Best bits of being a mum to boys

[Ducky1900]

Just wondered if anyone has any uplifting stories and why it's good to be a mum to 2 boys?

I have a boy, and pregnant again, I have a feeling this one is a boy too. (Gender scan 25th./
Which im trying to get my head around because I really would love a girl.
Feel awful for thinking that I wouldn't be so excited about another boy.
So I'm trying to fill my head with lots of positive things about having 2 boys... Please help!

congratulations on your pregnancy! Have a read of this old thread x
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1305403-Tell-me-great-things-about-having-two-boys

I love having two boys. Sometimes they are boisterous but actually they are mostly lovely, cuddly, and they adore each other. They are currently cuddled up with DS1 reading to DS2. I walked into the room and was met with ‘Mummmmyyy no grown ups allowed here- it’s our brother time.’ (DS2 says ‘brovver’!) DH and his brother are also very close as adults- he’s DH’s only sibling.

When you're out for a meal it's not you that has to do the toilet run and have your dinner cool down! Speaking from experience

I have one DS not two but I love how affectionate he is and how close he is to me (not saying a girl wouldn't be I just have no experience of a girl). He is very active and has forced us to explore places we hadn't considered and has made our weekends so much more interesting. I am not having another DC but if I were I would love another boy as from what I have seen with DS they are awesome :)

I know I'll get flamed here for being sexist, and I know all boys and girls don't like the stereotypical male and female things, but stereotypes exist for a reason. I love watching my sporty boys play and compete in various team and individual sports. The "dance" and cheerleading that my sister has to watch my nieces do looks incredibly tedious and frankly quite crap to me.

It's convenient to have two the same sex for so many reasons, the ones that are most fun relate to the stuff they like to do and therefore that you can do as a family which are fun for all. So as an example, whenever we go away anywhere, we always try to go to a local sporting fixture of some kind. It really helps that the whole family likes sport (again, not impossible with boys and girls, but probably more likely with boys).

Also when they're little it's cute to have coordinated outfits occasionally

@swashbucklecheer

When you're out for a meal it's not you that has to do the toilet run and have your dinner cool down! Speaking from experience

Yes this too!

You won't have to pay for sanitary products!

@Ducky1900 I'm in the same situation, gender scan next week although DH says he doesn't want to find out now! I'm secretly hoping for a girl
and am worried about feeling a bit of gender disappointment if it's another boy. The last couple of days though I keep imaging being told it's a boy and honestly I'm just so excited I don't think the disappointment will last long. I don't think it's an uncommon feeling though so don't feel guilty.

I am the most girly girl ever and I have two boys. I absolutely adore them, they adore me and they adore each other. They have a really special bond (3 years 9 months between them)

They play together, look after each other and are actually totally opposite personality wise. Which is so lovely because they keep each other in check. Honestly when I think of having another baby boy, a little downy headed bundle wrapped up in a blue baby grow my stomach aches for another 💜

I have 5 boys. The oldest is in his last year on university and the youngest in high school.

They tease with me all the time, They are constantly trying to outdo one another to make me laugh. I love watching them turn into young men.

I treasure being mom to boys.

I know you can't generalise and I generally don't look to the stereotype but my DS is a real mummy's boy.
DD could give or take me

You'll miss out on all the bitchy friendship drama's too ( hopefully)

“Alexa. Wake me up at half past seven to willies from mars”.

3 boys here. If you overlook the farting and poo jokes and the need to check the loo seat before you sit down, they are great. My youngest regularly tells me that I am his favouritist mummy ever (hes 4), they all give the best hugs and the bonus is that at least I get to watch judo practice rather than ballet!

The toilet trips... That's a win 😂
And the cute matching outfits... Yes!

This will be a 2 Yr 4 month age gap so know it'll be lovely.
My DS is such a mummy's boy too, he's so kind and affectionate already.
Whenever I say to him Where's the baby, he rubs my tummy.

