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Got to tell someone!!!

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alexsmum · 03/09/2002 00:37

I can't keep a secret..I have to tell someone this.Dh and I have decided to try for number 2.Part of me feels really giddy and excited and part of me feels really nervous and unsure.Its such a hard decision to make!!!
It took a long time to concieve ds, nearly 2 years.Anyone know what the likelihood of that happening again is??
The alternative(getting pg really quickly) is an equally scary scenario!!!!!
Anyway,just wanted to tell someone!!

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Azzie · 03/09/2002 06:18

Good luck, Alexsmum! My ds was an accident, so when we decided to try for no. 2 I had no idea how long it would take (i.e. was ds a total fluke or an accident waiting to happen). Although dd was a totally planned baby (and I fell pg immediately), I still went through the whole range of emotions from delight to sheer panic when I was pg with her. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you - having 2 children is hard work but absolutely brilliant.

PamT · 03/09/2002 06:51

Having a baby is a big committment and just as you get used to having one child, having another makes a big difference to lots of things in your life, so its hardly surprising that you feel nervous. Your body has carried one baby now, so it may well be more prepared and ready to carry another, I don't think it follows that if the first is difficult to conceive so will any subsequent ones - lots of people have been caught out this way. I was very fortunate and became pg within the first month that I tried on all 3 occasions, I think both DH and I must be ultra fertile!

Anyway, good luck and have fun with the babydancing!

Joe1 · 03/09/2002 08:46

Good luck Alexsmum and how exciting. I too went through all those feelings when we decided to go for No2, now just waiting for the last few weeks to go and cant wait. Cant help regarding the conceiving time as I too fell straight away both times.

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bayleaf · 03/09/2002 10:14

Best of luck - it certainly isn't automatic that because it took a while last time it will this time - I know at least 2 friends who took 18 months first time and did it by accident/very quickly the second time.
If you havent' already then do lok on tcoyf.com ( taking charge of your fertility) which is a mine of information ( doesn't seem to be helping me much at the moment - but I live in hope!) and full of lots of things that I wish I'd known first time around!

JaneyT · 03/09/2002 10:25

alexsmum - we took forever to conceive dd1, and hence started trying for dd2 when dd1 was 7 mns - and UNBELIEVABLY I got pregnant straight away - hence they are only 16 mns apart - couldn't believe it at the time - everyone assumed it was unplanned - but then they didn't know how long it took with dd1 !

emilys · 03/09/2002 12:24

good luck alexmum.

i am finding being p/g with no. 2 a lot more scary than no. 1 there's a whole new load of factors to deal with - but of course no complaints. I love the way we talking about 'trying for ....' what a task it is!!!

jenny2998 · 03/09/2002 22:02

Good luck

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alexsmum · 03/09/2002 22:47

Lol Emilys!! Trying is such a chore! To be honest I think the only reason that dh is so keen on the idea of another is the thought of all the trying!!
Thank you all for your thoughts and good wishes!
I have made a mistake though I think in buying myself a copy of a book called 3 socks ,2 shoes and no hairbrush, which to be quite frank has scared the beejeesus out of me!! I was quite relieved to read on another thread that other people have read it and found it very negative.
She says she didn't leave the house alone with her 2 children until the baby was nearly one(huh?) and that she went through a phase were she felt like didn't love her first born anymore.The idea of that horrifies me as I am absolutely passionate about about ds and we have a very close affectionate relationship.If I'm going to lose that then I really don't want to go ahead.
Is it just me or does it seem like a much bigger thing than going ahead with number one?

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jenny2998 · 03/09/2002 23:11

You will love no 2 although not in the same way as no1. I don't mean you'll love him/her any less, it's just different. In some ways ds was very easy to love because he was so easy - as I said, dd wasn't easy. But I love her just as desperately.

I haven't read the book myself, but from what I've heard it sounds like utter bs Imagine not going out for a year! I was told by the registrar when I went to register dd that I should still be resting - she was only two days old! It's just not fair on no1 not to get out and do things. You do have to be a little more organised...but not much. You just adapt and cope don't you.

