Would you want to know if you were recognised??

[JeremyVile]

Because I think i know someone on MN from RL, well actually i know i do, we used to work together.
My first thought when i realised was "ooh how exciting i'll give her a nudge".
We used to get on really well but i wouldn't say we were friends as such. We had a laugh at work but that was it. She left and we didn't stay in touch.
But she's a regular poster and some of her posts have been fairly personal. The last thing i would want is for her to be embarrassed, and i know that for a lot of people the beauty of MN is that its anonymous.
It would be great to catch up and i would certainly have no intention of bringing up any of her issues but my over-riding feeling is that its probably best left alone just incase.
So if it were you would you want to know?
I cant really answer my own question as i'm a cowardly name-changer for really personal issues !(for the very fact that someone may know me in RL who i wouldn't otherwise have chosen to share my problems with).

is it me

I think I would want to know and I don't think I'd mind too much, particularly if I'd gotten on well with you in rl.
Is it me?

I'd rather know - definitely !

Yes, I'd want to know.

if its me -0 tell me

Well, I know it's not me, as I checked out your profile. If she was that embarrased about a post, she would have name changed, I do.

If it's me, I don't mind if you tell me!

I don't think I write terribly personal posts though. I don't think I've written anything I'm ashamed of so it's probably not me!

so how would you tell them?
on here?

Nope, don't know you - just looked at your pic!

No not on here - do contact a mumsnetter !

So far no, but you've all made my mind up.
If she happens to respond on this thread and says she'd like to know then fine otherwise i'll leave it (the same applies obviously if she replies that she'd rather not know).
Also, there's the chance that she might recognise me too.

I would want to know, and was in a very similar position to you.

I told the person as otherwise she would have continued posting and I would have felt like I was spying on her - ie I knew who she was but she didn't know that I knew iyswim.

I told her who I was on MN as well.

Bump this thread when you know she is around.

I'd want to know. She could always change her name if she was embarrassed

Oh god NSF i din't think of that!!
I'm not a spy, i'm not a spy
Oh god, now i feel awful i wish i hadn't said anything!!

I'd want to know.

At least if she does know you & she realises it is her, she is then aware that you are around. She could change her name or post less personal stuff...iykwim

Pretty sure its not me lol, but if it was then yes would want to know !!

is it me??

I don't think I would want to know.... but I would have to NEVER know.

If I knew that someone I knew had known squonk was me all along, I would be mortified.

So either tell her, or don't, but if you decide not to, then NEVER LET IT SLIP OUT!

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i;d definitely want to know...it is easy to forget that here , we are not always truly anonymous, and sometimes a timely reminder is necessary..to save someones blushes or to make sure they don;t feel awkward.

it's not me then

I would definately want to know - in fact someone outed me on here recently, and phoned me and left a message on my answer machine..

I was grateful, thought about changing my name for future posts, then decided against it..

I think I would want to know. I don't think it would bother me as I already know some people who post on here in RL.

id want to know. well, i think i would...