Gay

[welshboris]

Do you honestly think a man can look at gay sites and maybe even chat to men and not be gay?

Do you think he will ever act on these feelings?

I stupidly helped a married friend search her hubbys pc histoty, msn chat logs websites visited etc.

Shes in bits, do you think he will come out? Do you think some men just browse and be curious?

They have no children, both 25 and he has had many sexual partners before her, all female as far as she knows

Well said hmc. Nearly posted something along those lines myself.

couidlnyt you haev deleted them?

Woah now, lets not get heated, thats not why I posted here

Yes sorry welshboris

I cant lie, full stop

And you cant delete real life Cod

oh god but wow this is a real life conunrum
think id have lied

my BIl fixed his nighbours pc and saw all his history! 9 adult porn luckily)

well, if you had only found evidence of just browsing a few websites, yes you could conclude that it is just curiosity or another innocent explanation. however, if you add all the 'circumstancial' evidence together,such as the profile, the regularity of the visits and being so secretive about his SMN, it would be reasonable to suspect that he is actully interested and maybe gay.

welshboris, you did the right thing in helping your friend I think.

Sounds like big time lack of communication between the two of them, which is not healthy in any relationship.

It's not the fact he's looking at gay sites, it's the secrecy of it.

no god no
id be a lying fish

shall i change back to cod

FGS - keep yer bloody wig on - did I say looking at child porn is acceptable?

oh calm down guys mistel what wodul ou haev done
ytold the oman ehr dh had looked at gay sites?

cant hese come as pop ups too?

Yeah i cant see it lasting, regardless of the gay stuff.

Shes not going to do anything about it,and ill never be able to look at him again

No you didn't Mistletoo, but the analogy wasn't a good one and perhaps a little inflammatory. Hence the wig hurling!

So if I said my dh has a profile on a gay website and frequents gay chat rooms and msns with other gay and bi men and that both of us were happy with this, would that make you look at me and him differently, should you know us in rl?

Oh bu66er this, im off to do some work, I only wanted some advice not to start a fight or to be asked what i think of men who look at gay porn

Its not about me

well first off I wouldn't be trawling through dh's stuff!

and my view is if he's interested enough to be looking he'd probably, given the 'right' circumstances, give it a whirl.

and I think if I now knew I'd have to ask him about it - you'd drive yourself nuts otherwise (well I would!)

ohg od i look thought my dhs

QE - why on earth would I? if you're both happy with the situation that's all that matters.

This woman is clearly not happy!

Blimey welshboris - how long have you been mumsnetting. You think that was a fight?

my mouth makes like a fish - you wouldn't?

Ha ha , not very long, I usually stay away from fights, unless its about football or breastfeeding

Well if you enter breastfeeding brawls you must be a tough old boot deep down. I wouldn't dare!

I have!

Not tough or an old boot, but just passionate about boob feeding