Still brooking no argument whatsoever that these babies are happy, healthy and awesome for 2013 too.

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eh. attempt at new thread. yo.

I've been trying to express for tomorrow and absolutely nothing is coming out. I've tried both pumps, the manual one and the electric one and nothing. What the hell is going on? I even tried putting M on one boob and pumping from the other but nothing came out.

Stress? Perhaps being stressed about it has not helped? Sorry that's really not helpful is it...

DH is all 'I'll just go and buy some formula tomorrow' while I mentally flagellate myself for not starting earlier. In fact, DH was all 'she doesn't need milk, I'll just feed her solids' until I pointed out that milk is her main source of fluid atm because she doesn't drink much water.

Sit and read a book and/or flick through baby photos on phone or computer. Check pump all connected ok. Do not panic! I am working early tomorrow and have failed to express.
Am feeding R now and flapping a bit.

First post from my new phone :-D

Thanks, Jaggy, will try that now I've calmed down a bit! FX...

Send him for some formula as back up too . Think of drinking hot tea, and breathe

I'm having a flap. I'm exhausted, s was a bit croupy last night, normally unflappable dh got worried, to the point of pounding upstairs and waking him up when his breathing was particularly bad. Clearly we then had a horrendous night. Today I've barely managed. Huge argument with dh (my fault for being irritable and horrible) . Poor s cannot sleep now. I'm stressing because the nanny has given her notice in on Friday, stating the job is too exhausting, she's "a zombie" on Saturday (she only comes Wed and Fri) plus her husband got a promotion so they don't need the money so much, plus she's doing some studying and says she doesn't have enough time for it (she's talked about he course before but never said she's got loads of work due or anything). I barely managed to not say try doing it all day every day while never sleeping more than two hours- if you're lucky. I've calmed down now but not looking forward to no help very soon.

Sorry, me me me :(

raaboo, how are you feeling?

Aw Dream that's totally rubbish. :( Can you look for another nanny? Is she stopping straight away? Really hope S is better and you get a decent chunk of sleep tonight .

Too any luck with the expressing? It's harder at this time of day, I think. But formula won't hurt her, so might be useful to have some as backup anyway. How old is M now? She'll soon be on cow's milk, won't she? Good luck with work tomorrow!

Oh no Dream. Has she agreed to work some notice to give you a bit of time to look for someone else? Lol at her saying its exhausting. Er yeah, that's the reason you employed her! I hope you get a better night tonight. Poor S, is there anything they can take for croup or is it yet another virus?

I'm sure you'll be fine at work tomorrow Too. DD will also be fine. Definitely get some formula in as back up though, it's reassuring to have while you're not there even if you think you have left enough BM.

She's 4 weeks notice to work but with leave owing think she will be here 2 or 3 weeks tops. I don't know what we will do, it'll depend whether I get this career break too (they're interviewing on the 10th, so should know soon). Don't know if we will stump up again, or try and go for less hours... If i had Fri afternoon it'd be better, mornings are doable but DD dropped her nap but is such hard work in the afternoon, too tired to cope- you know the one. We're haemorraging money atm though.

S sounds less croupy tonight, we hope, and more generally miserable. If he got bad it is very treatable with steroids, so at least that's something.

Ah, back to the baby...

Am sure you'll be able to express some tomorrow am and tonight as well. Sorry for being deeply unhelpful earlier.

Still feeling totally rotten and the nanny isn't coming tom after I'd texted her on Fri, called on sat then she'd sent a humphy one back saying she would def be here tom. She's then sent a further text today at 2.30 saying she won't be here tom after all and can I switch my work days around. Anyone else think this is taking the piss a bit esp after last week when she sent a text at 18.30 on ny day to say she wouldn't be here the following morning? Her grandad was taken to hosp and unfort died last week so I really feel for her but Gah I need to have some notice to make other arrangements.

Yes, its incredibly irritating raaboo as how many jobs can you switch days at short notice?! No helpful advice though...

Fortunately I can do it without too much issue but it makes me look crap. And I can't even really be pissed off with her properly as a family member died!

dream I know you said you didn't fancy it but have you thought again about your dd going to nursery? Might she like it? Socialising and all that? Hmm on second thoughts you mentioned mega separation anxiety so prob not a plan. What about an a level student or uni student looking for a bit of extra work? Or a nursery worker looking for a few extra hours. We have teaching assistants from DS1's school who do afterschool nannying or babysitting for extra cash.

There's been a sneeze birth on the ante-natal thread. Very exciting news...

Hello everybody! Merry Christmas! Happy new year!

Sorry for being so idle, I have being so busy it is bonkers. Catch up on me; My coursework is limping along, my established bf group is going well ( outed myself... Nice one ;) ) we have 7 teeth, we have had a month of both children being ill and I almost expired due to sleep deprivation! Dd has a sleep regression going on, waking up twice a night and finding it hard to sleep. I am not sure about going back to work and may become a Saturday girl just so I am out of the house for a few hours a week.

Can u please add me to this fb group? It is about the only thing I keep up with Internet wise :(

I have missed you all tremendously! I will try and catch up I just wanted to post before life interfered :)

scream sorry to hear about your marriage troubles :( the first year can be so tough with a baby and that can cause problems, however it can also highlight issues too :(

Anyone give me an update on what has been going on? I ha e been away aggeees!

Purple, lovely to see you! I was talking about you only the other day- were your ears burning? If you message me your real name and/or a link to your FB profile I can add you?

