Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

notsoold miscarriages don't happen because you get upset. You know this anyway and easy for me to say but try and remain positive. Stressing will not change the outcome but it will make you feel like shite. How long do you have to wait till your scan?

notsoold midgetm is right - its impossible not to get upset with all the preg hormones anyway - I had some very 'hormonal' episodes in the early weeks and 12 week scan showed everything was fine. I really hope you get reassurance too

FF any news...?

exexe I liked your sister's wave analogy - sounds comforting

Great scan news this week. I hope the luck holds - my big 20 week scan's coming up. Don't mind if its a girl or boy, although I have more girl names on my list so far. I can really feel the baby moving now - it just had a little kick! Or was it more wind...?

Ladies
Sorry I have been silent for a couple of days, have been reading your posts and very glad for every one re good news scans, I will catch up soon.
Just wanted to let you know that I am now back at my Mum's, in Paris. Journey on Eurstar was smooth with DS1 behaving very nicely. Weather is warm and dry. Cherry tree has loads on fruits waiting for my DS1 to collect and eat. Mum looks happy to see us. DS1 has given her lots of cuddles... All is good except that we miss Daddy though !
Also work is over, officially on maternity leave at 34weeks +4. Meeting my obstetrician tomorrow and MW, registering at the clinic on Sat.

Notsoold, enjoy your pg, don't get upset.
Fjord, I wish I could be as serene as you are re childbirth
FF you seem to have some very nice relaxing time too, how is the cervix today ?
Seaside, could certainly be baby moving, this is exciting, isn't it ?
LRM, Exexe, midget, lovely to hear from you. I am sure I missed some other great mums, apologies, I cannot scroll back....

Greetings from Paris to all

Midgetm thanks for your reassurance.yes I do know that...my scan is on the 28th june...
By the seaside episodes is a good way to describe it.
Hpbp thanks....
Thank you for listening....
Tomorrow will be another day....
Night all

Hi Notsoold Just to back up what everyone else says - try not to worry. Stay positive. Worrying is almost always counterproductive.

bytheseaside when is your acan coming up?

Hpbp Yay for being at your mums. at warm and dry weather and cherry tree.

bythyeseaside ocviously I mean scan!

knotty sorry - you got left on the other page. Great news about your scan. It makes it feel so real after that.

FF that has set off a craving. Not long to go now, good luck.

HPBP hope the move was smooth and you get all the help you need for the next few months from your mum and the French HCP.

EXE, Knotty, Midget, congratulations on scans.

Notsoold, if stress meant miscarriage, my eggs would be shrivelled up by now and there would be no baby! Good luck at scan.

Bytheseaside, good luck with the 20 week scan.

I had my comined blood/NT results today and everything is low risk. Hurray.

Paris in the summer, how jealous are we all ladies, good to hear you have started your Mat leave Hpbp enjoy the rest oh and that cherry tree. I have one but have a vision yours looks much better in the sunshine then mine all wet and windy swept. By hey ho ladies we could be sweating up a storm and dragging our baby bodies around in the heat which would be a bummer.

notsoold - Hard not to worry about things isnt it ? Try and relax and do things that you enjoy this next week to help you relax as much as possible and when the horrible night demons come into your head push them out as they suck worse then the day ones. Thinking of you .

Exexe- Yeh team pink, glad your scan went well, I got a blurry photo on one shot as well. I took it to work and showed a few people and watched their reactions to try and make it out . Hahaha . Blokes are so funny with scans, they are oh and ah and look at that ( which means I have no clue what the hell I am looking at and dont want to say ) .Did show go pictures after.

Knotty - glad your scan went well always honey

fjord - Thanks for the positive message about childbirth, I will go with the flow and keep your thoughts in my head oh and the drugs got to have the drugs !!

