DD (2) Pushed Off Slide at Nursery

[Mojomummy]

...I am furious !!!

DH picks DD up from nursery & when I got home tonight, she has a MASSIVE bump & purple mark between her eyes.

Apparently someone (won't say who) pushed her off the slide. Obviously DD was very upset & a cold compress was applied & given lots of cuddles. Oh & an accident report was completed (does this make it all right ?)

I am furious because I can not understand how this happened. DD has friends to play & has a slide, but is always closely monitored.

I feel they weren't taking proper care of my beloved & also the other children.

Am I over reacting ?

my concern is the lack of supervision. Sometimes I've been aware they're not as diligent as they could be.

When you take your 2 yr old child to the park, don't you stand by whatever he/she is on ?

It turns out the children where taking it in turns to push each other down the slide & DD lost her balance. A memeber of staff was watching from the other side of the nursery. There was nothing malicious going on.

No way do I stand over my 2 year old in the park
Only when it looks like he's about to do something particularly dangerous!
Sounds to me like they followed all the correct procedures, I'd forget it

Mojo: I can't stand over any one of my children all the time because I do have 3 children & they all need bits of supervision. I have even been told off by other parents for this (I guess I am just not supposed to ever go to playgrounds with more than one child) .

I do get irked, though, because I often see parents who WILL NOT GET OFF THEIR FAT *RSES and go help out a small child trying to do smething in the playground (go on the swings, jump off something, etc.). This happened recently when I was in Hyde Park (London). I was slow to help a child who was trying to navigate a playground aparatus because I kept thinking the mother should, and it meant leaving my own 12 month old on his own for a moment. But mother just sat staring vacantly into space. Then the child -- trying to learn how to do something that should have been fun, fell & hurt herself & I felt so bad that I hadn't helped in the first place (grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....)

Back to your original thread, I agree with all who said if it's a one-off I'd not worry about it, if it happens a lot then it's a problem you need to sort out.

MM< I completely understand how upset you are. But how many seconds would it take for a quick push? Not long, no-one could have stopped it. Unless perhaps you suggest only one goes on the slide at a time, although I'm sure they'll be thinking of things like this following this incident. Hope DD is ok.

I don't hover round my 2 year old. They only learn how not to fall off by actually falling off.

For example, I have been telling my 2 year old for weeks not to bounce on the sofa, in case he hurt himself. Two days ago, I was in the kitchen loading the washing machine and he fell off and split his lip.

While I was all cuddles and sympathy, it seems to have stuck in his mind, because he has been a lot more careful about what he bounces on since.

Ooo, fqueenzebra, I am actually one of those people who won't help other people's kids (physically) because I am scared to touch them in case someone accuses me of abuse!

My 14m old got a bloody nose the other day because he & his sister were playing at crashing at each other on the slide. This was generally great fun on both sides but eventually DD crashed a bit hard... so now we have a "no crashing into the baby" rule. I try really hard to stand with my children and help them do almost anything they want to in the playground, but I can't hover over all 3 chilidren at the same time.

Mojom: I don't blame you at all if you want to complain that you think they need better supervision. You have the evidence to prove that it was inadquate on this occasion. But don't think you should stay "furious", or that this incident proves a general situation of improper care, that's all.

I'm SHOCKED at you people who stand by your toddlers in the park. I sit and read the paper and drink a nice hot coffee.

Ahh morningpaper, you're such a trouble maker

forgot to say I'm no longer furious now I've had a proper explanation. All staff were very vague & uncomfortable yesterday which made me highly suspicous.

I often find that the staff can be a big uncomfortable when accidents like this happens, and I am sure it is because they KNOW it was some truly awful child's fault and they really want to say but aren't allowed to. Might be an explanation?

agree with MP, often if there is a particularly boisterous child they can be a bit shifty about it. Also, it's probably a bit embarrassing for them, perhaps they are worried that you will over react and cause a fuss?

ok, I think the reason I was furious is this...

DD has a bashed face, DH collects her as nursery is next to his work. He asked what happened & they said she was pushed off the slide. He pushed for further info & everyone looked shifty/uncomfortable & vague, so he didn't push it.

They both get home & I'm shocked at the egg lump etc on her brow. DH repeats the story & I hit the roof at the lack of explanation (yes, hot tempered, hormonal (8.5wks preg), tired & beloved injured).

I can not understand what/how it has happened, go out to babysit for a friend , so access to MN's delayed

Get home, ask DH for explanation again & I suspect cover-up etc. Blurt it out on MN ( that's what it's for etc etc?!).

DH goes to nursery with a flea in his ear & asks EXACTLY what happened - as I wrote earlier. So it's ok now. No cover-up, no maliciousness etc.

If only I had the facts last night.

Yes of course I do cause fuss's etc,but hopefully when appropriate, all I wanted was to know what happened.

well glad it's all sorted mojo
you know I was only teasing about causing a fuss.

if you need a fuss to be made...you know where I am