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DD (2) Pushed Off Slide at Nursery

39 replies

Mojomummy · 11/08/2005 23:49

...I am furious !!!

DH picks DD up from nursery & when I got home tonight, she has a MASSIVE bump & purple mark between her eyes.

Apparently someone (won't say who) pushed her off the slide. Obviously DD was very upset & a cold compress was applied & given lots of cuddles. Oh & an accident report was completed (does this make it all right ?)

I am furious because I can not understand how this happened. DD has friends to play & has a slide, but is always closely monitored.

I feel they weren't taking proper care of my beloved & also the other children.

Am I over reacting ?

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wheresmyfroggy · 11/08/2005 23:53

Our dd regularly falls off the slide in our garden, there is no way we would be able to catch her everytime. Sometimes even when you are watching things happen really quickly.

Hope your dd is okay poor thing.

Jimjams · 12/08/2005 08:54

yes you are over-reacting. good nurseries don't pass on details about who pushed who. Accident book is good , sometimes if it involves other children an incident book is signed as well- but depends on the circumstances. I think with littlies these things happen, and usually very quickly. Part of growing up and not possible to prevent every time.

Hope she's feeling better soon.

FairyMum · 12/08/2005 08:58

Yes you are over reacting. These things happens when children play. My DS1 was pushed off the slide in nursery at 18 months and ended up in A&E. In fact he has little accidents in nursery on a very regular basis and I don't think anything of it. I think it sounds like your nursery hadled it well

loujay · 12/08/2005 09:01

Its always upsetting when your child is hurt, no matter whether you are ther or not. My DD has been bitten at nursery, once the mark stayed for days! Although we were upset we took the view that we had placed her at the nursery because we loved it AND the people looking after her. They were as upset as we were and told us that the child concerned had been spoken to and the childs parents. Accidents and upsets happen, at this age its part of learning boundaries. If your DD is happy there then just take it in your stride and dont panic.Hope this helps. Lou

loujay · 12/08/2005 09:01

Its always upsetting when your child is hurt, no matter whether you are ther or not. My DD has been bitten at nursery, once the mark stayed for days! Although we were upset we took the view that we had placed her at the nursery because we loved it AND the people looking after her. They were as upset as we were and told us that the child concerned had been spoken to and the childs parents. Accidents and upsets happen, at this age its part of learning boundaries. If your DD is happy there then just take it in your stride and dont panic.Hope this helps. Lou

loujay · 12/08/2005 09:01

Sorry.........over eager fingers this morning!!

Nemo1977 · 12/08/2005 09:04

sorry but agree with others. I stay at home with ds so know only too well how easy it is for accidents to happen. Also at toddler group he has been pushed, bitten, kicked etc and I have seen him do similair to other children. He is told off etc but it is all part of growing up unfortunately. The nursery have followed any health and safety procedures but it is natural to feel vexed when your child is hurt.

LilacLotus · 12/08/2005 09:04

DD gets pushed/kicked/pinched/hit sometimes at nursery and she did the same to other kids when she just started there. i found it upsetting to hear she was hurting other kids but i realized it is all part of her learning how to behave in a social group. they always fill in an accident report and give me a note explaining what happened. there are 38 kids in her nursery and 3 teachers. they cannot possibly prevent every bump. i hope you DD is ok.

Twiglett · 12/08/2005 09:08

yes you are over-reacting

DD got pushed off a slide last week .. by her brother .. I was watching .. it happens

harpsichordcarrier · 12/08/2005 09:32

I agree that you are UNDERSTANDABLY over-reacting to what sounds like a really normal incident. Could just as easily happen to anyone of us, in whatever environment. it's horrible when our babies are hurt and we feel guilty - but we shouldn't.
hope DD is better this morning.

morningpaper · 12/08/2005 09:42

It's very difficult especially when you know your child was crying and you weren't there to comfort her.

Unfortunately it is just one of those things. My dd (also 2) got pushed down the stairs recently at nursery!! Fortunately she told me who did it (a known trouble-maker!) which helped me understand the context a bit, but I still felt guilty that I wasn't there.

