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Should I make DD go to school tomorrow? i think yes DH thinks no

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Katymac · 21/11/2007 21:59

She has been off-colour for weeks & has had 4 or 5 odd days off with cold/chesty/up all night coughing etc

Tuesday she was awful could hardly speak, crying with pain so she was off again; at 8pm she threw up - several ties so was off school again today and at bed time was starting to look a bit brighter (was very pale & listless all day)

On Friday she is off school because she is competing at Blackpool in a ballroom comp, and she will miss monday as we will be back too late to go in

So she is 'off-colour' but OK DH thinks she needs to rest before the comp on Saturday (coach all day on Friday) I think she should go in

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Spagblog · 21/11/2007 22:01

What does she think?
I would send my DD in, but only if she thought she felt better.

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Katymac · 21/11/2007 22:02

That's it - she is fine one minute & in tears the next

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colditz · 21/11/2007 22:03

I'd keep her off.

LoveMyGirls · 21/11/2007 22:03

I'd let her have another day but on the condition she stays in bed and sleeps or reads.

kid · 21/11/2007 22:05

I'd let her stay off. If she is under the weather anyway, the rest will do her good. Especially if she has a busy weekend ahead.

LoveMyGirls · 21/11/2007 22:05

IS she worried about anything? The dance comp? friends at school? being bullied? Only asking because of the fine one min, tears the next also worrying can make you feel worse, I was stressed for a few weeks and i felt awful, lots of ulcers etc now i've stopped being so stressed and feel lots better.

It's worth asking incase there is anything worrying her, at least if she says no you know it's only the cold to worry about.

Miaou · 21/11/2007 22:07

I would keep her off too - and I'm not normally one for keeping them off.

kid · 21/11/2007 22:09

Thats a good point about if anything is worrying her. DD has been in tears several times today, we finally got it out of her that her friend doesn't want to be her friend anymore. A big problem if you are only 8 years old, but one which will blow over in a day or two.

PrettyCandles · 21/11/2007 22:11

Keep her off. It's not as if she has one day and then the weekend for a rest. The weekend willl be hard work and probably quite stressful - even more so than school would be.

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Katymac · 21/11/2007 22:17

That's what DH is saying

I worry that she is worrying but this is the child who didn't tell us she was being bullied for nearly 18m - I am hoping that it's a bit of stress about the comp rather than trouble at school

I wouldn't be 10 again for a big clock

She has moped around the house today being miserable, & falling asleep - & it was her birthday - poor sausage

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Tortington · 21/11/2007 22:19

i think you should send her in and if she is unwell school will call and you can pick her up.

perpetualworrier · 21/11/2007 22:23

I'd send her to school, miss the competition and make sure she had a restful weekend
(9 that's what it's for)- now running off to bed .

On a more helpful note how developed is she? A friend's 11 year old is going through all the stuff I did at 14 re mood swings etc.

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Katymac · 21/11/2007 22:25

Well she started her periods 6 months ago

Can't miss comp we have been working towards it for 15 months - it's the nationals (or something)

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Alambil · 21/11/2007 22:40

Keep her off... she is still not 100% and needs to be top-notch for the weekend. A few days off won't hurt her at all

imaginaryfriend · 21/11/2007 22:47

Keep her off. If she's so ill she's crying she needs to be at home.

tatt · 21/11/2007 22:49

if she wants to do the comp - and its not just you that wants her to do it - keep her off. Otherwise send her to schoola nd stuff the comp. Sounds like she may be stressed by it.

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Katymac · 22/11/2007 07:43

I don't want the comp - I have been a bit down on it from the start - she is desparate

I am seeing how she is this morning - I'm not waking her & if she wakes late and is OK, I will take her in late but if she is still weepy I won't (I think)

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lemonaid · 22/11/2007 08:33

I would keep her off. It's only one day and if she's still very tired and weepy I would say that she's not really better yet.

FrostyGlassSlipper · 22/11/2007 08:39

I would keep her off but have a real look at if this competition is worth it. Sounds like she has been ill but the stress is hindering her recovery. IMO

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Katymac · 22/11/2007 08:52

She is as white as a sheet and a bit shivery - so I guess she isn't over it yet

Off school (no guilt for me)

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tatt · 22/11/2007 10:47

has she seen a doctor? Sounds like she should be checked over.

themildmanneredjanitor · 22/11/2007 10:51

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tatt · 24/11/2007 08:52

If she went to the comp I hope it all went well and she's fine again now.

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Katymac · 26/11/2007 18:24

She slept all the way to Blackpool and did really well at the comp

Now after a day to recuperate she is feely better & begging to stay off school - so of course she will go in

If she ever works out I only let her stay off when she wants to go to school I will be stuffed

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DarthVader · 26/11/2007 18:33

Aaah, glad to hear she is back on form.
I remember a TV programme which said it was a nightmare to find boys to partner the girls in ballroom - do you have this problem?

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