EmmaM · 06/09/2002 11:26

Someone just came up to me and asked me if I was expecting (its OK, because I am!) - anyway, this is the first time its happened, so I must obviously now look pregnant and not just fat! Feel a bit chuffed.

nics1stbaby · 06/09/2002 11:29

Isn't it great EmmaT! How far gone are you? I'm 33 weeks and only started showing 10 weeks ago, although I had already gained a layer all over! .. I was so chuffed when a stranger commented!! Before that I used to hold my belly so people would assume I was pregnant!!

nics1stbaby · 06/09/2002 11:30

Ooh - sorry, meant EmmaM!!

Enid · 06/09/2002 12:19

Good luck Alexsmum! Dp was thrilled by the idea of trying, unfortunately for him I fell pregnant within a month or two of trying both times (well, three including sad m/c).

I think its a lovely time when you've decided to go for it again, go out and buy some sexy underwear and have fun...ooh, those days seem so far away

EmmaM · 06/09/2002 12:37

Thanks Nic. I'm only just coming up to 14 weeks, but it is my 2nd. I'm quite a small person and so far it seems to be all bump. Also, I'm convinced I can feel the occasional flutter.

Good luck Alexsmum. It took nearly 9 months to conceive our first, but the 2nd happened practically straight away.

slug · 06/09/2002 13:46

If it's a boy, will you call him Romeo?

EmmaM · 06/09/2002 15:55

Erm. No. However, keep thinking of ridiculous names just to see if anyone thinks I'm serious. DH came up with Chutney for a boy and Piccalilli for a girl. There was a poll on the Times website about the most silly celebrity child name and Moon Unit was winning, Romeo was just ahead of Peaches.

nics1stbaby · 06/09/2002 16:09

Oh, it's so exciting EmmaM.

p.s. This is my first, and I am convinced I felt a flutter at 15 weeks!

Tillysmummy · 06/09/2002 16:09

Congrats nics1stbaby. It probably was.

ionesmum · 06/09/2002 21:48

nics1stbaby . It's great, isn't it?

jenny2998 · 06/09/2002 22:19

ooooh the joys of pregnancy. I am sooooooooooo broody

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alexsmum · 07/09/2002 15:11

We're off to Paris next week around the time that I will be ovulating(not planned that way!!)so if I concieve sraight away I did say to dh that we should call the baby Paris but I got short shrift with that one!!!!!
I think Romeo is such a silly name.It doesn't even go with Beckham..atleast Brooklyn goes with their surname.
I like really classic names that sound good for children but are nice for adults too.Don't you think it will be funny in 50 years or whatever when children are talking about grandad Romeo or nana Kylie.All these old people called things like phoenix chi and fifi trixibelle (which I think is far sillier than peaches!!).Isn't Jonathan Ross's daughter called Betty Kitten?
Anyway ramble ramble .Please excuse my stream of inanity!!!
This probably sounds a bit pathetic but I'm really excited!!!!

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SofiaAmes · 07/09/2002 15:29

My son was conceived in Vietnam and we spent a good part of the pregnancy annoying the family by saying that if it was a boy we would call him Saigon. I don't know what the fuss was about....we could have been threatening to call him HoChiMin City!!!
We named him Giovanni after my grandfather instead.

clary · 10/09/2002 16:51

Alexmum, good luck and hope it goes well. Don't panic about having two and not loving them both. Somehow love expands magically to fill the whole house and you love them both so so much that it hurts...Yes, it is different with two than with one, but I honestly don't think it is as much of a change as none to one! which you have managed ok, haven't you? That stupid book two socks etc is totally ridiculous as I have said elsewhere, agree with jenny you have to get out and get on or you'd all go potty. Feel angry that people can make money out of writing such drivel (mind you, it's what I do for a living LOL)

deegward · 17/09/2002 18:45

We too are pregnant with no 2. Took us an age to fall this time, were refered to clinic on thursday, adn found out pregnant on the Monday - Is that a record for the clinic. Harder this time around as have toddler so very tiring. I am already wearing mat clothes and have for about four weeks, only 13 weeks now!

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