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Can my friend move in with me.

37 replies

Keyleighlou · 19/01/2025 20:53

I live in a 1 bed private rental apartment with my boyfriend. My friend has asked if she can move in, she said she will sleep in the living room on a blow up bed. She said she will contribute with bills. I don't know what to say to my landlord? Can someoneonr give me advice please ?

OP posts:
Neodymium · 19/01/2025 20:57

That sounds really uncomfortable, do you really want someone in your living room?

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Keyleighlou · 19/01/2025 20:58

She's a very close friend of mine.

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TheRainItRaineth · 19/01/2025 21:00

Usually there are clauses about not subletting in rental agreements so it is probably not a great idea.

LIZS · 19/01/2025 21:01

Sounds like over-occupancy. How long for?

TooManyCupsAndMugs · 19/01/2025 21:01

I wouldn't. Say you have checked your contract and it says no subletting- max occupancy is 2.

Ilovethewild · 19/01/2025 21:01

Does ur tenancy specify the numbers of people? Eg 1 bed, 2 person flat? Does it mention subletting?

do you want to put your tenancy at risk? Esp while s21 are still legal (no fault evictions)

your good friend needs to find their own accommodation, staying for a week is not the same as moving in!

Itsallgonesideways · 19/01/2025 21:03

Why can't she get a house share or bedsit herself?

coolkatt · 19/01/2025 21:05

No. 3 is a crowd.
This will end up with fights and one relationship will end ur friend or the boyfriend.

hagchic · 19/01/2025 21:08

I imagine that is over-occupancy and would not be allowed in a rented flat.

You would need to check your tenancy agreement and/or speak to your landlord.

Sounds like a terrible idea no matter how good a friend they are - too many people in a small space leads to arguments.

xyz111 · 19/01/2025 21:12

3 people in a 1 bed flat? That's going to be so tight. Is it only a temporary thing?

readingmakesmehappy · 19/01/2025 21:13

How long for? This sounds very cramped and a recipe for disaster.

PizzaPunk · 19/01/2025 21:15

Keyleighlou · 19/01/2025 20:58

She's a very close friend of mine.

That wasn't what the PP asked?

WaltzingWaters · 19/01/2025 21:15

Sounds awful. Far too cramped.

Eldermillenialyogi · 19/01/2025 21:17

Someone in your living room all the time? Three people in a 2 bed place? This sounds uncomfortable and overcrowded. Why and for how long?

Dontbeme · 19/01/2025 21:20

If it was for a week while she was waiting to move to a confirmed new rental/back to home country or similar then yes I would cope for the week.

Moving in with no confirmed end date? No absolutely not, don't care how good a friend. What happens if she wants to go to sleep early, sleep late at weekend, brings a date back, is messy, loud or any combination of things? You just don't have enough space.

pizzaHeart · 19/01/2025 21:22

I’m sure that in your rental agreement there will be a close restricting how long guests can stay for or something similar.
I wouldn’t advise it in general- it’s too uncomfortable and three is always a crowd, unless it’s for a very specific short term e.g. she needs to be out of her rental on Friday and her train to parents will be on Sunday or her new place will be available next Tuesday.

Snowmanscarf · 19/01/2025 21:26

This is never going to work.

How long is she planning to live with you? What if she sleeps in, and you and bf needs to get up for work? Where is she going to out her stuff? What if you and bf want to watch a film together, and she wants an early night? Or where does she go? What if she’s messy? Where was she before?

There was a thread recently whereby someone stayed in a friends spare bedroom and was therefore over six months.

I know that’s not what you are asking, but you need to think things through.

sjs42 · 19/01/2025 21:28

You could let her stay for a defined period of time: 3 nights, let's say. Otherwise your life/relationship will be seriously impacted. You sound kind, but this is a recipe for disaster.

I expect your landlord would not allow it anyway as 3 people in a 1 bed flat probably makes him/her a slum landlord. Don't know the ins and outs of that, but doubt it's within regulations.

MikeRafone · 19/01/2025 21:28

If she is contributing to the bills, that means she is not a guest. I very much doubt you can sublet without the LL permission & he/she will possibly not be allowed by other organisations to let you do this

Land lord insurance for flat for instance may stipulate

so if there was a fire you’d have to pay as insurance wouldn’t as you broke rules etc

ChristmasGrinch24 · 19/01/2025 21:30

I doubt your LL has insurance to cover a extra person.

Tell them no, it'll end up in tears.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/01/2025 21:32

It is obviously a terrible idea but if you really want to find out, ring the landlord or agent and ask if a third person can move into the flat. They will say yes or no, and then you will know.

mumda · 19/01/2025 21:33

Keyleighlou · 19/01/2025 20:58

She's a very close friend of mine.

She won't be within days of her moving in.

FinneganFois · 19/01/2025 21:35

I recently lived in a 1 bed flat in a block of 4 flats, and my neighbours (a couple) hosted a party one weekend, where the girlfriend's brother and his girlfriend and their baby stayed there for 2 nights, along with the boyfriend's male friend, his wife and their 2 primary age children ! Where did they all sleep, it must have been like a tin of sardines ! And they pinched my space on the small residents car park, I knocked on, and they parked on the street instead.

gamerchick · 19/01/2025 21:36

It's a mistake OP. You'll be scrapping really soon.

MounjaroOnMyMind · 19/01/2025 21:37

Your landlord won't want that. Would you and your partner really want that, too?

I think it's the quickest way to lose a friend, really. You'll have no privacy at all.