What's harder? Toddler+ newborn or toddler+ being pregnant?!

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I think I know the answer but I'm hoping you might be able to change this!

What is harder. Being heavily pregnant with a (permanently winging/teething) 14 month old.

Or

Having a newborn and 15 month old toddler.

I know the answer is that the newborn+ young toddler is harder. But give me strength I don't know how I'm going to cope. I'm already so exhausted

FWIW my 'newborn and toddler' are now 11 and 12.5.

The newborn never fed for longer than 10 minutes and it was always spaced out every few hours ( breastfed ). The rest of the time she was napping in her Moses basket or sling . The toddler loved to play by herself for hours and had a long three hour afternoon nap . It was all very manageable if not enjoyable

Then ds3 came along when the first two were 10/11. It's a blessing there was no toddler around because he fed for hours or screamed the place down , developed horrendous colic at 2 weeks old and was up all hours wanting to be comforted .
Good luck op !

Also BF was so much easier second time round.

I have literally no idea how anyone manages 3 of them though!

Pregnant with toddler and working full time was my lowest moment. Ever.

macaroni penguin wow really BF was easier second time round? I reeeeally hope this is the case. I'm so anxious about keeping DS1 occupied when the newborn inevitably cluster feeds.

Moonmaker your first two sound like the ideal siblings! Thank you :-)

Being able to bend in the middle makes life a lot easier. And even if the baby is screaming you still have the choice to leave it in the pushchair or whatever and deal with the toddler. When you're pregnant you can't just take off the bump!

I'm pregnant atm and struggling with my 16 month old (and I'm still in first trimester) I'm soooo exhausted. Can't begin to think how hard it's gonna get when I'm further along!

The thing is, it will entirely depend on the new born. BF definitely wasn’t easier for me second time round. It was fine first time, loads of cluster feeding but tolerable.
DD2 mainly just screamed unless she was attached to my breast. And she couldn’t latch properly. The result being that at 9 days old I developed mastitis which led to sepsis and a stint in intensive care. Managed to carry on feeding her for 6 months (during which she never slept longer than 40 mins in a row) but the whole thing was a slog.
Not saying that to scare you, just saying it entirely depends on the newborn you get and the circumstances you have.

Re BF, I guess it depends on your baby but my body knew what to do and even though DC2 was tongue tied, as a second time parent you know what's wrong and can get it sorted much more easily.

It's not so much that a toddler lets you sit and feed for hours, more that you find ways round it. I can do pretty much anything one handed with baby latched on, except slicing bread and chopping onions. But sliced bread is widely available!!

chienrouge wow sounds like you had a tough start with your second child. Well done for getting through intensive care and BF exclusively throughout that.

Thank you, luckily at 2.5 she’s an angel

Toddler and newborn easier than pregnant and toddler for me. Toddler and toddler however, was pretty awful (19 month gap). But it’s fine now they’re 5 & 6.5!

Currently 28 weeks pregnant with a toddler... this thread gives me hope!

However my toddler does sleep 7-7 and has a 2 hour nap so I think in that sense it’s going to be a shock...

Whats your thoughts on this now OP? I have an 11 month old and currently 25wks with no 2