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Favouritism or am I being petty?

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Toomuchthinking · 20/05/2014 12:53

I am quite annoyed by this, but am not sure whether to let it lie, or raise a concern. A while back Dd asked to have 2 spelling tests to learn during the holidays, she'd been ill and was 1 test below the top group. The teacher phoned me and lectured me on children being competitive and those 2 children in that group was consistently getting them right and so on, that they were older children and were way ahead of Dd and if she let her have the extra test then she was never to ask for extra spellings again.
When she came home she was upset, as she really likes the spelling test teacher and felt she was now angry with her!
Now firstly the 2 children are both governors children one in Dd class one in year above, secondly there was 1 test difference, but appreciate they can't make allowances for everyone, so either you do the test or don't.
I am now getting to my point, when the other 2 questioned Dd being on same test, the very next week she was only child in ks2 not to sit spelling test, as had to do extra singing for play! Hence now 1 test below again.
One of the other children was ill, and did a retest, and the other has just been out of school on family holiday, and was able to do 2 tests this week.
So is this one rule for children whose parents are governors, my child isn't blind she comes home telling me it isn't fair, and am trying hard to think of a way to reason this with her, but I totally agree with her on this one...
Sorry so long, just need some rational adviceBlush

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BitOutOfPractice · 21/05/2014 15:46

Sunshine, RTFT! The OP, only one post up from yours, said she's had a bit of a rethink!

Well it seems that a few days and me lecturing you (sorryI was quite strident - you caught me on a bad week! Blush ) has done the trick!

Honestly, pick your battles or you'll be up and down the school like a fiddler's elbow. And drive yourself bonkers. DH also need s to cool his guns a little too i think. Nobody wins in a spelling war!

It might be worth having a chat with DD that while you agree it seems unfair, it might not be all it seems and sometimes we have to unclench and let stuff pass.

I don't envy you having that woman to deal with. She sounds VILE! I think yuo're doing the right thing though, to avoid and rise above

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