I have just been cautioned by the Police

[rickman]

Feel crap, although I think they left hating my ex more than I do.

Oh no, what happened, if you don't mind me asking?

what's the story rickman?

rickman What has happened?

About a month ago,exp came round and was being his usual charming self. I asked him to give ds back to me and he wouldn't, he started walking off with him. I ended up slapping his face to get ds back and he rang the police. Today they came and cautioned me, I had to do fingerprints and dna.

For slapping your ex in the chops ?! What a twat to report you. Sorry rickman

Well, he's an arse and no mistake - don't let it get you down Rickman. On the grand scale of things it's no big shakes, hold your head high and don't let the bastard bring you down.

that your xp had the nerve to report you, and double that you got a caution for trying to protect your child.

report him back for kidnap .. assuming you have custody .. or can't you do that?

actually don't .. this is your family and you don't need to exacerbate a bad situation .. poor you rickman

poor you, that's so cowardly of him calling the police. I bet they were really pleased to be wasting their time on his 'complaint'!!

Outrageous. What did they say about his behaviour?

bloody hell rickman, that's awful ((( rickman )))

thats awful
How old is DS?
Who would ds rather be with?

OMG

Once they had heard the background, they were very sympathetic. They thought he sounded like a bully. They are passing my details on to their domestic violence team, as they thought that they might be able to offer me some advice.

I've had a solicitors letter from him as well, regarding access to ds2. Freckle helped me with a reply, but I haven't sent it yet. Not sure if I should change it now to reflect what has happened today. The Police said that I would be in my rights to ask him not to visit the house, not sure how that will affect contact though.

You poor thing. What an arse of an ex. Hope your ok.

How do you feel about being friends with a criminal Fio?

Sounds like they got the true picture then.

What these arses put us through, eh?

rickman-you are within your rights to ask him not to come to the property anymore-it shouldn't affect contact if you are able to find a neutral venue for handovers or better still a neutral person.

Sounds like you have a right arse to deal with, really feel for you

I'm so sorry Rickman, I've lurked on a few of your postings but never replied before. You should consider talking to the domestic violence team as you don't want to be in the position of everything offical being him reporting you. He has no absolute right to come to the house - handing over in a neutral place seems to be the way to go. Perhaps you could tell him its for his own protection as you are obviously such a dangerous woman .

Big jessie, I can't believe he reported you for slapping him