I walked in on very guilty looking 9 year old dd and her friend looking at something under her duvet. She immediately burst into tears and told me they had taken my laptop and typed lesbians into google. I don't have parental controls on my laptop as she and her brother are supposed to stick to the PC in the front room (for obvious reasons). So you can imagine what they've seen. I went through the history and I can only say I felt sickened. I'm pretty sure this is her first exposure into what 'sex' looks like and it's horrific - major pornographic stuff that they looked at. We talked about trust and safety but she was so upset I didn't go very hard on her. Having now had a chance to really look at what she's seen I'm really worried about how she might be processing it. She told me she didn't understand what she saw and she thought it was gross but I do think I should go back to her on this and explain about what is a healthy sexual relationship and what isn't. But I don't want to make it too adult and complex for her to handle. I'm just not sure about the best way to handle it per se. Also, I feel that I should let the parents of the friend know - is there an accepted etiquette on this sort of thing? Ugh - will be keeping my eyes on my own laptop from now on.