I was thinking about this the other day after chatting with a few friends, then spotted Tamba's thread and it got me thinking - does anybody look back on losing their virginity as a positive experience?
I lost my virginity to my first serious boyfriend at 17, about a week into the relationship, in his best mates bedroom, during a free period at school, all over within a minute or so. I spent the rest of the night in my room feeling really wierd. Not even sure if that was it, the relationship was over - we'd never told each other we loved each other at that point and hadn't even clarified whether we were exclusive.
When I look back on the year I had with my ex, I regret the whole experience - it was a relationship where coming out of it I felt used, bruised and battered. Literally.
My second partner is now my DH, we have been together for 6 years, married for 2.5 with a nearly 1 year old dd. Our first time wasn't ideal (in a local park at 11:00 at night, blush, blush!) but it was later in the relationship - we'd told each other how we felt about each other, he'd already told me he was going to marry me (!!). But was that experience better based on learning from my mistakes from the ex?
I just wondered if anybody had any positive experiences. If not, it makes me feel sad for when my daughter gets older, knowing the kind of feelings she may be having but totally unwilling to talk to me about it.