So who would knows about perimenopause and menopause then .. and how come we aren't taught / don't discuss in advance

[Twiglett]

OK I'm 40 so possibly in reach of the perimenopause which I understand can start 10 years before the menopause

I've had a bug that is also giving me hot sweats, I've also been raging more than normal

I've ordered a book that has been recommended to me but I know nothing

(much as I knew nothing about my cycle 'til I read Toni Weschler's book)

Oh no santa. Didn't he want children or have I rememberd that wrong? We have a dd but I realise that's no guarantee he won't go off with a younger/nicer model...

pmsl in a scared way sobernow

yep thats the one..dont know how he is getting on with project

he found he couldnt pay his rent and moved into his mums lol

he decided he wanted 4 children on nil income ill be surprised if he does..anyway he will lose interest after the first

you might prefer cats by then, sober.

And I've called myself and friends 'old birds'. It's a term of endearment

seriously i went into panic mode thinking that i would never have sex again after he left

but i neednt have worried

take the stick, sober, take the stick

or nonchalantly pick up a small branch and 'pretend' it's helping you up hills

oh u can get those power walking sticks they are quite acceptable

doggie - I am not thrilled at being an old bird, but am quite flattered by the rest of your comments

I give the impression to the rest of the world that I am 10 yrs younger by having young children (had 'em in early 40s as mentioned below) and by hanging round with younger people - that include dh BTW

oh and dying the grey hair helps too

so my top tips:

have a baby in your early 40s and get a younger man

doesnt a younger man make u look older tho

Santababy - only if you go out in daylight together

I think you've done the right thing having children later.

Mother Nature is seriously cruel giving me the menopause and 3 teenagers both at the same time.

Tick to:
baby in early 40s
younger man
dye hair

Actually, seriously, does having children later have any bearing at all on anything? [desperate emoticon] I think you are supposed to live longer if have children later but, what, live longer as a dried up old prune?

Early 40s + toddler + menopause = aaaaaaaaaaaargggggghhhhhhhhhhh

I had first baby at 30, second at 36/7

I think we ought to put a shout out for mumsnetters who have been through the menopause to come here and tell us about it, anyone think that's a good idea? A sort of "menopause with mumsnet" thread.

that sounds grim

still havent read that link i just dont like medical stuff

dont take medication either so i doubt id be taking hrt

and it would probably have some wildly unacceptable affect on my brain and i would be another kind of nutter from uasual

Go for it www. If I've got to get used to drinking Soya milk everyday and eating seeds I need time to get used to the idea.

Hello again. I had a quick look at The List and gave up after about ten things as it was just too depressing. I have a sister who is 11 years older than me and I remember when my mum was menapausal - if I am going to follow them then poor dh and ds are in big trouble!

Does having a baby when I was 33 count as latish motherhood? also dh is younger - well, okay, only by 7 months but still, younger.

so does a younger guy make you have a latere menopause then

Don't know but am hoping that it does!

yes WWW .. exactly

we need MNers who have been through it to come and spread their knowledge and wisdom

(I'm taking soya supplements as of today just in case )

so soya supplements and a younger man are good what else

So Twig - spill the (Soya) beans. What are you taking and how much?

crap..just read list of symptoms and reckon im in the perimenopause(im 36 this year)