I DON'T KNOW WERE TO START REALLY BUT HERE GOES....
I HAVE TWO LITTLE GIRLS AGES 4 1/2 AND 2 1/2.
THERE BIO FATHER NEVER BOTHERED WITH EITHER AFTER WE SPLIT WHICH WAS WHEN MY 4 YEAR OLD WAS 18MONTHS OLD AND 2 YEAR OLD WAS JUST BORN.
THEN WHEN 4 YEAR OLD WAS 2 1/2 HE TOOK ME TO COURT AND WANTED CONTACT WHICH HE WANTED! IN A CONTACT CENTRE.
THE COURT AGREED BUT IT NEVER GOT OFF THE GROUND CAUSE IT CAUSED MY NOW 4 YEAR OLD TOO MUCH UPSET.. I PROMOTED CONTACT AS MUCH AS POSS BUT SHE WOULDN'T GO IN WITH HIM.
MY 2ND LOVLEY HUSBAND HAS BROUGHT MY CHIDLREN UP SINCE MY SPLIT WITH MY EX HUSBAND AND MY CHILDREN LOOK ON MY HUSBAND AS THERE DAD (THERE OUR CHILDREN IF YOU GET WHAT I MEAN).
I NEVER STOPPED MY EX SEEING THE KIDS EVER. BUT HE STOPPED GOING TO THE CONTACT CENTRE WENT BACK TO COURT AND ASKED FOR A REPORT TO BE GONE ON MY 4 YEAR OLD (WAS 3 AT THE TIME) AS HE THOUGHT I WAS TURNING HER HEAD AGAINST HIM.
THE COURT AGREED - I HAD NO CHOICE... SO A MEETING WAS HELP FOR THEM TO LOOK AT MY DAUGHTER AND IT CAME BACK THAT SHE JUST DIDNT UNDERSTAND HIM AND WAS CHOISING TO REJECT HIM HELFSELF!! KEEP TRYING WITH MEETINGS AND MAY BE SHE WOULD BREAK..
ALL THIS WAS SO STRESSFUL FOR EVERYONE INCLUDING ME AND MY HUBBY.. WE HAD TO CUDDLE HER TO SLEEP MOST NIGHTS AFTER ONCE A TWO HOUR MONTH VISIT TO THIS CONTACT CENTRE.
THEN MY EX STOPPED COMING TO SEE HER.. AND APPLIED TO COURT FOR INDIRECT CONTACT ORDER...
AGAIN THE COURT AGREED HE COULD WRITE TO HER AND SEND PRESENTS AND CARDS ETC...
BUT GUESS WHAT - HE HASN'T BOTHERED!!! NEARLY 12 MONTHS LATER NOW...
THAT A BIT OF THE BACK GROUND ANY WAY...
I AM LOOKING FOR HELP TO GET US THROUGH WHAT IS HAPPENING NOW..
WE RECEIVED A LETTER TO CONFIRM THAT MY EX AGREES TO ME AND MY HUBBY ADOPTING BOTH GIRLS.
WE DROPPED IN TEARS WITH JOY...!!!!
BUT .. HE HAS FOUND OUT SHE AS JUST STARTED SCHOOL AND IS PHONING THE SCHOOL TO ARRANGE A VIEWING ETC...!!!!!
HE HAS HAD NO CONTACT WITH EITHER CHILD FOR OVER 12 MONTHS.
I HAVE AN INDIRECT CONTACT ORDER IN PLACE WHICH STATES I HAVE TO SEND A COPY OF THE SCHOOL REPORT ETC... BUT I DON'T HAVE ANY ADDRESS OR CONTACT NUMBER ETC FOR HIM..
AND HE IS TELLING THE SCHOOL HE IS GOING TO THE EDUCATIONAL BOARD TO REPORT THEM IF THEY DON'T GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS!!!
I AM WORN OUT AND IN SUCH A STATE.. I WANT TO PROTECT MY CHILDREN BUT THE LAW SEEMS TO LET HIM IN AND OUT AS HE WANTS....
IF I WENT BACK TO COURT DO YOU THINK THEY WOULD REMOVE HIS PARENTAL RIGHTS?
PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I GO OUT MY MIND PLEASE..