Has anyones DC had an accident that was mere or less their (parent's) fault? If so, please tell me...

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...because DD (2.5)found and broke a drinking glass today, and it shouldn't have been within reach, and she has cut her hand very badly needing stitches.

I feel like shit. I hate myself.

namechange, btw.

Did you leave broken glass on the floor? Did you insist your DD play with it? No...then you are not a shit parent, you just happened to leave a glass on the side like ALL of us do!

When i was little i was trying be helpful and take mums shopping trolley thing (a la old ladies) upstairs to put it away, i got to the top step, she shouted at me and startled me. I fell down landing on one of the wheels and chipped a bone in my spine. i was very very lucky that day!

I would guess that every parent has a least one injury that they could be blamed for.... Get used to it. I think of these things as warnings so i can be a more vigilant parent next time.

I was at the park at the weekend and was too slow to respond to a little boy push mine over and then really pull his hair (they were both 7) and I keep running it over in my mind to see if I could have done anything different. i was talking to the boy's mother at the time and I keep wondering if I was being polite by not saying anything or if I didn't have time to shout??? The little boy had already thrown a ball at my other ds's head and bent ds1's fingers back.... the little shit boy still remained in the park after a reluctant sorry. I then asked my ds why he let the boy hurt him without even shouting..... ffs I should have just comforted him and said how vile the other child was.

I have rushed mine to hospital 3 times and you can argue it was my fault every time but now that the shock has worn off and the kids are fine, I know it was an accident.

DS1 fell off the kitchen counter. He had been sat there for no problem for about 20 minutes with me stood right there. I turned to sneeze and he fell off. Blood coming from his ear and nose so made dash to hospital for an x-ray due to suspected fractured skull. He was okay, kept in over night as only 2.4months old.

DD fell on to the buggy and part of it penetrated near her eye. Cue me running screaming to a neighbour who phoned the ambulance and I rang everyone near by who I knew to come round. DH did a 75 minute journey home from work in 37 minutes and then the ambulance turned up only to take us to the wrong hospital. Had to leave the 4 year old and 3 week old with a neighbour while I went with DD in the ambulance. Majoy surgery under a GA and she was in there a very long time. 4 years later she has perfect eye sight.

DS1 fell off his bike, bashed his nose and teeth but fine as he had a helmet on though I did have to take him to A&E and an emergency dentist.

There are so many more but they are the more serious and I remember at the time thinking I would never get over it. I still remember the upset of it all but the kids are fine and that is what matters.

DD also rolled off the changing table when she was about 9 months old when I turned away to sneeze.

I now don't sneeze anywhere near the kids.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You can't second guess everything and you can't protect them from every potential accident.

I also shut DS2#s finger in the boot. I had watched him walk away before I shut it but somehow he had got his hand back in. No idea how it wasn't cut off.

My 15-mth-old fell off the toddler climbing frame and fractured his ankle in two places while I was 'watching' him.

On our return from A&E I put him tenderly and shakily doan in the hall, turned to get my other child up the step and realised I was locked out.

By the time the firebrigade had arrived to help get him out, he'd made it all the way upstairs on his newly plastered, badly fractured ankle and was sitting wobbling near the top.

(My best line for guaranteeing full attention from work-distracted DH, calling home to complain of his rubbish day:
'Well, the fire brigade have just left...')

I pulled a heavy leisure centre door back on my son's toe and it went green, and he ended up on anti-biotics.

DD fell of the changing table just before her 1st birthday. DH was stood right there but was picking up something off the floor that he had dropped and she followed. DH not paying enough attention = 1st trip to A&E.

Then at an easter party, she was playing with some friends and managed to trap her finger in the door. It wasn't the handle side, it was the inner bit and it was completely shut. Feel sick even thinking of it now. Not watching what they were getting up to = 2nd trip to A&E.

I also shut her finger in the bathroom door.

My DS hasn't had any major accidents yet, so obviously these things happen so we can learn from them.

I remember when I was about 7, falling out of the back of my parents car going 40 mile an hour. Me and my sister were not wearing seatbelts (although I don't think it was law then) and were messing about in the back near the dodgy door. Luckily I rolled to the inter-section but was covered in scrapes. My mum put me in a dettol bath when we got home .

Poor you. LOADS of sympathy from me. I have been responsible for horrible things happening to ds2 TWICE. (Strangely never to ds1)
When ds2 was 3 he jumped off my neighbour's wall that was about as high as him. I kept encouraging him to do it again and again, jumping further each time. Eventually he broke his foot...

Then a few years ago we were playing a silly game and I nearly choked him by dropping a little bit of rolled up paper napkin into his mouth that lodged across his windpipe. I will never forget the look of terror on his face

But generally I think I'm a great, hand-on mum and we adore each other. One little mistake doesn't make you a bad parent, we just have to learn from our mistakes and be grateful that no lasting harm is done.

We were at a caravan with ds1 when he was 7 months old - i had put him in the car seat but for some unknown reason not strapped him in and put him on the seat next to me. Cue fell off and bashed head - trip to Hospital to make sure not fractured skull.

DS1 about 18 months old swallowed some money that left lying around - cue trip to Hospital for xrays!

DS2 fell over a big soft ball and smashed nose on patio door - broken nose!

DS3 - touched my hair straighteners when they were left on - but the worst thing is i didnt notice how bad it was until a few days later when it was all red and blistered!

So no you are not a crap parent - there will be more trips to A & E yet so dont worry!

DS#1 had a new mountain board. We went to a specific place on the Mendips for him to have a go but he was a bit cautious. At one point I encouraged him to have a go at what looked like a perfect slope He was nervous but had a go. And he went hurtling over some big lumps and bumps and then slap into a tree. No major damage but some cuts and bruises. I really shouldn't be a mother you know....