Too, ing for you. I find it hard to express in the evenings - or at all now. It does get easier the more regularly I do it though? M will be fine :-) And you'll express loads at work.!

roobaa (cant scroll back on the app to see if I've got that right!) That's rubbish :-( Tricky, too. I guess you've now given her some flexibility, so she should be as helpful as she can in return? difficult..

Dream, so rubbish about the Nanny. Hope you can find a suitable replacement. Crossing fingers for the interviews too - how soon will you hear? Fingers crossed you have a better night tonight...

Transfer time..

Messaged you :O

I did see my mention and was a bit :( as it was all past tense sniff sniff however I will not claim to be a guru

I have caught up a bit, too get your galactagogues down you ;) if pumping with a pump, try 5 mins on each side and take a break when your frustrated.

roobaa I don't know who you are :/

dream maybe it is a sign that your dream nanny is just around the corner? What is this about interviews though? :)

Ah purple lovely to see you - have namechanged. Am an old regular with the oldest brooking baby who just turned one! Won't say my old nn as that would defeat the object of my change.

Feeling a bit better today but git a day with the dynamic duo so hopefully that won't cause a massive regression...

Oooh, hello Purple! So lovely to hear from you!

Am posting on phone from bus so will be short. Dream and Rah, oh no re nannies! Talk about leaving you in the lurch.

I got up early and expressed half a bottle. Came out without my pump in the end though - it needed washing and I was late and stressed. I'll scope out bf room today and take pump tomorrow. I do have breast pads in so hopefully will be ok.

stacks I would try and latch 'properly', it may sting for the First few seconds of the latch but the dimpled cheeks are a concern alongside a strong suck, I would be looking for a high arched/bubble palate if I was seeing you irl.

To help with the latch while attached, I wold be moving baby's lips if needed, so pulling the bottom one down and the top one so it was flanged out.

raaboonah I got ya :) 1 I can't believe, except I can when I realise H is nearly 10mo!

too great news on the expressing :) you can always hand express? If you become too uncomfortable :)

I have my first session of a core rehab course today as part of my physio and I am abit nervous :/ I have a busy day today and not much sleep so coffee is going to be needed! I need to buy some trousers to exercise in too :/

Hello. Posting while expressing as usual.

Already had coffee as i had a 6am start on

hurrah for ds being at school and dp being at work, life is slowly returning to normal
dream very sorry to hear about your nanny, I really hope things work out, sounds like a stressful few weeks ahead of waiting to see what happens. How's the dairy challenge going? Have you started it yet?
rah I would also be really pissed off with a nanny doing that (although as you say with a family member dying it's kind of difficult to be angry). I think it's very unprofessional to give such short notice. Surely the reason you have a nanny is because you don't have any alternative childcare?
Lovely to see you purple, sounds like you've been busy! I often find fb is easier to catch up on than here although have just downloaded the android talk app for mn so hopefully that will make it easier.
If he keeps being windy you could try infacol or similar stacks? It really helped with ds when he was little.
Has anyone else lost their child benefit with the recent changes? I had to fill in the online form yesterday so won't get it from now on It really is terrible the way they have decided to do it. Between me and dh we have an annual income of around £70k (60k of which dp earns) which sounds all well and good but we live in greater london and it really doesn't go far here. if I decided to put dd in the nursery that ds went to for 3 days a week when i go back to work it would cost around £900 a month which is more than i earn in a month. Why do a couple who earn 49k each manage to keep theirs and we lose ours? And why was there no london weighting? It makes me so angry.
Anyway, that aside, I need to organise a meeting with work to discuss my return hours/days and see if i can switch some to a saturday to save some money on childcare. rah can I ask what your nanny costs and what she does over and above what a childminder would do? I know you are not a million miles from me so guess the costs would be same here.
Must take the christmas tree down today and vacuum everywhere, dd is a snot bag so wants lots of attention. Maybe one day i will win the lottery

We were sure we wouldn't get child benefit, but do. It's a really strange system, I don't get why they don't do it on combined income - it can't be that hard to work out surely?

Purple thanks. I've decided I need some help, but don't know where to turn to. There's a 'breast feeding group' tomorrow at our local Ikea, and a La Leche group on Friday. However I'm not sure they're there for helping with specific problems.

I'm not sure why, but the thought of phoning a helpline or getting someone to come to my house specially reduces me to tears. I think it's accepting I've failed, and blaming myself, thinking I'm lazy and this is all my fault.
I've let T 'get away with' a bad latch for most of his life now. So when I try and latch him properly he pulls back to his normal, incorrect, latch. I also can't do any of the holds properly except laying down with him, and again, because I've not tried with him much, he expects to lay down with me and fusses when I try other holds.

stacks you absolutely categorically have not failed. La leche should certainly be able to help, no idea about ikea group but worth trying out anyway if you can get there? face to face interaction with others doing the same thing as you may help get it in perspective a bit. Do you hsve a surestart near you? they will prob run a bf group too. Your hv should have a list of all local groups i think, could you give them a call? And i'm sure time and persistence will sort the latch problems out. Stick with it if you can. Your skewiff hormones are to blame for the tears and random feelings, we've all been there! have you been on the bf boards here?

Stacks, you're near me, aren't you? I could pop round if you like and see if I could help. What do you reckon? I'm by no means an expert but I could show you what I was taught. I'm free Friday - is that soon enough? I haven't been to the Ikea group but there's one in Mayfield which is very good. I'll send you the FB link. It's on alternate Mondays - think unfortunately it was on today though so 2 weeks until the next one.

Can't work out how to send links on my phone and FB is blocked from the work computers. Google Mayfield and District Breastfeeding Group and you should find it.