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Right come on tell me three kids are going to be great!

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Enid · 23/01/2006 09:29

After a depressing sunday lunch with friends where they were listing the reasons why they wouldn't have a third child - the reasons seemed all too convincing in my current sore-throated, fat, backaching state.

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mummytosteven · 23/01/2006 09:29

well people go on to have 4, so 3 kids must be OK .

FrannytheQuinoaEater · 23/01/2006 09:30

Ermm.....3 times as many visitors when you are old and dribbling in a nursing home

ssd · 23/01/2006 09:30

Do you want another one Enid?

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FrannytheQuinoaEater · 23/01/2006 09:38

I would love 3 actually, 2 seems so stingy

ssd · 23/01/2006 09:38

ah, you are pg already!

congrats!

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Enid · 23/01/2006 09:40

ssd I am 26 weeks pg with third so can't do much about it now! But after hearing how its so nice to get your body back, husbands who don't fancy you when you are pg and how many more fab holidays you can go on it would be nice to hear the other side of the coin

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Angeliz · 23/01/2006 09:44

They're probably all secretly jealous that in a few years you'll be doing all that too, only with 3 gorgeous kids in tow.

(At least i hope so as i'm pregnant with third too)

LadySherlockofLGJ · 23/01/2006 09:47

I only have the one(heart problems) and can have no more, indeed lucky to have him.

Anyway I digress,rejoice in your PG and delight in your new life. I am shocked at people being so rude when you are PG.

harpsichordcarrier · 23/01/2006 09:55

Enid at your friends
tiny bit insensitive, mm?
three is great
the more the merrier
I am one of five and it was great when I was a child and even better now. I saw them all yesterday and their delightful children and everyone had a great time. Whenever we get together it's like a party.
The great thing about having a third child (I'm told) is that you are relaxed (unlike the first) and you get to spend lots of time with it (unlike the second, because the first two are playing together so need less attention). when they are older they will play together. and amuse each other on holidays. third one is easiest because they just fit it with everyone else. it is better for all three of them because the parental attention is diluted and they don't feel the pressure so much to achieve (IME).
and another lovely baby and beautiful child - what could be wrong about that?
actually four is better

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Enid · 23/01/2006 09:57

I suppose I was encouraging them by moaning on about how fat I felt must remember that isn't a great conversation livener

suppose I do feel crap and fat atm

I need a HAIRCUT and to go and spend £100 on maternity clothes

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Angeliz · 23/01/2006 09:57

harpsichordcarrier, i think i love you!

Sorry to Hijack Enid but excellent post!

Auntymandy · 23/01/2006 09:59

I have 5 so 3 must have been ok!!!

Sari · 23/01/2006 10:00

Having three is great, promise. Number three is 3.5 months old and so far there has not been a single moment when I've thought it was a bad idea to have a third. The older two (boys aged 5 and 3) adore their little siter and even want me to have more babies. And she is the easiest peasiest baby you can imagine which I'm sure is in great part down to being the third.

I absolutely love having three and all the activity in our house that goes with it. I look back at when we had two and it seems incredibly boring in comparison.

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throckenholt · 23/01/2006 10:05

I have 3 (second one was twins !) - I won't deny it is hard work - but not that much more than 2 would have been I think. It is great when they play together - but not so great when they argue or fight (3 boys) - they can be very loud .

Whatever anyone else says or thinks - you have 3 now - so make the best of it - everyone's family is different so you don't have to take any notice of anyone elses comments

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GhostofChristmasNatt · 23/01/2006 10:09

Enid, I am hoping that it is just being pregnant witha third which is ghastly. Also that as sopring begins to come it will all seem like a lovely idea, what with the sun and the lambs springing about (like they do in East London). I am intolerably fat and did inadvisable heavy cleaning at weekdn so back and legs crippled up. But mostly I want to be not fat and go to New York and shop and eta in diners...

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Enid · 23/01/2006 10:09

yy it is a bit rude

shame really as I really like the woman who was doing most of the slagging

oh well my other friend was brilliant and offered to have all three of them to stay if dh and I wanted to go away for a weekend - 'I just want to get my hands on that baby!' so that evens that out I suppose.

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fennel · 23/01/2006 10:11

i have 3 and currently think it's great. it was a bit too much like hard work in the first year or so, but i only had 4 years between all 3 so it was safety issues of watching sprinting squabbling toddlers really which was hardest for us. and you already have a bigger gap so that won't be so bad.

now (youngest is 21 months, others are 5 and 4) it's really lovely. all 3 are good friends, the older 2, who are really close, are so sweet with their little sister, they include her patiently in all their games (while i get a bit of freedom as my toddler is supervised and entertained by her sisters.

Aloha · 23/01/2006 10:12

There are zillions of reasons not to have any children - I'd be thinner, richer, far, far less tired and might even be living it up in New York at this very moment - but I'm still glad I had two of the sleep-sucking little blighters.

Hallgerda · 23/01/2006 10:27

I have three boys - it's great! They get on well together and there's never a dull moment. I don't think much of your friends' reasons not to have a third. Holidays are improved by the need to go to a nice big cottage, and the children entertaining one another. AFAIK my DH's attentions didn't wander during my third pregnancy. As for getting your body back, isn't it nice to have a break from the pressure to look conventionally beautiful? And among the other advantages, I don't get many invitations to lunch .

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Enid · 23/01/2006 10:34

lol hallgerda

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lemonstartree · 23/01/2006 10:50

I have three boys and its wonderful

Third baby was really really easy, (being pregnant was awful but once he arrived it was great!)....

Would love a fourth

ponygirl · 23/01/2006 11:17

Enid, I'm another fan of three. I have boy-girl-boy, 7, 5 and nearly 3. I love the dynamic of 3: often one will be doing something on their own but the others still have someone to share with. I'm spending much more time with the third than I did with the second, or even the first (apart from when I'm on here, obviously!). Also, the third learns so much from the other two, it's a walk in the park teaching him things. He's learnt the alphabet with dd, counting with dd and his language/communication skills and understanding have been way ahead of the others. I'll be great, honest.