Midget - How are thing with you chuck

Whatname - Dizziness seems to only happen when I sit down at work, very random I know, but feel fine now. Taking some nuts to work and nibbling on them every now and then to keep the energy levels up

FF - Is today the day ?xxxxx

Day off for me and just cleaned the house from top to toes and ready for some lunch and a good hand full of biscuits. Midwife Friday for a chat, going to ask her about classes and stuff. I have been very lucky so far no really issues, just tired but thats ok as I love my bed
Little Dylan is standing up in womb and pushing all the sides out to make some more space this morning. Every day there is something new. Cant believe 25 weeks has already gone it is so fast.

hpbp ah Parisian life with cherry tree sounds idyllic! I'm picturing you with a very chic maternity wardrobe. You probably said this already, but are you french? Or is it just that your mum lives there? glad you dc are enjoying it already

exexe my scan is tomorrow - eek! Don't know what I'll do if we have bad news, but I seem to be taking things a day at a time for now which helps stop the panic. Today I'm just pleased baby is kicking and my bp is ok-ish

lrm you have a day off from your hard job and you spend it cleaning? Get yourself out to a cafe! That's what I'm doing later - i'm going to find somewhere with excellent cake then I'll watch the boats go by for a bit.

whatname great nt results! bet its a big relief

My dp still doesn't really want to find out the gender at tomorrow's scan although he agreed we can as he knows I really want to. I feel a bit guilty though - this pregnancy really is all about me so far .... all my decisions, my choices. I think he'll change his mind when he knows, though. Last night he felt the baby kick - I think it felt all a bit more real for him then too - quite a touching moment :)

bytheseaside I've heard some people ask the sonographer to write the gender on a piece of paper and pass it on. That way only you need to look at it.

I'm bleeding, I've had bleeding in all my pregnancies, but not this much.

I have to be honest and say I have been ambivalent at times about this pregnancy, but now I realise how much I want this baby.

I'm panicking, big style.

:(. I have a really bad feeling.

Would be sods law after the clear NT results this morning.

Oh poor whatname I do hope all is well. How much is it, and what colour, and any pains? I bled bright red but not much, with cramps at 18 weeks, so it does not always mean a loss. Have you called triage?

Its bright bright red,I haven't rung yet, I've just sent DH to buy pads so i can get an idea of how much.

You'd think Id be used to it and not feel so paniced. It happens every time.

No pain.

So I guess if this pregnancy lasts, its consultant led care for me hey!

hold my hand thread

Its difficult to update 2.

You will panic each time, no matter how many times it happens. You are human, you have feelings, and you hope to have a baby. Good there is no pain, but I understand you being somewhat alarmed. I guess only time will tell. Triage will not be able to do anything at this stage. Make sure you rest as much as you can, stay off work tomorrow, and give them a call - perhaps they could do a reassurance scan, and identify the cause of the bleed.

Thinking of you and your precious little one.

How many weeks are you now?

13 weeks, exactly.

I feel bad because I have been really worried about what everyone will say, how DC will react, etc, money, work, so on, I havent taken much time to enjoy being pregnant.

Our lives are so stressful, and I cant face this one thing going wrong on top of everything else.

This is Baby Hope (despite DHs objections and unless its a boy!!), it is our ray of light at the end of a dark tunnel.

Im not in work, so no issues there, and this is one of DHs rare weekends off, so I can keep feet up.

Whatsname

So sorry you are having this awful time. I've also bled in both my successful pregnancies so fingers crossed it works out the same for you. I was convinced at 16 weeks it was all over but I was wrong and there was never any explanation for mine. Cling on to that bit of hope (also on our list of names for similar reasons) got everything crossed for you.

If positive thoughts could travel the interweb mine would be crawling out your modem about now.

Im going to do some reading now, try to think about something else, thanks Midget and VQ, will update in morning.

I never paniced before, being over 40 with all the horror stories, hmm.

whatsname thinking of you honey xxx

Whatname, take care my love, thinking of you xxx

Thinking of you whatname...

Lol to Christmas Knickers.

It appears to have turned into browner stuff rather than bright red - and the pad is clean.

Will ring the midwives when they open this morning. See what they think.

I cant be losing her now - it just wouldn't be fair.

Thanks again everyone x

Hope it's all OK for you Whatname. Thinking of you this morning xx

whatname brown is good. No pain is good. You are pregnant today. Repeat like mad lady x