Survey for all sahm of more than one child..............

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1. How many children do you have?

2. Do you live near family who would have your dc's or who you can pop in on? 3.Do you have any time alone during the week at all?

Just being nosey as am trying to make decisions about having more children
Thanks!

One more question
4. Would you do it all again?

1. 2

2. No 3. A bit, when they go out with their dad, but I am a single parent 4. Loyalty demands I should say yes, but as they are the most demanding ages (4 and 1) and have both been up since 6.30 am and are both still awake, the answer is a resounding NO

1. DS - 5 years, DD - 7 weeks

2. PILs 10 miles away and have DS usu once a week for sleepover. Not left DD with them yet. My family all 250 miles away
   Also have friends with young children who take DS for a few hours, but we have to reciprocate.

3. Not much as DH works away and stays away from home 4 nights a week.

1. 2 dc's, 2.8 and 8 months
2. Live near family but they don't have the dc's and can't really pop in on them
3. No
4. If I had the money, yes I would do it all again but for now a ds and dd is perfect for us

I hope that this helps you

1. 2

2. yes - but my mum, but she does work. 3. wednesdays i work from home, but as my mum is the childcare, it is often cancelled if she has other stuff on. Not had my childfree day for 3 weeks. 4. Yes.

1. 2

2. Yes, both my mum and mil plus good close friend with similar aged children 3. Sometimes, depending on dh's shifts and my workload (training to be reflexologist) 4. I would but dh not so keen

missed 4

4. Too early to tell yet, LOL

1. two

2. About 2.5hours away - but they've made more of an effort to do the trip to me since #2 3. I now define 'alone' as being with just the baby . I get the odd lay in or night out - a couple of hours every other week ish 4. Insanity - but tempted to have a third.

1. I have two dss

2. Not very near to family, ILS live 20min drive away. Have never left dss there. 3. No regular alone time during the week 4. Yes

Oh, do itb all again as in have another?

Christ, no!

1. 2, 5years and 2.8

2. yes 3. no, unless so stressed that DH fears for my sanity and begs me to go out for a while... 4. definatly!

Love it so far - thank you for being so homest
question 4 not about having another baby - about making the same choices given your time again!

1. two

2. I do now but didn't till DS1 was four 3. Used to have some time alone each day until DS2 gave up his nap. 4. Yes, i woud do it all again. it's hard work but they're fantastic boys and they love each other so much.

homest!!! honest

1. 2 aged 4.10 & 19 months

2. Yes live near my mum but she works long hours so does not have them.

3. I have a thursday evening from 6.30pm till 11.30pm, i go to my friends & this is MY time do be away from the house & the children.

4. Yes i would but 2 children is enough for me, i find them very demanding at the ages they are at.

1. 2

2. no

3. no

2
yes
no
no but that is more to do with personal circs rather than being a sahm

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1. 2 ds's

2. no too far so they don't stay with them but we visit family about once a month 3. yes dh takes them both out on saturday or sunday mornings 4. yes definitely would now like a third. it has been difficult at times but they are mostly fantastic with each other.

1. How many children do you have? 2 (aged 5 and 3)

2. Do you live near family who would have your dc's or who you can pop in on? My parents are about 30 mins away but they are elderly and I don't like to impose on them. My mum has looked after both boys once a couple of weeks ago so DH and I could go out for the evening. 3.Do you have any time alone during the week at all? During the school term, I managed to get to a couple of exercise classes with ds2 spending an hour in the creche. At the weekend, DH will take over so I can go to the gym for an hour. It's really important to me to do this. DH does have a number of weekends away through the year, so it's a case of give and take. I think time for you is essential. 4. Would you do it all again? Not tempted to do it again, very happy with two lovely boys.

1. 2 3yrs and 21mth

2. yes MIL will have them for a bit. Not that often but its nice to know shes there 3. leave them in creche at gym sometimes. they in bed by 7.30 and dh at work so peace perfect peace. They have started 'just going upstairs to play' recently. would rather be with each other than with me 4. Trying for more

Thank you one and all for replying
Really struggling with this desision.
I have one ds, wonderful but bloomin hard work
Live nowhere near anyone
No time alone at present - can't even imagine the feelings of tired nausea caused by more than 1!!
I think you are all doing an incredibly hard job. I truly admire you all
x

1. 2 - 3 and 18 months (pregnant with no3)

2. No family near by, maybe SIL will babysit for a few hours twice a year. 3. No time alone at all 4. Yes am having another one

1. 3 DSs - 5, 3 and 5m

2. yes - my Mum although she is busy and also looks after my Dad who is ill so somtimes we swap - she looks after DSs and I look after Dad 3. No - I went to Tesco on my own yesterday for an hour but that's about as good as it gets. 4. Don't know

1 - 2 (under 3yrs)
2 - single bro is 5 min walk away but has FT job and FT social life = very occasional evening babysitting
3 - yes when kids are asleep or if I leave them in the gym creche
4 - of course