Hope she is ok soon!

katierocket · 12/08/2005 09:47

yes you are over reacting. Stuff like this happens, they are children and children do things like this.

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Mojomummy · 12/08/2005 09:57

thanks girls

My concern, is obviously DD's welfare. BUT, I am also concerned the slide/playground activities were not properly supervised.

Yes appreciate that accidents happen, but again, feel that accidents can be avoided.

We pay for her to be cared for & supervised & I feel that perhaps she's not as safe there as I thought

I'm going to ask how many staff were on duty & suggest that outside play is more closely monitored...

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Hulababy · 12/08/2005 10:09

Sadly these things will happen. DD has had some accidents at nursery, and it is horrible when you know your child has been hurt when you are not there.

But, IMO, I don't think these type of accidents can be entirely avoided unless there is constant one to one supervision of each child, This is obviously not possible in a nursery, and TBh I don't think it would be that great for the children to be watched so carefully constantly either.

Understandable that you are upset, but inevitable that these things happen I'm afraid.

katierocket · 12/08/2005 10:12

it is impossible to completely stop these type of things happening. And I think to a degree you have to let go. If it was happening every week then you'd have grounds for concern but otherwise don't think there is a problem.

rickman · 12/08/2005 10:17

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Milge · 12/08/2005 10:22

If it is a one off incident, then you need to chalk it up to experience. If you are being asked to sign the accident book every time you collect your dd from nursery, or even every week, i would then start asking questions re supervision, another troublesome child, etc. Depends on the circumstances. I have to sign virtually every day for my ds because he falls over his own feet, is forever in scrapes, bounces off things, etc. However, i know that this is just him because he does it at home. Not being able to supervise everything that happens is part and parcel of placing kids in nurseries. Knowing when there is a problem and when its just "kids" is also a new skill you have to learn!( as if mums didn't have enough to do). Hope you feel better soon about it.

colditz · 12/08/2005 10:23

You couldn't completely stop it happening even if the children had one to one care, and you are understandably upset, but these things are sometimes genuinely unpreventable.

Short of putting every other child in a strait jacket, there is no way of stopping children pushing each other if they decide on the spur of the moment to do so.

FairyMum · 12/08/2005 10:28

I sign the accident book at least once a week, but if I had an accidnet book at home it would be pretty full up by now too. Actually the serious accidnets my children have had is at home and I feel they are safer in nursery as the staff seem pretty paranoid about looking after them to prevent anything from happening. But obviously can't prevent everyting.
Anyway, try to look at it as something positive. A child who is never allowed to fall over and get the odd bruise, is not allowed to develop essential skills to look after themselves. It's just part of their development.

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Mojomummy · 12/08/2005 11:28

...yes that's right, interesting point about developing the essential skills to look after themselves I'm just relieved she didn't split her head open.

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katierocket · 12/08/2005 11:32

do you really think children can be monitored every second of every day to ensure things like this don't happen ever?
once a day or once a week, get concerned, once in a while, don't worry about it.

morningpaper · 12/08/2005 11:50

Gosh I probably sign the accident book every week too - but half the time the staff will say "You see this mark here" and I can't see anything at all - I think they are just super-cautious!

morningpaper · 12/08/2005 11:53

Mojomummy: Do you have good reasons to believe that the nursery isn't taking very good care of your dd or are your statements referring to this incident in particular?

If your comments are just about this then I really think you are over-reacting and perhaps being a little heavy handed. If this is just one of several incidents then of course you should be worried though.

aloha · 12/08/2005 11:54

ds has never had an accident at nursery...but he's falled off the bed at home, walked into a tree, fallen over on gravel and split his lip...and many, many other incidents too numerous to mention. I think I am a very naughty mummy indeed.

katierocket · 12/08/2005 12:06

Yes MP, I just meant if there were 'major' incidents every week. Our nursery is over the top with the accident book too.