Gay

[welshboris]

Do you honestly think a man can look at gay sites and maybe even chat to men and not be gay?

Do you think he will ever act on these feelings?

I stupidly helped a married friend search her hubbys pc histoty, msn chat logs websites visited etc.

Shes in bits, do you think he will come out? Do you think some men just browse and be curious?

They have no children, both 25 and he has had many sexual partners before her, all female as far as she knows

Mistletoo, that wasn't necesasarily aimed at you specifically, it was a rather more general though maybe it didn't look like it, sorry

Really, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, if the partenrs are both happy then it should bother no one else, should it?

In this case, she is not happy so therein lies the problem, and one that needs sorting out - I for one could not leave it if I had found stuff like that on my dh's history, I would have to ask.

Right on break now so can post properly

I would have to know, something is obviously deeply wrong with their realtionship if there is such a massive lie floating about.

I did this Saturday whilst he was in football, spoke to her last night and she was dismissive of it, she said it doesnt bother her, as long as he doesnt meet up with anyone then its not a problem.

But would she feel the same way if he had been talking to women? I dont think so.

If she confronts him with the evidence I think she is afraid that her world will come tumbling down. Perfect house, holidays, socialsing in couples etc.

Thank the lord im single is all i can say!!

Anyone else now got the urge to rummage through the history???

QE - In answer to your question... if they are happy and it is all open, then its fine by me - just like swinging and anything else - not my choice, but if it were to work for you, then go for it.

I don't see how she can function normally with this knowledge - in your first post you said she was 'in bits' now it doesn't bother her? Seems to be a lack of trust in the relationship.

I wish them well though.

this history thing - do you have separate histories? we use one computer and have one history that anyone can see

we have xp
two accounts

Do you think im a troll?????

Oh for gods sake, Im in work, I cant post on my usual board (bbc, my user name is welshshe-ra) as my friend sometimes looks at our friday question thing.

and i recently met up with rubysmummy off here to give her stuff for the tommys baby sale in swansea

my god, ill send you all my cv if you want

She was in bits whilst she thought it was a woman

now shes fine

arf
w elsh she ra
the princess of pwer

We have seperate sections on the pc (so I don't have to have all his gaming stuff in faves, and he doesn't have my mummy sites ), so seperate histories too.

oh history as in on your pc

ill go sit in the corner now

triple nsort

yeah welshshe-ra princess of leeks and dragons

I thought I recognised your name anyway... has someone mentioned trolls??? I'm lost!!!

no, me being paranoid because im not a regular

lmao!! Less lost now... you sound like you might be needing my map though

wb - who thinks you're a troll?

she's ok cos its not a woman? bizarre - she might stand a chance against a woman if he really is gay she's had it!

Fish - I don't understand? [thick I know] we have XP - how 2 accounts?

It does make a difference whether it's a woman or not. It's socially acceptable for a man to run off with another woman, but not to run off with another bloke. Not many men are that brave, so maybe from the pov of them splitting up, she need not worry.

You can set it up so that each user has their own section - you log in (can be password protected too if you really want), and everything from there on in is how you want it - you choose the layout, backgrounds, faves, and all the history etc is your own.

But if it was a woman, thats something they could get over.

If its a man, and he was confronted with it, what if he came out? That would be game over

did anyone see that prog a couple of weeks ago - can't remember the name - but it was a lovely couple who were married and had kids then he came out as gay but she supported him and they still love together, he just goes off for weekends but is always longing to get back home to his wife - it was bizarre but lovely

Yeah if he had an affair with a woman, its sad, but his mates would pat him on the back

If it was a man, social outcast

flame - well you learn something new everyday. have to say though if dh wanted to do that I would be worried!

oops Freudian slip there 'live' together

welshboris - it depends whether he does actually want to live as gay. If he is just curious and likes to have a browse and a chat, then that in itself need not spell the end of the relationship. That's why they need to talk - your friend is brushing it under the carpet which will not help. But then she is in shock I guess, so atm you can't blame her for that. When this has all died down a bit, would she be able to talk to him, confront him about his intentions?