11 months- still not sleeping through

[Mamabeartotwo]

Please help!! My DS is 11 months and is still not sleeping through and I don’t know what to do. My eldest DD slept through from 4 months unless teething or sick (I appreciate this is earlier than the norm and I got lucky) but I have done very little differently, I didn’t even expect he would follow suit quite so early but 11 months?? I have friends whose babies are half the age and sleeping as well if not better. I don’t know what I am doing wrong? I have done everything I can think of. He falls asleep independently, his room is pitch dark, he has a bedtime routine since 4 months old, he eats 3 solid meals a day of great portions. 2 nap schedule with appropriate wake windows 3/3/4 and I feel we follow his cues well, when placed in the cot for bed and naps he rarely grumbles and falls asleep quickly so I don’t feel he is over/under tired. He is exclusively breastfed and still wakes 2-3 times a night and will not settle unless breastfed. I find it hard to believe he is hungry. I don’t really even know what I hope to gain from posting here? Solidarity? Hope from anyone who was in a similar situation and now their baby is sleeping better? What should I do? Will things only improve if I night wean and take away that comfort? I go back to work soon and I am beyond exhausted.

I can't remember when mine all slept through the night consistently. I guess around 3. We co slept til about 2ish. Then they moved into their own room. Quite often one parent or the other would fall asleep putting them to bed in their own room and then ducking into the adult bed during the night.

You just make do I guess.
Youngest is now 7 and OH has really taken up snoring so I'm not sure sleeping through is on the cards for me.

My DC16 months is breastfed and still wakes loads at night. Last night they woke 3 times, once for a 20 mins breastfeed, then again for about 15 mins where DH patted them back to sleep, then he tried that the next wake for 10 minutes but DC started screaming his head off so then I breastfed him for 30 minutes. The previous 4 nights he was awake on and off for hours and hours screaming and screaming which is also typical of him. So last night is a 'good' night for us. We are both utterly exhausted and fed up. Our elder 2 children were both generally sleeping through by now and our youngest has by far been the worst sleeper of the 3. Im thoroughly fed up with breastfeeding as a slightly separate issue too but he just screams and screams for hours day or night if he wants it and I don't feed him so I don't know how to stop without distressing him.

🤣 mine were 3.5 before they slept through, though I think dd did it once around 12 months. My youngest still woke a couple nights a week until he was 6. It’s just too early.