Could i be pregnant any midwives here ???

[Twinmumma32]

My last period was 3rd sept had sex 22nd sept in my fertile window but was anal but some leaked out nd was on vagina could i be pregnant because i havent come on yet im 2 days late boobs tender look darker lower back but have it general nd lower stomach pains and having brown show but noting more . Could i be ???

Yeah sure. But that's not what people are casting judgement on is it?

Anal sex can be pleasurable and safe for both men and women. People need to educate themselves before casting judgement.

It's mostly men though. (Who find it pleasurable.) Many women do not.

No-one needs to 'educate themselves' (patronising much?!) Many women have tried anal sex, and hated it. That's why there are so many comments against it on this type of thread. It's the man that generally gets all the pleasure. I am clearly talking about hetero relationships before anyone pipes up, as this is what the OP is on about.

@Twinmumma32 How on earth can anyone on here know if you are pregnant? As a pp said, do a test FGS. Not even a midwife on Mumsnet is going to know if you're pregnant!

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Well u have completely miss read the thread what my thread said was i had anal sex some hadnt all gone in some leaked down to vagina that didnt go in anal understand i didnt have anal then vagina straight after i aint that stupid god lol

Oh yeah, wouldn't advise double dipping but that's not what's happened here.

Not sure if you've quoted me in error..?

If you've done it lots of times that might explain why it leaks out now 😬

Yep, take a test FFS.

@lololulu do you really want to know?!

Not sure why so many people are so anti-anal. Gay men have been having sex this way for centuries (if not longer) and they are not all incontinent or injured. I did only anal for years and my bumhole is absolutely fine. There are two sphincters, both designed for solids not liquid, so if you have liquid in between the two and your muscles are relaxed it may leak out. It doesn’t mean you have a bumhole problem, it’s just what happens when you have anal sex.

OP the chances of getting pregnant close to the start of your period from semen (probably mixed with lube) on the outside of your vagina are very slim. If you are worried about pregnancy you will probably be very focussed on how your body feels and notice period symptoms more than normal. But no one here can tell you for sure, you will need to either test or wait for your period

As some of the risks of anal sex are tears to the anus, hemorrhoids and faecal incontinence I think lots of us will give it a miss. And getting semen near the vagina, not actually in the vagina, might result in pregnancy.

Gross thread. Take a pregnancy test. No one can tell you here.

This thread has some very childish responses, if you clicked it and thought the leaking comment was gross then fair enough but what would possess you to actually write it? Anal can be pleasurable for women and there's nothing wrong with doing it if you choose to - you're most likely to dislike it when you succumb to pressure and aren't relaxed vs it being a fully consensual choice.

OP I'd suggest just taking a test, you can get pregnant with semen leaking but the chances are low. Tender breasts could just be down to your period being due.

Thank god someone else said it. Never felt the need with my dh.

Is this how so many women on system one have anal fissures in their history?

Tescos opened at 10am. Get a test. Do test. If no period and negative repeat every day. If brown discharge and pain see out of hours that you don’t have an Infection from cross contamination.

I wouldn’t have sex with my husband that I had to get checked regularly for STI’s!

"I wonder if the judgemental people in here would tell a gay man he's 'gross' for the way he has sex too"

Doubt anything leaks into his vagina afterwards though. Grim

Come on.
The OP isn’t the only one who can’t take contraception.
Any hormone based contraceptive makes me severely depressed . And the copper coil was painful (think endometriosis pains all throughout the cycle).

So no, I haven’t used any contraception since my late 30s.

Its not unusual and doesn’t require ‘specialists put’

FGS just take a test: how can anyone here tell you, midwife or otherwise

Exactly what I was thinking!

I'm a midwife.

I can't tell over the internet if you're pregnant.

Nobody can. Take a test.

Oh and OP.

My DH and I don't get STI tested because we trust one another.

@Motnight

I don't understand?

with threads like this i always wonder if they’ve taken a test and it hasn’t told them the result they wanted to hear.

You do realise that gay men aren’t one homogeneous group don’t you?