20 week scan tomorrow - Do I or don't I find out the sex??!!

[pinktree]

ARH I just can't decide - help me!

This is my second dc and I did find out the first time.

It wasn't a disappointment knowing, it was lovely AND it was still a surprise meeting my baby boy!

I do however have a slight preference this time round....

Part of me feels like keeping the inlaws guessing as they've pretty much said they want a granddaughter! (they have 3 grandson's)

I'm not keen on surprises and prefer to know.
Didn't find out with DD1 although had amnio so was offered the choice - said no. Then spent the rest of the preg in a state of anxiety about whether it was a girl or not (I was really hoping for a girl).
Second time I found out, (wanted another girl and got one!). Didn't tell A SOUL. Not even DH. (He likes surprises).

Just remember that if you do find out, nobody needs to know. It's a lovely secret to keep!
(and funny when everyone goes 'yup, DEFINITELY a boy' with a knowing nod, and you think to yourself 'um, no, wrong!' whilst smiling sweetly.

Good luck
By the way if you do find out you have to tell US!

Did you find out?

My 20 week scan is in a couple of weeks time,
I really want to know the sex but partner is not sure, every one i mention it to says as long as the baby is healthy it shouldn't matter.
If i am honest with my self [like pinktree] i would love a girl as well so would partner.....
I agree with lauraloola best to find out and be prepared.

Did you find out??

no

Hi everyone!

Sorry for not posting earlier my dh and I took full advantage of the rare afternoon off together so we wined (sort of..0.5% larger for me!) and dined and bought shoes!

Anyway we didn't find out! Was very tempting and it certainly wasn't obvious to us what sex bean is.

I do have my suspicions it's girl though so we shall see!

I'm very excited it will be SO different I think going through labor STILL not knowing.

Only down side is that when we went to a few shops after and looked at stupidly gorgeous baby outfits they all seem to be just blue or pink!

Thanks so much for all your advicex

I guess everything went ok at the scan? Well done for not finding out! Make sure you prepare yourself for a boy as well as a girl! I look forward to the birth announcement in a few months time

Maybe don't buy too many specific things- they do get it wrong! Imagine a whole fairy palace if its a boy really!

I personally hate the pink/blue (children, esp girls, are pigeonholed so much in their lives I hate the idea that it starts pre-birth) thing and tho we both know what we are having, we are telling everyone we don't as I REALLY like having a secret to ourselves!! (and \i am normally rubbish with secrets)

Having said that, I have a lovely secret thrill at cute (tho non-pink) girls stuff!

PS No offence at all intended to the pink fans out there btw!

Don't do it!

It's like knowing the result of the FA cup final before watching the actual match!

But enjoy the scan whatever you decide, and congratulations

Oops, just seen your last post

The excitement is fab and kept me going in labour

Ok so i had only read page one when I posted, missed the fact that you decided not to find out - well done!! You are SO right about the outfits tho - all one or the other, which must be a reflection on the growth of ple knowing beforehand.

Good luck with the rest of it and enjoy your speculation!!