Dd2 and I were playing on an old fashioned see-saw last year. She was really enjoying being (slightly) bounced up in the air when I sat down on my end. It was nearly time to go home so I thought I'll bounce her really high for the last one... I bounced her so high she came over the top and smashed her face on the see-saw. Nose bleed, teeth into lip, the works. Blood everywhere. And through her tears she kept saying "You shouldn't have bounced me so high mummy"

Gosh, we've had a few

DS2 walking into his brother cycling when really I should have been nearer to intervene and getting knocked out and badlycutting his forehead.

DS2 running around and colliding with a boy on a scooter and skinning his nose.

DD pulling a hot drink down on herself.

DS1 standing between some chairs at a funeral and someone moving their chair back and taking his toenail off with it.

They are all just accidents as was your DDs accident and of course if a number of things were different then it wouldn't have happened but you can't predict everything or identify every risk and eliminate it.

(((hugs))) to you though as it is horible when stuff like this happend.

My best friend has the ultimate adventurer for a son. He is the child most likely to find the danger in any situation and place himself bang smack in the middle of it.

When he was about 2 he had a couple of incidents close together that needed a&e attention (spraying cleaner in his eyes and falling onto a toy requiring stiches are just the two that spring to mind but there were more). My best friend had a very friendly visit from the health visitor to check all was well. It was no biggie at all and she could see that there was no issue.

I'm sure this one incident will not require a visit from the HV and you should not be beating yourself up so much. These things happen to us all.

My DS was screaming in his cot and I was trying to get ready in the morning. I took him out of the cot and let him crawl around after me. He followed me from the spare room into our room and I was playing peek a boo as we went, only as I realised he hadn't followed me I poked my head round the door just to see him launch himself head first down the stairs. He was fine after 5 mins of tears but I swear I got a crop of grey hair after that!

Oh, poor you and poor dd, but really, I can't imagine that any child between the ages of 2.5 and 3 hasn't been within reaching distance of a drinking glass.

How is she today?

My mum dislocated my elbow trying to pull me away from the telly while I pulled the other way in a tantrum.

I hold onto that thought every time something happens to DD. I think the stupidest thing was me doing something (not mumsnet) on the computer when "USB device not recognised" flashed up. DD had the camera cable in her mouth

Hope your DD is alright today.

Oh god I forgot the elbow dislocation incident in Sainsbury's car park

Oh yes,

dd1 was playfighting with dh and he threw her on the bed and gave her whiplash

ds2 fell down the stairs (yesterday) - he is 14mo - black eye, call to nhs direct. We were all rushing to get out of the house and no-one remembered to watch him.

ds1 fell over on brush left lying around (although he was messing around with it in someway) and needed stitches

dd2 fell off slide in park, largely unsupervised by me, and broke her tooth.

Thanks to you all, She is fine now but has a big dressing.

In the park thr other day and 3yr old rolled backwards down a hill on his trike, fell off and hurt himself. Felt pretty awful already, but made much worse by some other mum telling me off... repeatedly! I couldn't believe it! Pointing out that he was going backwards really fast, with me trying to ignor her and comfort my child. I thought it was pretty bloody obvious that I HAD noticed seeing as I was running after him yelling stop! Rgh, some people are odd, it would never even occur to me to say something like that.

Trod on son's toe and nail came off when he was 18 months.

Husband shut son's finger in door, breaking it.

Son was dancing on table and slipped and banged head, splitting it open.

I'm sure there's more...

accidents! I have a list - all funnily enough involving DD2.

Not quite 2 year old DD1 pulled 2 day old DD2 off the sofa and jumped on her.

2 year old DD2 fell off DD1s rollerscates breaking her arm. Even worse, walked around for a week before I got round to getting her checked. (in my defence - she was checked at the time but not xrayed!)

2.5 yr old DD2 'fell' up the stairs when I was holding her hand - still has scar on head.

numerous slips, trips and falls from high and bouncy things.

But they were all accidents. like your DDs was. makes you feel like shit but is OK and part of parenting and growing up.

my mother dropped me down the starirs when I was 6 mnths old. top to bottom.

and I once threw a ball at DD1 nocking out her front tooth

feeling better yet?

Don't beat yourself up.

My dad allowed me to fall of the sofa onto a concrete floor when I was a baby. I found some razors blades in a cupboard when I was about 3 or 4 and clasped them really tightly to bring them to show my mum, resulting in lots of blood. I cycled over the kitchen doorstep just out of reach of my mum when about two. my sister knocked a tooth out and has a permanant scar on her face when my dad decided to get her to a birthday party quickly by sitting her on the handlebars of his bike. my sister almost died when she inhaled a tiny ball from a game my brother and I were playing(she's nine years younger than us)

I picked up one of the kids my mum looked after when he was two and triped and fell against a wall,his head making first contact.

my ds1 fell over in the garden one balmy summers evening, when dh and i were having a beer and we had to drive him to minor injuries(thankfully i had only just started my drink..but still alcohol and injured kid...not good)
ds2 pulled a bedside table with a cast iron lamp and a drinking glass onto himself when about 14months old(breaking glass all over
his face(as he lay on floor under table.)

my kids are only 5 and 2. my HV has phoned me
to check we're all ok,so don't panic if you get a call. I like the MJ fox quote. I can really see where he's coming from.

My DD2 has severe cows milk allergy and when she was one i fed her a bowl of weetabix and cows milk instead of soya milk because my brain wasn't switched on - she had a severe allergic reaction and we ended up in the local children's hospital for most of the day.

I felt so responsible and worried that the medical staff would acuse me of harming my child but they were very understanding.

I am now paranoid about which milk she gets!