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Where do you and your partner fall in birth order?

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CheshireMum1212 · 12/09/2025 14:27

Just for fun. I noticed in my family, everyone seems to fall in the same birth order. Probably just coincidence, but wondered if any of you had similar.
My partner and I are both second born
My brother and wife are both first born
My mum and dad are both first born
My grandparents were both fifth born
My inlaws are both first born

I wonder if my children will follow a similar pattern

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neverstopthelaundry · 12/09/2025 16:39

Dh is 1st born, I am 2nd born.
My 1st born eldest sibling is married to 4th born
My 3rd born youngest sibling is married to a 2nd born

So none of it fits.

MelisandeQ · 12/09/2025 16:40

I’m the eldest of my family and DH is the youngest in his!

Menonut · 12/09/2025 18:14

We’re both 2nd born.
However I’m also the youngest and his mum went on to have another 4!

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SquigglePigs · 12/09/2025 18:18

I'm an only child and DH is first born.

My PIL are both first born.

My DM is first born, DDad is 2nd born of 3.

I know a fair few other first borns married to only children but loads that don't fit that pattern.

Getoffofmyland · 12/09/2025 18:49

Me and husband both third born, 1st child is with an only (so both first) and second is with a second - never considered this before!

GoldWhiteandBlue · 12/09/2025 19:19

Dh only child. Im the youngest of 2
Mum and dad both oldest child
Sister oldest partner middle

Emmz1510 · 12/09/2025 19:20

I’m first born and so is my husband. And we are both classic firstborns! Perfectionist, neurotic, control freaks.
My mum was firstborn and my dad the youngest of three.
Both my sisters are now separated. One a middle sister who married a firstborn, and the other a youngest who married a firstborn.
Husbands parents were a second born of five (his mum) and a youngest (his dad).
So I’m the only one who has married someone the same birth position as me.
Im also really interested in this.

pilates · 12/09/2025 19:21

Both second born

MeAndMyGhost · 12/09/2025 19:24

I'm the eldest, DH the youngest.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 12/09/2025 19:25

I'm the elder of two and DH is the youngest of three.

saltnpepperchips · 12/09/2025 19:27

My parents are both only children
with my ex I’m was the oldest of 3 and he was youngest of 4 but 10 year gap so grew up like an only
my next partner we were both the eldest
my sister is middle child her husband younger of 2
my brother youngest of 3 his ex youngest of 6 and his current partner eldest of 3

Berlinlover · 12/09/2025 19:28

I’m the first born of two. My partner is the second born of seven.

Emmz1510 · 12/09/2025 19:29

SquigglePigs · 12/09/2025 18:18

I'm an only child and DH is first born.

My PIL are both first born.

My DM is first born, DDad is 2nd born of 3.

I know a fair few other first borns married to only children but loads that don't fit that pattern.

It’s been said that only children and firstborns can be similar in a lot of ways

blondebombsite13 · 12/09/2025 19:56

Husband and I are both the eldest.

no other patterns that I’ve noticed

Spottyblobby · 12/09/2025 21:23

My partner & I are both youngest children, it’s a nightmare, neither of us can make a decision we’re just waiting to be told what to do!

strangeandfamiliar · 12/09/2025 21:37

DH and I both firstborn, and so were my parents. His were both second born. DS (firstborn) has always has firstborn GFs. No patterns with other DC yet.

Antimimisti · 12/09/2025 21:45

Me, first of two; DH only child.

SilkCottonTree · 12/09/2025 22:35

I'm a middle child with two brothers; DH is oldest of two Brothers. BIL's partner is the eldest of 3. My dad was the youngest of 3, my mum was one of the middle children of 11. MIL was younger of two sisters, FIL was an only child. So for my family it is quite random!

Wincher · 12/09/2025 22:44

I’ve noticed this among friends, most people seem to be with partners who are the same family position as themselves!

Musicalmistress · 12/09/2025 22:51

Dh and I are both first born of 3.
My DD and DM are both first born (DD of 5 & DM of 3)
My FIL & MIL are both last born (FIL of 8 & MIL of 2)
but that’s where it ends.
DS is last born of 3 and her DH first born of 3.
DB is 2nd of 3 and his DW is first of 2.
SIL is 2nd of 3 and her DH 1st of 2.
BIL is last of 3 and his DP is an only.

AutumnalLight · 12/09/2025 22:55

I’m an only
DH is first born with a big age gap

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/09/2025 08:35

Nope for us…

I am 2/2 and DH is 3/5 (5 was sadly stillborn)
DM is 3/3 and DF is 2/4
MIL is 2/3 and FIL is 2/4
DSis is 1/2 and BIL is 3/3
SIL is 1/5 and BIL is 1/1
BIL is 2/5 and SIL is 1/2
SIL is 4/5 and BIL I have no idea.

ApocalypseNowt · 13/09/2025 08:52

Me & DH are both last born. And we have 2 DC..... which means that poor DC1 is the only eldest sibling in a family of babies. I'm pretty sure she thinks we're all idiots Grin

Rosemariebear · 14/09/2025 04:24

I’ve always been fascinated by this. DH and I are both first borns . My sister and her DH are both youngest.

itsgettingweird · 14/09/2025 04:28

Me and my ex both first borns of 3.
my suster and her DP both second born. Him of 2’though.
My bro youngest 3 of 3 and his wife eldest of 2.

My dad an only. My mum 3rd of 7!!!!

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