So who would knows about perimenopause and menopause then .. and how come we aren't taught / don't discuss in advance

[Twiglett]

OK I'm 40 so possibly in reach of the perimenopause which I understand can start 10 years before the menopause

I've had a bug that is also giving me hot sweats, I've also been raging more than normal

I've ordered a book that has been recommended to me but I know nothing

(much as I knew nothing about my cycle 'til I read Toni Weschler's book)

i am lalalala fingers in ears about this

i think i have enough to worry about without adding more lol

I'm in denial.

Surely this can't happen to me soon?

After all, i feel like I've just got over puberty.

So it's just like the first & last trimester of pregnancy combined, but with weight loss not gain, and without a definite finish line?

Oh good.

I'm 44 and will join this club. I'm deffo more stroppy and emotional, and it's not just all the Christmas rubbish. And I look old [wrinkly faced emoticon]. I think I'll ditch the 'makers' in my name and just go with Saggybottomface&knockers. AF is completely up the swanny too - got closer together and now getting further apart. I'm sick of the whole feckin thing already.

My mum was mid to late forties so I'm probably peri-semi-menopausal lol!

Oh FGS I have at least 25 of the 34 signs on that link.

Woe is me.

"I'm 44 and will join this club."

Hang on! This is a thread, it's not a club. I am not in a fucking perimenopausal CLUB!

Just a guess, but I don't think any young 'uns would want to be in this sort of clique. Are you thinking straight, batters? Or are you PERIMENOPAUSAL? aAAGH

it's like a horror film in here where everyone turns into zombies, even the good guys.

It IS a club. And you're all cliquey and young women like me are excluded. I hate MN. Boo hoo.

You're not crying half as much as we are

Oh Gawd, I'm finally in a clique. What a way to start. I don't have any of those signs though, or no more than I have ever had in my life before.

I haven't even looked th signs up. I know I don't have it. I'm still in my 30s

This is a club I don't want to be in either. I'm a mere 41 and also in denial. DofN, you're up the duff you can't join surely?
lol at semi- peri

I think I'm getting here too - I'm 42, and can definitely relate to the rage thing, as well as getting the most horrendous spots completely randomly, where before when I've had spots they've always been related to when my period starts. Just waiting for the rest of the symptoms to manifest themselves. I like that Power Surge website.

Maybe we should ask MN for our own topic section?

I have had 6 menopauses

It's seriously weird. (IVF-related btw)

It's the loss of mental capacity that worries me. If you ever looked at your menopausal mother trying to finish a sentence and thought "Oh god why is she so slow?" then Be Afraid.

Begone Pruni, you young thing you...

35, tamum
with FSH that is apparently 10 years older than I am
and a family of women who all had early menopause

Apparently this does not explain why ivf isn't working, btw - I have asked.....

I get the trying to finish a sentence occasionally already - can't remember fairly ordinary words.

I say the worng word a fair bit and have no knowledge of saying the wrong word until someone shouts at me. I kept calling a camera a phone the other day. I did it three times.

twiglett has ruined my new year

It's like you have just been dropped onto a tv set and are supposed to improvise the conversation.
It feels like everyone's watching you (which they are, because it's your turn to speak, and after all, you did start speaking).