Hello, I have an ongoing dilemma in that my children's father is very inconsistent in his routine. He is meant to have them once a fortnight but he often cancels due to not having money for petrol. He lives 40 minutes away and I don't drive. He doesn't work due to depression and lives with his gf and their other child. His gf is very controlling and often won't let him have the money to come and collect the girls because she says they can't afford it. This drives me mad as I just want them to have a consistent routine and it also means that I often don't get a break and unable to make plans. I suppose my question is should I just give him the petrol money when he can't afford it (he won't pay it back) or would I be being too much of a pushover. I know I shouldn't have to, especially as he pays no maintenance...but I'm just fed up of not knowing where I stand.