So who would knows about perimenopause and menopause then .. and how come we aren't taught / don't discuss in advance

[Twiglett]

OK I'm 40 so possibly in reach of the perimenopause which I understand can start 10 years before the menopause

I've had a bug that is also giving me hot sweats, I've also been raging more than normal

I've ordered a book that has been recommended to me but I know nothing

(much as I knew nothing about my cycle 'til I read Toni Weschler's book)

No - I refuse to look at it as a totally bad thing - knowledge is power, and all that. There must be something good we can find in it...

Isn't there a Germaine Greer book about the menopause? Might be worth a read too.

lol at prism (are you Pruni?)

Oh yes fear of fifty is it about menopause?

oh I can't stick germaine greer. That would b e the last straw, having to read a book by an old prune like greer

(no offence to pruni meant)

I am Pruni

I found this name in a book of silly names

I have to say I am pretty scared of the menopause. I want to have something about me that is noteworthy/professional/respectable by then, because the idea of seeming witless and fifty and unaccomplished really isn't a nice one.

I think I was thinking of The Change. It's a long, long time since I read the Female Eunuch, but I'd be willing to give this one a try, so to speak. Not sure how much practical help it would be though.

oh jackie, no

even the review of that book makes me barf - 'strident feminism' and 'every woman's birthright'. I feel about 103 now

(Fear of Fifty is Erica Jong, apparently, WWW - and not particularly about the menopause, from the very sketchy details on the Amazon link).

I'm not saying I'd necessarily agree with all of it, pinetreedog, but I'd still be interested to give it a go (maybe get it from the library, so I don't actually have to buy it though).

Well I was hoping that with the menopause there'd be a change in my libido. Like I might actually find it again. [eager]

And my thighs look dreadfully cellulity so if there's a Change to be had they may improve too.

Trying to find some positives here.......help me out.....

erm, you won't have periods any more, saggars? Is that a positive?

I don;t think a tinder-dry fanjo is going to help libido, saggar

yes, no periods a posisitve of sorts.

Oh yes no periods - how could I forget that one?

My luck will be I'll get a raging libido back and then either have a fanjo as dry as the Sahara or dh will get an attack of the wilts.

You forgot about it because you are PERIMENOPAUSLA

lol pinetreedog, oh no, this is all horrific sounding

stop talking about dry fanjos you lot, ewww

We could be the KY Klub .

snurk @ KY Club

Oh sorry Klub

yeah, give us a topic. We can all finish each others' sentences