20 week scan tomorrow - Do I or don't I find out the sex??!!

[pinktree]

ARH I just can't decide - help me!

This is my second dc and I did find out the first time.

It wasn't a disappointment knowing, it was lovely AND it was still a surprise meeting my baby boy!

I do however have a slight preference this time round....

Part of me feels like keeping the inlaws guessing as they've pretty much said they want a granddaughter! (they have 3 grandson's)

[frazzledoldbag34]

I'm not keen on surprises and prefer to know.
Didn't find out with DD1 although had amnio so was offered the choice - said no. Then spent the rest of the preg in a state of anxiety about whether it was a girl or not (I was really hoping for a girl).
Second time I found out, (wanted another girl and got one!). Didn't tell A SOUL. Not even DH. (He likes surprises).

Just remember that if you do find out, nobody needs to know. It's a lovely secret to keep!
(and funny when everyone goes 'yup, DEFINITELY a boy' with a knowing nod, and you think to yourself 'um, no, wrong!' whilst smiling sweetly.

Good luck
By the way if you do find out you have to tell US!

[lollyheart]

Did you find out?

[xJulesx]

My 20 week scan is in a couple of weeks time,
I really want to know the sex but partner is not sure, every one i mention it to says as long as the baby is healthy it shouldn't matter.
If i am honest with my self [like pinktree] i would love a girl as well so would partner.....
I agree with lauraloola best to find out and be prepared.

[lauraloola]

Did you find out??

[Eniddo]

no

[pinktree]

Hi everyone!

Sorry for not posting earlier my dh and I took full advantage of the rare afternoon off together so we wined (sort of..0.5% larger for me!) and dined and bought shoes!

Anyway we didn't find out! Was very tempting and it certainly wasn't obvious to us what sex bean is.

I do have my suspicions it's girl though so we shall see!

I'm very excited it will be SO different I think going through labor STILL not knowing.

Only down side is that when we went to a few shops after and looked at stupidly gorgeous baby outfits they all seem to be just blue or pink!

Thanks so much for all your advicex

[lauraloola]

I guess everything went ok at the scan? Well done for not finding out! Make sure you prepare yourself for a boy as well as a girl! I look forward to the birth announcement in a few months time

[dan39]

Maybe don't buy too many specific things- they do get it wrong! Imagine a whole fairy palace if its a boy really!

I personally hate the pink/blue (children, esp girls, are pigeonholed so much in their lives I hate the idea that it starts pre-birth) thing and tho we both know what we are having, we are telling everyone we don't as I REALLY like having a secret to ourselves!! (and \i am normally rubbish with secrets)

Having said that, I have a lovely secret thrill at cute (tho non-pink) girls stuff!

PS No offence at all intended to the pink fans out there btw!

[notnowbernard]

Don't do it!

It's like knowing the result of the FA cup final before watching the actual match!

But enjoy the scan whatever you decide, and congratulations

[notnowbernard]

Oops, just seen your last post

The excitement is fab and kept me going in labour

[dan39]

Ok so i had only read page one when I posted, missed the fact that you decided not to find out - well done!! You are SO right about the outfits tho - all one or the other, which must be a reflection on the growth of ple knowing beforehand.

Good luck with the rest of it and enjoy your speculation!!