Has anyones DC had an accident that was mere or less their (parent's) fault? If so, please tell me...

[feelingterrible]

...because DD (2.5)found and broke a drinking glass today, and it shouldn't have been within reach, and she has cut her hand very badly needing stitches.

I feel like shit. I hate myself.

namechange, btw.

lord, i'm sure NHS direct have a buzzer that goes off whenever I call.

My DS has variously fallen downstairs at 14months old with me right behind him, split his scalp open above his eye, I have shut his fingers in the car door, he ran into the garage and split his head open......then there are the accidents at school that meant another visit to a and e.

DD likes to eat things; holly berries, silica gel, half a tube of toothpaste, some vanish oxi-action. We had the call from the HV following her trip to a and e after the vanish act.

No 3 is 8mo old and so far so good

DS1 is just accident prone and DD is just an accident waiting to happen. they often drink out of glasses and mugs that are lying on coffee tables etc and so far so no broken glass. You can't hover over them all the time unfortunately.

you are obviously a very caring parent the fact that you are so wound up about this, but try not to beat yourself up

I have a 12 month old and 2.5 yr old.

I remember Chris Evans speaking on the radio once about the most stressful job in terms of one in which you cannot take your mind off for a second. He said that the most stressful he could think of was an airtraffic controller.

Since becoming a mum, I realise he was wrong. Airtraffic controllers finish for the day and go home. The most stressful job is being a mum because of the constant vigilence required.

I am afraid things are always going to slip through the net. I think I am pretty anal and vigilent however things simply do happen! DS put a whole and hard cherry tomato in my DS mouth when she was 8mths old choking her, DS found a pack of Nurofen in my bedside table when he was 12 mths old and managed to get some out of the blister pack and put them in his mouth (first aid cabinet went up the next day), they have both fallen off the bed, off the sofa, down the stairs (and we have stairgates top and bottom - lord knows how people manage without stair gates). S* happens. I have had to go out of the house on occasion though when a 'near death' incident happens just to take a deep breath and calm down because the shock of it is horrible.

When ds2 was 3yo he had an awful cold and dh put a steamer/vapouriser on the floor of his room overnight. When ds woke up the next morning he got out of bed and went straight for the vapouriser. He touched the steam and burnt two of his fingers badly. Resulted in dressings at the GP for a week for 2nd degree burns.

We both still feel badly about it and he is 6 in September.

Well DH did nearly knock out DD as a baby - we have beams in the ceiling and he lifted her out of the high chair and misjudged the amount of distance between child and ceiling . She screamed, but not as much as I did . In retrospect it was a complete accident and he was mortified.

As was I when I rolled my birthing ball towards her thinking she would try and walk with it [duh] as she'd just started tottering about, completely mowed her down and left her yelling for an hour and frightened of large grey inflatables .

But the best has to be DS who managed to climb the sofa at five months old (unable to stand yet but could climb - but we didn't know this). He grabbed a large cup of coffee which he poured onto me missing himself entirely. Was sort of glad it was me not him and yet, still quite cross and sore for a week. It wasn't my cup of coffee either!

Holding toddler on one hip and hot cup of tea in other hand I went to open a door with a round handle and slowly watched myself pour hot tea on DS leg as I turned the handle.....

Trip to A&E, bandages for two weeks, I felt like Shit.
Lots of tears at hospital with me weeping 'its my fault, I did it, Oh god, oh god for hours.

Ds is fine now , no scar.

I sat on my 4yo daughter when I was playing football with her, and fractured her wrist

DH had DS sitting on his knee when he was 18mo, and DS fell off, and we had a trip to casualty where he was treated for concussion.

My Mums garden has a patio then some steps down IYSWIM - I was playing chase with DS1 and he fell right down the steps. He managed to cut his eyelid and rund the corner of his eye and had to have stitches and had a nasty bruise for weeks.

WMMC - I did the same thing with my birthing ball and DS2 went flying

Please dont feel bad, even the most careful pf parents make mistakes.

Oh, and when DS 2 was about 18 months I was pushing him in a baby swing, pushed to hard and he leant forward and came head first out of the swing. I still cant work out how he managed to get out so easily, but he has the biggets lump and a graze on his forehead that was around for ages.

When DD was about 4 months old I dislocated her shoulder when I was rolling her over on the bed (I had read a thing that rolling them over and over as a game would encourage her to roll - it obviously didn't).
When she was about 18 months I was rushing around getting ready for work in the morning leaving her upstairs. I felt sure I had closed the stairgate but she ended up falling down the stairs headfirst with me stood there frozen to the spot watching her poor little head bounce off each step.

When my friend's DS was 1 we all went on holiday together. We went for a country walk with my DH carrying little boy in his arms. He slipped and landed on the boy fracturing his leg. 12 years later he still feels INCREDIBLY guilty....

i hope the OP is feeling better. There's certainly quite a few of us on here who purged our own guilt. I realised after my post I'd left out 75% of the stuff that happened to my kids.(So often are our contacts with the emergency services!)

There is hardly a bone in my son that hasn't been x-rayed.

We've never been contacted by SS. It can only be a matter of time.