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What's harder? Toddler+ newborn or toddler+ being pregnant?!

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Lilonetwo · 17/02/2018 09:37

I think I know the answer but I'm hoping you might be able to change this!

What is harder. Being heavily pregnant with a (permanently winging/teething) 14 month old.

Having a newborn and 15 month old toddler.

I know the answer is that the newborn+ young toddler is harder. But give me strength I don't know how I'm going to cope. I'm already so exhausted

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Lilonetwo · 17/02/2018 10:12

Looks like I have answered my own question!

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isittheholidaysyet · 17/02/2018 10:14

No, I would disagree, far far easier with toddler and new born.
(After the first week maybe)

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GrouchyKiwi · 17/02/2018 10:18

Definitely harder being pregnant with a toddler. I've done it twice and it was such a relief when the baby was born and I could pick up the toddler again, snuggle with her easily, and walk properly so I could get to her before naughty things happened!

upsideup · 17/02/2018 10:18

I have 11 months between my youngest two, a 1 year old and a new born is 100x harder, there were many occasions where I would of put DD back in me if I could!

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Lilonetwo · 17/02/2018 10:20

upside down these babies are easier to look after when they are in our tummy's aren't they.

Aggg thank you for your positive words ladies.

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Iworrytoomuchh · 17/02/2018 10:21

Found it easier with a newborn and toddler than being pregnant with
A toddler (and I had a c section!)

moonmaker · 17/02/2018 10:23

Depends entirely on the type of newborn you have . If you have one that naps all day and night and has quick easy feeds then of course the newborn scenario is easier . If you have a leech, screamer and non sleeper then pregnancy will be a walk in the park in comparison .

OutComeTheWolves · 17/02/2018 10:34

Toddler & pregnant in my experience was a lot harder than toddler and newborn. I was a lot more tired when I was pregnant than when the baby arrived.

Prusik · 17/02/2018 10:48

I have a 4 week old and a 13 month old. By far it's 100% easier now I'm not pregnant. I'm less tired now and it's so amazing not to be comfortable again

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Lilonetwo · 17/02/2018 12:54

prusik yours are so close together. Well done you. Glad you are finding it easier now your newborn has arrived.

Moonraker you are so right. Noone can predict what 'type' of baby I will have. It's just a bit of luck really isn't it. Trying not to worry about it all. I just want to sleep so badly and I know I'm not going to get any more when baby arrives.

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cindersrella · 17/02/2018 12:58

I had a toddler and hyperemisis! That was hard... really bloody hard actually.

Toddler and a baby I could cope better with. As I could juggle and look after both.

With hyperemisis the only thing I could really look after was the toilet😞

AuntFidgetWonkhamStrongNajork · 17/02/2018 13:02

Better out than in. You can bend over or touch your toes without groaning or puking, there's no puffy ankles or heartburn. You can get off the sofa or out of the car without a hoist. Yes you have two kids to look after but a newborn will seem teeny and much less fuss than a toddler. It can't say no for a start

Aspieparent · 17/02/2018 13:03

Toddler and pregnancy was way harder than toddler and newborn.

MacaroniPenguin · 17/02/2018 23:44

Toddler and pregnant is harder every day of the week. Hang in there.

Disclaimer: I find pregnancy hard and am permanently exhausted and sick. I know not everyone feels like that, but for me I can manage almost any level of sleep deprivation better than pregnancy exhaustion. It was like a switch had been flipped as soon as DC2 was born.

KadabrasSpoon · 17/02/2018 23:47

Toddler and newborn. But then I felt ok in pregnancy as far as it goes and always had refluxy newborns

AssassinatedBeauty · 17/02/2018 23:56

Not a toddler but I had a 3 to 4 year old when heavily pregnant and it was hard work. Young child and new born was much easier, even though the birth was a disaster and they both got chicken pox about 3 weeks later!

pipnchops · 18/02/2018 07:12

I definitely found being pregnant with toddler harder than having a newborn and a toddler. But then I found a year later having two toddlers the most difficult thing I've ever done!!

FellOutOfBed2wice · 18/02/2018 07:16

Toddler and new born was a piece of cake compared to pregnant and toddler. Pregnant and toddler can fuck off. I was knackered, sick and fed up. Once DD2 arrived we could get out easily again and I wasn’t a grumpy, fat hormone bomb likely to explode at any moment.

applecatchers36 · 18/02/2018 07:20

Days easier toddler and newborn
Nights easier toddler and heavily pregnant

doleritedinosaur · 18/02/2018 07:44

Toddler & pregnant was definitely harder, bump got in way, hormones sent me up the walls, couldn’t join in as much.

Toddler & newborn was fine, newborn was in sling & I fed him in that, slept in it & I had hands free to play/cuddle toddler.

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Lilonetwo · 18/02/2018 07:48

Gosh all these replies since last night are giving me hope!

I seem to remember newborn days being so hard. Maybe in Comparison to a toddler it won't seem so hard! Fingers crossed [smile

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Chienrouge · 18/02/2018 07:48

As my second newborn didn’t sleep more than 20 mins for the first 6 weeks of her life I’d go with toddler and pregnant. Plus I got mastitis and sepsis when DD2 was 9 days old so a week in intensive care didn’t help!

Arapaima · 18/02/2018 08:11

For me, being heavily pregnant with a toddler was harder than toddler and newborn. DC2 was a very easy baby though!

Rosiie · 18/02/2018 08:46

I think it's different for everyone, my pregnancies has also been easy. I do get sick but nothing major, everything goes smoothly until labour lol. It's like my body makes up for it in labour.

For me it was difficult having a toddler and newborn. I had a 2 and 3 year, and a newborn. When my DC went to bed I had to deal with baby waking up every hour, now he's nearly two and sometimes he will nap but they now go to bed at the same time 7-8pm. And I have time for myself in the evening.

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