Ladies who's partners didn't want to be a dad - How did he cope?

[anon1133]

Been married for a year and half now and am currently 6 months pregnant. My husband didn't want kids but I became pregnant after contraception failing. My husband didn't want the baby and I was panicked so I booked an abortion. I was distraught for weeks coming up to the appointment and eventually broke down and told my husband I couldn't go through with it. After a long talk of him saying he was scared that he wouldn't be a good dad etc he accepted that we were keeping the baby and was reassuring and said he would support me no matter what and we would continue with the pregnancy.

Fast forward a few months to now and he seems happy with the whole situation now he's had a chance to get used to the idea, regularly talks about our unborn daughter and he seems to be excited to meet her etc. We're in a good place.

Basically just want to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation and how it worked out for you? How did your partner cope when baby arrived? Did they flop or do great?

Why don't these men have a vasectomy?

I'm not sure it would be that easy to get one. My husband did have one after our second child was born as we were absolutely certain that neither of us wanted more. But he was asked all about his existing children, how he knew he was sure etc. I imagine as a man in his 20s with no children he would presumably have been sent on his way with a few leaflets about other contraception. That's certainly what happens to women, of any age, who ask to be sterilised. My friend had to fight tooth and nail for sterilisation when she was having her fourth child, as even after that many she was being told she might change her mind.