I understand this may seem very insensitive to anyone who has been trying for a long time or suffered a miscarriage and I apologise if this thread upsets anyone.
We found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago and the shock has now worn off and reality set in.
We have been together 11 years and are both 28, we've just brought our first home and have done it up to nothing short of our dream home.
Now that we are settled and living life in our own home and have our own space my partner is starting to doubt if a baby would fit in our lives, neither of us have ever expressed a desire for children and being a mum wasn't something I saw in my future, but now I'm pregnant it all feels real. I have a high powered job that I don't know if I could take 9 months off from and walk back into, I worry I'll lose touch with the Industry and I've worked so hard to be here. My partner never learnt to drive (stupid really but because I could drive we never really needed him too) and so would need to learn super quick. And then there's the fact we have just used up 11 years worth of savings on our home and suddenly I feel a little out of control.
I made an appointment with bpas (who were so very lovely) but I cancelled it three days later because I'm so conflicted.
Any ladies out there give any advice on abortions or keeping a baby that might help me out? It feels like a massive decision that either way is going to impact what should be the start of our best years together.