmas is the highest of the year for couples seperating [cheery news???]

Without all that you can give all your love to your dcs, focus on having fun with them, and then when they go off to bed, you don;t have anyone else to entertain except yourself - bliss. Watch whatever rubbish you want to on TV, indulge in some chocolate (without sharing), have the bathroom to yourself, and go off to bed early.

hi all.
First the good news - today i have not been, and will not be drinking.
The bad news is that this is purely down to having too much last night and the mother of all hangovers this morning. When will I learn? how often do I have to do this to myself to get the message?
i wish I could bottle this feeling of crappiness so that I woul dnever be tempted to drink again..........

Ma you can still count this as day 1, just keep on keeping on babe. Tomorrow you will feel better, try bottling the non hangover feeling you will have instead.

I know what you mean venus I was one of those couples with my XH. Grass is always greener I guess. Your right in that I should just enjoy being single, watching what I want, havig fun with the DC's.

Just feeling a bit sorry for myself, car's a nightmare and probably wont start again which is no fun when you have 10 mins between the school run and work! And the woman I work with is a very smug, everything is perfect married woman who blatently looks down on me because I'm single and dating.

Sorry enough self pity now

Wasindie - just get through the day - am I right that you do manage several days alcohol free fairly often? Does the sick and tired feeling go when you do? (I guess with baby twins there is always going to be an element of tired though!)

I'm so glad to be in our new house but also dreading the arrival of my mother for a whole fortnight over Christmas. Why can't I ever stand up for what I want?

morning wasindie and noteven. I'm joining the early bridage - off to Aberdeen today.

Have a good day everyone, look after yourself x

just checking, hangover free. Here comes Day 2...

Morning Campers

Well after having a melt down this weekend I am off to my first AA meeting at 1.30pm today. My original plan was to wait until after Christmas but I honestly don't think my body or my mind can wait till then.

So I am nervous and excited at the same time.

I hope this is the beginning of a new life for me and my family

Wish me luck! xxx

Morning everyone, no alcohol for me this weekend but that was mainly due to the fact that I had major migraine all weekend combined with back pain (felt like my whole body was falling apart):(
Christi sincere congrats on getting the job!
Thurso best of luck with test on Tuesday!

Silver wishing you all the best for today, and congrats on making the decision to go to AA!

Morning all.

Silver - Good luck for later. You'll be fine, as long as you go.

I am definately going - last chance saloon and all that x

Good on you Silver, Morning Mouse:)

"Morning. Thank you. I have had the attacks for 21 yrs."

How long have you been drinking, Googled?

It is my experience that drinking (at least, problem drinking) will exacerbate panic. Certainly I am a much calmer and less stressed person sober than I was when I drank.

Morning desire, how are you today?

Silver - no pun intended??

Tee Hee Mouse - didn't even realise when I typed that!!! x

and it's definitely not definately - I always get that wrong

Still feeling bit shitty and groggy Mouse:( how are are things with you?

morning everyone!! , lovely to see you all!! - i have had a fairly good weekend, the only dampner being my mil! (old cow!)

SILVER!!! good luck my love!!, i know its scary but it really could be the start of a new way of life! - give it all you've got and i promise it will all come right!! - btw, stop worrying about spelling!!, if i worried about it i would end up going barmy! , just like my old boss did years ago when i sent the spell-checker doolally!

Plodding along desire.

Putting up Christmouse cards, wrapping gifts and writing cards etc. Just trying to keep busy and not get caught in a 'this time last year' type of head fuck cycle if I'm honest.

This time last year (for anyone who doesn't know) Nemo had just got out of PICU after his lungs collapsed following emergency open heart surgery.

He had surgical emphasyma, and Pulmonary Edema so couldn't breath.

We hadn't bought him any Christmas presents as we were told to prepare for the worst.

So, this time last year was utterly shite for us.

I'm keeping busy and letting him help with the wrapping! The lounge looks like a bomb has hit it!! But we're having heaps of fun! And against the odds, he's here!

Thanks JWN - I intend to give it all I've got and am very relieved that I have decided to go today and not wait till after Christmas, and very grateful that my DP has stood by me for this long, and very grateful that I have still got my DD and that she hasn't been taken into care, and grateful that I have still got my driving licence and therefore my job, because it is only a matter of time, if I continue as I am now, that I will lose all of those things.

Mouse you need to rejoyce that you have Nemo with you today and everyday - he is a fighter and he will grow up to be a big strong lad in no time at all.