DH not checked on me once TW abortion

[Guiltymumofthree]

Apologies that this isn’t in the correct topic however I’m extremely upset and just need a handhold.

Currently going through the process of a termination. I waited for DH to be on the way back from work until I took the pills so I could have some support.

Ive been teary all day as I knew today was the day.since he’s been back from work he’s sat downstairs all night and not checked on me once.

This is the man I’m marrried to and have 3 children with. I’m at the lowest point in my life and he’s sat downstairs watching tv.

I feel like I’ve just lost a family member my heart is broken and I have no one.

Im not going to beg him to console me but how can the man that is supposed to love me not even give me a hug or see if I’m ok.

@Bloopsie don't like abortions, don't get one. But not everyone feels the same and the choice is theirs to make. Mind your own business and don't be so cruel and use OPs pain to push your own agenda.

No. Take it elsewhere.

What does DFOD mean?

Do you think ramming your own personal beliefs down the OPs throat is in any way helpful? Go preach elsewhere, it's absolute vile.

Can you keep your forced birth shit off someone's support thread? You're like one of those arseholes that 'protests' outside clinics harassing women. Fuck off and don't have an ABORTION if you don't want one. It's not a dirty word.

OP, I hope you're feeling better now. Please do tell him you need support. And if he won't, do you have a friend who can support you?

Is it possible that he didn't really want you to terminate, OP? Not that this excuses him. It was presumably a decision made together, so he should be supporting you. Can you tell him how you feel? I'm sorry this has been made harder for you.

Perhaps its you who pushes your opinion onto others?

@Bloopsie nope, you're the one trying to shame OP for having a perfectly legal medical procedure.

@SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows DFOD - Do 'f' off dear.

I mean, I can't say I'm surprised that you've now shown you completely lack self awareness...

@Bloopsie no one in this situation is going to be helped by your opinion.

Pipe down. It's too late and you're venomous.

Plus side, OP, at least your thoughtless DH isn’t as bad as Bloopsie.

for you.

Maybe they are putting their other children first? Maybe they would struggle to feed them if they had a fourth? Stop with the pro life guilt.

Hope you’re ok op
Is dh usually this thoughtless?

Good grief, you are unspeakably vile.

Op, I hope you are OK.

OP I would hide this thread if I were you - it’s guaranteed to upset you. As MrsT said, tell him how you feel as he evidently doesn’t know. xx

I'm so sorry OP. What a callous selfish man.

I dunno, there’s not really a lot of info in your post.
You chose to have 3 kids with this guy, surely he’s not a selfish piece of shit?
Does he actually know you took it last night?
Did he think you were asleep and was leaving you to have some time?

I think cutting of your nose to spite your face was largely the hormones speaking. Going to your husband and letting them know ‘this is really shit’ isn’t begging for anything though.

I hope you managed to get some sleep OP and your DH stopped being selfish and thoughtless.

Anyway hope the rest of the night was okay in the end.
Did anything change with him or this morning?

Are you resting today?

Good advice.

What I say will not be popular, yet at least not in the same ballpark as Bloopsie’s vile piddle. I honestly believe most men are just born defective. If this was me, I have no doubt my DH would be exactly the same as OP’s. He’d be sitting there thinking it would be just like taking Panadol for a headache and would think he was just grand for not interrupting me watching Netflix. If I spelled out exactly what would be occurring physically and how I felt mentally/emotionally, he would be there in a shot, trying to help, checking, seeing what I need, making sure I was okay. But I would need to spell it out for him initially, without that, nope. He is supposedly bright and well educated and mature. Again, I believe they are just born somewhat defective in this regard.

It's not a child, it's an embryo and this is an awful thing to say to a person going through this.

OP ignore her.