Hi,
I'm 31 and my partner is nearly 32.
I found out 4 days ago that I'm pregnant ( approx 4 weeks and unplanned). I have been with my partner for over 2 years and we are strong and stable within our relationship. We have previously discussed not wanting more children. I have tried to get sterilized 3 times....been refused 3 times. I asked him to get a vasectomy but he didn't get round to it.
I was on the pill and if I missed 1 (happened 3 times over 2 years pill has 3 hour window and i missed that time slot) we either didn't have sex or used condoms until my next period.
So I am confused how this has happened as the last time I missed the pill we took precautions then I had a period. So I know I didn't miss a pill! :(
We have 5 children between us. I have 2 (with 2 exs) and he has 3 with his ex. They are all aged between 12 and 4.
In our conversations I have always said I would terminate. But now I'm in this situation I'm not sure if I can. I already feel the maternal bond with our baby. And it's hard as it's our baby....the man who I love and adore more than anyone. But, I feel bad as I have said before I didn't want another baby.
He feels confused because of those previous conversations. He has said he'd support me whatever i decide. And if I choose to keep the baby he will come to terms with my decision and he will be ok. I'm scared he won't. I'm scared he'll resent me and the baby.
I suffer with depression, anxiety and PTSD from a previous relationship. So he's worried about my mental health especially if I have an abortion.
He doesnt think I'd cope.
I'm not sure I would either. But I'm not sure I could cope with starting all over again.
Feeling upset and confused :(
Hoping to find some advice from people who have been in similar situations xxx
Ps...sorry for long post