Need some advice please

[Lovemybabiessomuch]

Hi I'd like some advice so I have 3 children one dd thats 12 years another dd thats 2 turning 3 in december and a ds thats 1 and four months and Tuesday just passed I've found out that I'm pregnant which is a shock as me and my partner use contraception, so this is where I need advice I told my partner I'm pregnant he said he doesn't want anymore and he wants me to get a abortion he said I can do want I want but If I keep it he's not sticking around I really don't know what to do or think I told him it's ok for him to say that as his body isn't going through all of this I'm already feeling sicky and tired please help

Tested and totally negative! Oh well 😔

Oh what a shame I thought the same when I found out though as I took the test and it went straight negative I put it on the side and went back to it about 5 minutes later and it had a faint second line so I went and got a clear blue test and it said 2 to 3 weeks but since that I spoke to the midwife and she said I'm further gone I'm now 7 weeks 2 days xxx

7 weeks? Oh my goodness and exciting.

I'm 2 days late and definitely negative, not even a hint of a line or shadow 😭

@Michellebops yes I know it's all gone rather fast can't get my head round it yet got major baby brain too and aww I'm guttered for you hun it will happen soon sure but with you only being 2 days late it might be a little early to test yet xxx

That should of said it will happen soon I'm sure xxx

Thank you. I honestly don't think it will. I'm
Too old now. I had a laparoscopy last month and hoped it had cleared me out. I fell pregnant this time last year after same op

I have a 3 year old already and can cope if there's not to be another.

@Michellebops aww bless you I'm hopeful for you and I have a 2 year old will be 3 on Dec 23 she's in the terrible two stage at the minute have you got a little boy or girl ? Xx

I have a girl. She's fab. Really well behaved and no trouble at all.

Childminder and others tell me I'm very lucky.

Still no sign of period. Now 4 days late!

I think you should get another test maybe a clear blue one and awww bless her my little ones crazy around me but everyone says oh she so well behaved typical haha xxxx

It arrived tonight after work 😭😭😭

Totally gutted and disheartened x

@Michellebops aww sweetness I'm so sorry generally really guttered for you but you never know what the future has instore babe chin up chest out xxxx

Thank you xx

Your welcome my lovely xx

@Michellebops how are you lovely ? Xxx

Hiya, yeah I'm not too bad. Got an appointment with my consultant today following a laparoscopy last month.

Fingers crossed this is my month 🤞

How are you doing? How's things at home? X

@Michellebops that's good news then hun and yes this month's your month lovely and not to good he kicked off again the other night told me he don't want this 9lne having his last name and that he still don't want it the night before he had a few to many with his friend and told me to go and drink a bottle of gin and have a hot bath then this morning he starting saying he wants me to book in with the abortion clinic again and obviously I said I can't do that he said well just to let you know I won't be treating this one the same God I've had enough of him going on xxx

I don't mean to be rude but he sounds a total dick!

Yeah it's not by choice but he's still partly responsible.

I'd be telling him he doesn't deserve this one to have his name and you'll be applying to have the others changed to your name.

Obviously these are just my opinion and you have to do what's best for you mr family unit xx

@Michellebops no your not being rude I actually agree I don't know where this has came from he's never been like this i really don't get it.
What annoys me more is he'll go a few days and not say a thing so I'll think he's getting his head around it then out the blue he'll just kick off I really don't get it xxx

It's 22.10 just came to bed and the morning sickness has kicked in fell like I'm on a bloody boat motion sickness and sea sickness all in one

Oh no! I never had any sickness with either of my pregnancies (very lucky I know) hope it doesn't last too long 🙏🏻

@Michellebops withy two girls I was so sick to the stage of my second little girl sent me to hospital with dehydration as I couldn't hold anything downy little boy just made me feel sicky like how I feel now flavoured water seems to settle it 8 weeks and a day today xxx

🤞 it passes.

Have you had your booking appointment yet? Xx

No its the 6th of Aug hun xx

@Lovemybabiessomuch how are you doing?

@Michellebops I'm ok thanks bad nausea though 9 weeks today how are you? Xx