Step father to my children swears at them when I’m not around

[AnonymouslySad]

So I’m in complete despair and beyond fuming. I am married to the step father of my two children. Whenever we argue he blames the kids for the argument and when I leave the room he says things to them that quite frankly I’m appalled by. Today for instance, my son who is 10 years old, was starving after breakfast and went to get some cereal. Husband then tells child that’s his last bowl. I then interrupted and said he’s really hungry and I didn’t see why he couldn’t have more cereal as I think my son is going through a growth spurt. Husband then says ‘I knew you would pipe in’.

I then walked away and he told my children that they were f babies and that he was going to get them sweets from the shop but they could f*** do one! My children are 8 and 10 and I think this is unacceptable. He then shouts at them if they tell me what has been said once I’ve left the room. I’ve confronted him and he’s not denied it and is blaming the kids. This is not the first time this has happened. Am I being over sensitive or should I walk away for the sanity of my children?

He's a malicious, obnoxious and toxic pr|ck. The longer this goes on, the more harm he is doing to your kids.

He's chipping away at their self esteem and is jealous as sin.

You need to protect your kids from this type of abuse, and get as much distance between him and your kids before too long as this type of malice causes damage to kids minds. You spoke to him and he fires yet more blame at your kids, since when has this been acceptable?

Ask your self what else is he capable of? He's already denying your son food, what is next?

I'm guessing this hasn't just started. Yes OP. Kick him out. Remove this horrid abusive man from your children's life.

It's that simple.

That's disgraceful. My dh and teen ds clash at times but there's no way I would subject him to this sort of behaviour. No excuse whatsoever. What are you planning on doing about it?

Get out now before he damages your children even more

I'd dismember him and put him under the patio* if he treated my children like that, wtf is wrong with you OP??
(metaphorically of course)

Poor babies :( get out please your children are more important!!!

Once, once should have been enough, but that's OK because you are in despair and fuming.
OP knows exactly what she should be doing. It's probably a little inconvenient.

Why are you putting this abusive cunt above your children???

Is he more important to you than their welfare?

I despair

Leave.

Are you really asking this??

Pack up his stuff and throw him out immediately! He’s an abusive arse!

The fact you’ve put up with this for a while and then need to ask on mumsnet astounds me.

If you need to ask then I worry about the standards you have for how your children are treated . My kids real dad would not get away with speaking like this let alone a step dad.
I'm so sad for your kids . 8 and 10 and they go home from school to a man who speaks to them like shit .
You need to protect them

Yes, you should walk away from him before he completely screws up your children.

Leave. You're their mother - only you can protect them.

He sounds like an utter scrote. Absolutely sickening. Your poor children.

He's a dick and no dick is worth ruining your DCs lives for.

Leave. Your DC will thank you.

What is keeping you there @AnonymouslySad ?
Are you trapped in some way?

A vibrator is your best friend compared to that fanny you're married to. Do the right thing and think of them above your love life. Stay single and keep them and yourself safe.

You put your children first and protect them. Walk away (actually - run!).

How long have you been together?

The very first time my partner ever swears at my child, I will kick them out.

I’m shocked this has happened multiple times and you’re still allowing it.

See if your kids can stay elsewhere and tell him to leave by the end of the week.

Stay and your dc will hate you op.
Leave and none of you ever have to see him again.

Am I being over sensitive or should I walk away for the sanity of my children?

Are you actually serious? 😩

You need to leave this man. He's abusing your children and either they'll grow up and walk away from you or be damaged from it

Oh great, yet another one.

Not only is he abusive but he's a coward as well. Hell shout and swear at little kids but he does it when your not there to challenge him.