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Reports of Zombie's demise...

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IamtheZombie · 30/09/2013 16:56

have been greatly exaggerated. She may be a wee bit battered and bruised, but she bends and doesn't break.

Most of you probably know her back story but, for those who don't, here's a very brief recap:

The last 2 1/2 years have been absolutely horrendous: family crises, a breast cancer diagnosis and 20 months of treatment for that, bereavements and sorting out her late MIL's estate. As you can imagine, she found it a struggle at times.

Just under a year ago, DZOH began an "inappropriate" on-line relationship with a woman he "met" playing scrabble on Facebook. At the time he was spending most of his time at his mum's house in Nottingham sorting things out and putting it on the market. The on-line relationship fairly quickly progressed to a full blown physical affair. The woman lives in Wales and he would pay her train fare to come to Nottingham to see him. Zombie was fully aware of everything that was going on and tried to do everything she could to save her marriage. He left Zombie in mid-February, first staying in Nottingham before moving in with her in mid-March. He continued to come back to DDS to take Zombie to her hospital treatments. In mid-May he started making reference to coming back to her. He finally did so in mid-August. Two weeks after he came back they went to Kos for a fortnight. Halfway through the holiday he told her that he was leaving as soon as they returned to the UK. Which he duly did on Friday, 13th September.

Zombie went through all the trauma, drama and devastation between October and August. That is behind her. She's relieved that that it is finally over. A few nights ago she realised that she was sitting here completely relaxed and smiling for no reason. It's as though an enormous weight has been lifted from her.

She's currently packing up his belongings, deciding what she needs to replace, etc. He will come with a man and a van in a few weeks time to remove everything. There are obviously other pracicalities to be sorted out but they are doing so in as amicable a manner as possible.

Can Zombie please ask those of you who are Facebook friends with her NOT to say anything publicly on there about any of this.

Onwards and upwards. Wink

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sanssoleil · 27/11/2013 23:05

Thanks Zombie I did think of that but didn't want to be cheekyBlush

It is going to be really boring for her though!

I don't think I ever posted anything profound/maybe my Marxist views on Public School educated girls in this lovely City.....

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 27/11/2013 23:18

Gosh, sounds like it's all getting a bit complicated!

I don't think I will ever get used to the idea that some people use forums like this to pursue and hassle anyone, particularly anyone vulnerable.
I'm really sorry you've experienced that soleil, not sure whether you are vulnerable or you are fighting the corner of someone who is, either way, it's unforgivable.

Zombie doesn't need to be nervous. We have chatted quite a bit one way or another for the last few weeks. She can rest assured that after a few Wines I will forget everything Grin

Hic!

sanssoleil · 27/11/2013 23:31

We have all fallen off the paranoid tree ce soirWine

what is occurringSmile?

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 27/11/2013 23:35

Do you mean we are paranoid? Or we were and now we're not? Grin

sanssoleil · 28/11/2013 00:03

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 28/11/2013 01:04

I've PMed you soleil* but the bloody thing won't send!

I'm going to try once more but I need to crash, so if it doesn't work I'll try again in the morning Smile

Flinkin' Zombie threads!

sanssoleil · 28/11/2013 01:13

I got one PM

Lucky people who shleep ehEnvy

Definitely this Zombie thread I have tried to reply to Zombie and it won't send from inboxAngry

Maybe we are subversives and seditious and ist verboten to associate?

I am definitely having really crap adverts too

IamtheZombie · 28/11/2013 07:55

Zombie has just sent PMs to Bewitched and soleil via Message poster. It seems to be working for her.

Perhaps Zombie has special powers of which she was previously unaware.

Wink
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IamtheZombie · 28/11/2013 08:01

soleil, Zombie has just reported your first post where you said you couldn't PM from here and asked MNHQ to take a look and see if they can identify the problem.

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Fiderer · 28/11/2013 08:32

Glad to hear you're feeling better Zombie and sorry to read about all the insomnia and paranoia, must be because your Zombie powers were affected by the lurgy.

If you're up to it, can you beam a few powers this way? ExH is arriving in 2 hours and will stay till Sunday. Neighbours (rightly) complained about overgrown hedges/brambles/damage to their sheds etc. and I got a quote for it which exH refused to pay half of because he said it was too much. Agree that the guy overcharges, but no one else available and us paying half each would have been OK imo.

So he's coming as it's a hol today. His partner will come on Saturday and stay overnight as they're doing Christmassy parties with the children & gps. FidGirl's excited esp as he's taking her to see the new Hunger Games film in English tomorrow night. FidBoy2 is unsettled and may stay away as much as he can to avoid seeing his dad.

I have gin but fortitude and calming vibes would help. I feel so on edge when he's here, even for an hour, let alone 4 days.

Fiderer · 28/11/2013 08:33

Happy Thanksgiving - I forgot to say! Must go and see if Tee was successful with her lobbying for a turkey.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 28/11/2013 11:07

Got Zombie's PM this morning, have only just logged on.

Only two more sleeps till Saturday!

Sending calm and fortitude for Fiderer and more gin just in case Smile

Happy Thanksgiving everyone Flowers

sanssoleil · 28/11/2013 11:18

I have 'gone off' gin Fiderer and have an unopened bottle you can have!

Happy Channukah

Happy Thanksgiving

And tomorrow we shop

AmyMumsnet · 28/11/2013 15:50

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your report.

Are some of you still having problems with the message poster button not working?

IamtheZombie · 28/11/2013 16:09

Thanks for looking into this, Amy.

Thanks
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sanssoleil · 28/11/2013 16:13

Hey Amy,I can't use the message poster button on this thread

Although it is not a problem on other threads

Thank you

AmyMumsnet · 28/11/2013 17:18

Hello again,

No problem Zombie

We've passed this along to tech, so hopefully they'll be able to work out which gremlins have got into this thread!

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 28/11/2013 17:30

Wow, Zombie gets good service from HQ!

How did the shopping go?

Fiderer · 28/11/2013 18:31

Thanks Bewitched (love that song) and sanssoleil for the virtual gin and fortitude thoughts.
FidBoy2 did stay away but FidGirl is chattering away to her dad in the kitchen. I pretended I'd eaten earlier so they can have dinner alone and speak German.

Fiderer · 28/11/2013 18:44

God sorry to hijack your thread Zombie

sanssoleil · 28/11/2013 18:52

Things sound stressful FidererSad

You will have to raid the fridge and get something to eat

I can't imagine the Hunger Games is substantively better in English than German!

Hope all the jobs getting done

I am dreading the delivery of my new mattress tomorrow

But that thought should probably filed under the Triumph of Hope over Experience delusional states
myGin to you

Fiderer · 28/11/2013 20:05

Sorry I'm not near enough to offer at the very least a skinny teen to help with your mattress.
Thanks again for the good wishes - it's been an odd day.

IamtheZombie · 28/11/2013 23:37

Zombie apologises for neglecting you all today. It was an early start and a busy day.

Fid, there is no hijacking of any of Zombie's threads. This is the public version of The Dustbinâ„¢ and we all support each other.

Zombie may not be around much until Sunday night. Tomorrow is another busy day and she's off to the London meet up on Saturday.

She loves you all and will be thinking of you. xxx

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sanssoleil · 28/11/2013 23:46

Big love to Zombie

Thanks for skinny teen offer Fid

Still no PM function

OutcastSad

Jacksmania · 29/11/2013 00:26

Fid, good luck with ex and all that. I don't know all your story but I take it you live in Germland? Having been born to German parents, I sympathise. :o Blush

Zombie, have a blast at the meet-up. Some day maybe I'll get to meet some of you :)

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