My OH family is mainly boys, that's why I'm thinking it's a boy.
But also, seems there's traits, my fil and his brother don't talk, his two male Cousins don't talk, and recently my OH and his brother have fallen out and haven't really spoken since Xmas.
I so hope the same Doesn't happen to our boys (if it's a boy).

I have two boys, now teenagers and both are so different. One is all go 100 miles an hour, the other chilled and laid back.
I love that I've never had to tame wild hair or learn how to braid!
What is it you think would be different from having a daughter? My niece is the first girl in our family and my mum had visions of pink, dolls and all the typical girly things- she's quite the Tom boy who hates pink and loves Spiderman and football. (Not that girls aren't meant to like these things before I'm corrected!)

They are just cheeky lovable beings. Clothing a boy easier as girls seem to need at least double the amount of clothes. Also don't need to sort out bras for boys.

I have a mix.

Boys are so cuddly and I just love 2-3 yo boys. The obsession with trains, tractors, bin lorries, sticks. I still wave to the bin men 10 years later 😂😂😂

My two DS are 19 & 17 now, best of friends, having two boys is brilliant wouldn’t change it for the world. Many congrats OP

I have 4 boys and it's lovely. Yes, having a daughter could be lovely too, but I'd never trade one of my boys - and even if you did, the daughter that exists in any of our heads is imaginary anyway.

Mine are loads of fun, and the plus side of having multiple children of the same sex is that you don't see them all as 'typical boys'. 2 of mine aren't very sporty, one loves to do my hair and watch Glow Up with me, so I may have my spa day companion anyway

I do get some pangs from cute 'mummy and me' outfits and when I think about the close relationship my DCs and i have with my mum Vs the friendly but more distant one that they and my DH have with my very nice MIL. However I also think that if I can raise my sons to be great partners/husbands/fathers/citizens, then I have a great chance of staying a part of their future families.

I think a lot of people see it as a challenge to raise boys in a time where there are a lot of (long overdue) messages about 'mighty girls' but little about the wonder of gentle boys, and when boys are often seen as failing to reach their potential academically, or behaving badly. However I think that this makes it really worthwhile, to try to help boys navigate all this.

Also, it's a small but real one, outdoor wees are so much easier, as is cleaning up a poo-splosion!

I have 3 of them, b3 was a BOGOFF deal with b2. I'd love a girl, but DH said no more babies so lovely reading this

I've got two boys. I can really only judge by the fact I am one of two girls but they are definitely closer. Three years apart almost exactly (what in hell was I thinking birthdays two weeks apart in November godammit ). There seems to be less competition (to be fair they are only 7 and 4 but even so....) actually I suppose I mean nasty competition. I mean obviously it is still in fact the end of the world when one of them gets his dessert first, or God help us if we forget whose turn it is to press the crosswalk button, but in general there is less testing to out do each other than I remember with dsis.

I have no real gender attachment to colours etc. Ds2 has a fancy for all things unicorn if he can convince me to spend the money, and spent a fetching 3 weeks with hair slides in his hair but they are also rough and tumble , worms in their pockets etc.

I love having two boys. I wanted boys and I was lucky enough to get them but I strongly suspect it's because of my horrendous relationship with my sister.

I think that's what worries me the most about having boys, is that they grow up,leave and have their own family.
I've seen it with my brother, whereas me and mum are so close, we talk every day, and see each other 2-3 times a week.
My brother talks to my mum once a week, and sees her occasionally, maybe a few times a month.

I really hope I can raise good boys, and that I can still be involved in their adult lives.

I know my mil is a very difficult character, which makes relationships hard for both my OH and myself.
So I definately see that notion of 'boys leaving' whereas a girl stays forever.

Same as being mum to girls. They’re all just people, honestly. Very, very little that differs between “girls” and “boys” although personalities differ a lot. That’s the big surprise.

I have girls with opposing personalities and a son who is somewhere in between the two. All three are wonderful and give fantastic cuddles.

My little boy aged 4 is so loving and sweet...lots of cuddles kisses and tonight at bedtime he said mummy I love every single part of you ..even your insides!