Let's talk about sex... drive...

[LJEva]

Be honest, who's sex drive has gone through the roof and who's has dropped through the floor of absolutely no interest at all?

I've found after many months of trying to conceive at every opportunity, early morning sickness, tiredness and just feeling a bit podgy mine has disappeared!

I keep reading articles about increased libido in the second trimester and laughing...

Mine goes in waves.
Last pregnancy I had about a month where it was high but this time around it's either high or non existent!

I had a really high sex drive

My drive is stronger than my DH's atm! I'm 37w. He doesn't cope well on little sleep and I often accidentally wake him up by going to the loo (3x a night on average). But I'm totally up for it esp now he's been working out so much during lockdown and has got all hunky hehe. Still all in all it hasn't been that often and tbh I'm sometimes a bit sore and tender down there from all the bump weight pushing on my crotch. (Also got mild pgp which doesn't help)

But yeah, in first and second trimester I wasn't really feeling it, I had morning sickness till around 20w+ or so, can't remember exactly when it stopped but it lasted ages.

1st trimester - wasn't even on my mind, was too exhausted. Week 14-18 it was pretty high, but now I am 26 weeks it's non existent again. It's a bit up and down...or rather all or nothing 😂

Thanks for the honesty ladies I thought maybe I was the exception for a minute... I’m hoping it will return shortly as I’m missing it but my body just isn’t interested at all 😂

I’d much rather have a quick wank than sleep with DP right now.

Well I’m now 29 weeks and my libido went out the window around week 8 and hasn’t returned haha! Been waiting for the sudden onset of urges but nothing...poor DH

Non existant here... 36+5 and think we have had sex 3 times at a push since found out I was pregnant

39 week pregnant here and I don't think we've had sex for the past 6 weeks or more.
I've had little sex drive throughout and can't even blame it on feeling like shit as I've felt great
We'll be having it soon though to try and set things off so that'll be interesting ha.

Mine has been zero since BFP in December!

I had sex twice after getting a positive test - i felt awful and couldn't face it. Back in the saddle 4weeks after DD was born and all normal again now.

V low sex drive in 1st trimester, normal in 2nd, however now in 3rd trimester and its through the roof! I constantly think about sex and feel turned on to the point it's annoying! Always pestering DP atm, but he's enjoying it anyway as his sex drive is usually higher than mine.

Currently 24 weeks...zero sex drive since 6 weeks 😢

20 weeks and think we’ve had sex 3 times since I found out.

I just don’t feel sexy in the slightest.

Mine was just normal but has completely vanished since giving birth 4 months go... starting to get worried now as mine was always high

Lost my sex drive completely since BFP. I normally have a high sex drive but can't think of anything worse right now (28 weeks)

@PawPatrolMakesMeDrink

I’d much rather have a quick wank than sleep with DP right now.

100% this 🤣

I have a higher drive than DH anyway but I’ve been saucy as hell all the way through (26wks now)... BUT! I have had absolutely no motivation or intention to sate my hornyness with my DH lol, can’t be arsed with that at all.

I think we did it twice before 13 weeks and didn’t bother again. I had random bleeding so we were both paranoid about going too far in and he was quick so it was a bit crap.

I was put on total pelvic rest at 20weeks as I have a few risk factors going on. Much more upset that I can’t have a wank when I am miserable than anything else 😂👍

Mine is higher than usual but struggling to find anything to do about it as I prefer to go on top but last time we did this the lower part of my bump ached all day the next day and it totally put me off trying again (I'm 32 weeks)

I wank all the time 😂 30 w

Up and down. Absolutely nothing in the first trimester - too sick and tired. More up for it in the second but it’s still low compared to what it was. I’ve decided it is what it is and I’m not stressing about it!

No drive here.... 36 weeks and we are in single digits.

Ok, so, mumsnet is a safe space right (I would be too shy to ask a Q like this to someone I know IRL) so... how do you have a wank when you never have the house to yourself during lockdown?? I think my DH and I are prob a bit silly and old fashioned but we never do that unless the other person is away. (Don't judge lol!) We also never lock bathroom doors if we're in the shower or bath, so the other can just pop in and grab something from the cabinet etc. ??? How to get around this? Because I like some PPs have a higher drive than my DH atm. I think it's partly because I'm SO heavily pg atm that he sort of subconsciously doesn't want to break me haha.

@flameprincess I'm exactly the same but we've worked out that lying sideways (facing each other, him in a leg sandwich) worked ok and I still had some control.
This thread is such a relief haha, I don't really have anyone IRL I can discuss this stuff with

(The female friend I usually discuss this kind of thing with, she asked me the other day, you're still having sex?! Not judgemental but kind of amazed and fascinated, she's never been pg. I was embarrassed and dropped the subject )