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I can't take my coat off straight away

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Yuckypretty · 05/02/2022 08:48

Is this a ND thing?

When I come home I never take my coat off straight away. I will start doing stuff while knowing I should really take it off. Then I feel a bit of resistance to taking it off and think I'll just do one more thing and then take it off. One more thing easily turns into 5 more things.

I'm not sure why I have resistance to taking it off.
I know that I struggle with changes of temperature but I don't really see how this plays a part in that. It's obviously not a big deal just wondered if anyone else has this and weather you have tried to change it or not. I'd like to understand it a bit more.

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BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 05/02/2022 12:54

I always feel really restricted in a coat, so I take it off straight away, same with footwear.

BlackeyedSusan · 05/02/2022 13:01

No. I need to get mine off asap. Yuk.

BlackeyedSusan · 05/02/2022 13:03

(sorry just how I feel, not a comment on you wearing your coat... As I can wear my coat in other people's houses as long as it is not too bulky. )

I have to take off all outerwear once I am home and put on home clothing.

BlackeyedSusan · 05/02/2022 13:04

And really that is a lot weirder than wearing a coat indoors which is not weird at all..

BringBackCoffeeCreams · 05/02/2022 13:07

It's a act of transitioning and transitioning can be a problem for ND people.

BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 05/02/2022 13:09

It's a act of transitioning and transitioning can be a problem for ND people.

I really struggle with being all wet after a shower. I have to dry and dress really quickly. I hate the period between finishing a shower and being dressed.

BringBackCoffeeCreams · 05/02/2022 13:12

I struggle with transitioning between being up and being in bed. Doesn't matter how tired I am or how much I actually want to go to bed, shifting my arse off the sofa is a daily battle.

BlackeyedSusan · 05/02/2022 14:35

I struggle with other transitions definitely.

Itsalmostanaccessory · 05/02/2022 14:39

I never wear a coat!
The most I can do is a long, heavy cardigan. Even in the snow, I'll be wearing a jumper and a big cardigan. Cannot stand a coat. I spend a lot of time getting wet in the rain.

Percie · 05/02/2022 14:43

Another one who has to change between outdoor and indoor clothes quickly. In my case because it's 'wrong' to mix outdoor and indoor. The brain has some amazing quirks!

Mabelface · 05/02/2022 14:45

I struggle with transition massively. Sofa to bed, sofa to kitchen, between deciding to do a task and actually doing it, self care as in getting in the bath or shower. The resistance from my brain drives me insane.

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Yuckypretty · 05/02/2022 15:58

Thanks everyone. I don't even like wearing my coat inside, it feels wrong. But I struggle to prioritize taking it off. It's like on some level I think it's going to be a big job to take it off.

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Yuckypretty · 05/02/2022 16:06

I also hate getting out of the shower, which means long showers. This is a bit weird but in the morning I'll often have a shower when I get up, before I go for a wee, as that way it will mean I have to have a short shower to go for a wee afterwards. (I hold no judgement for people who were in the shower!)

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Yuckypretty · 05/02/2022 16:06

*wee not were

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BlackeyedSusan · 05/02/2022 21:44

@Percie

Another one who has to change between outdoor and indoor clothes quickly. In my case because it's 'wrong' to mix outdoor and indoor. The brain has some amazing quirks!
Thank fuck for that. I am Not.Alone.
BlackeyedSusan · 05/02/2022 21:45

@Mabelface

I struggle with transition massively. Sofa to bed, sofa to kitchen, between deciding to do a task and actually doing it, self care as in getting in the bath or shower. The resistance from my brain drives me insane.
Yep. Same here.
BlackeyedSusan · 05/02/2022 21:48

I also so get the seemingly small task feeling like an enormous effort.

So peculiar.

Then sometimes when you have done it you wonder why you put it off. Til next time and we are back at massive effort to complete small task impasse again.

Pumpkinstace · 05/02/2022 22:04

Yes to the transitions being problematic.

Taking my coat off, putting it on.
Can't start a task or stop one if hyperfocused.
Showering, getting up, going to bed.

Getting out the car sometimes.

Eating.

I'm diagnosed ASD but I have start thinking recently that it might be adhd, if be interested to hear others thoughts on that.

Galvantula · 05/02/2022 22:08

I can manage my coat off it's not too cold (but then I need a big hoodie or something) but I really hate taking off my hat when I get in 😳

I guess it's kinda of related to how I have to work up to getting my pjs on. Dislike getting colder.

Galvantula · 05/02/2022 22:11

And yes the transitions. Like how I really want to sit in my car for a bit when I get home from work, before I go in inside to 3 lots of "mum, can I tell you something?" 🤯

Galvantula · 05/02/2022 22:11

Oh duh I have ADHD, forgot that bit 🤦

ofwarren · 05/02/2022 22:44

Yes to transitions being a struggle. I take coat and shoes off straight away though because they are "outside things".
I procrastinate really really badly. When I need a bath I will sit there for ages thinking about having one but not actually moving.

Percie · 06/02/2022 07:18

I'd never made the connection between transition and struggling to actually get up and do the thing I'd been thinking about doing/wanting to do before.

Has anyone else found that a lot of things changed/got worse after having children? As in, previously there was time so lots of stuff was 'managed' without noticing but now there's no space or time so you feel like you're being crushed and everything is on overdrive, e.g., rules, transitions, sensory stuff?

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Yuckypretty · 06/02/2022 07:37

Has anyone else found that a lot of things changed/got worse after having children? As in, previously there was time so lots of stuff was 'managed' without noticing but now there's no space or time so you feel like you're being crushed and everything is on overdrive, e.g., rules, transitions, sensory stuff?

Yes X 10

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Parnell718 · 19/03/2025 14:28

I do the same thing!!! It started when I became a mom. As soon as I got home from work or school I would wash my hands, greet my child and then straight to mommy duties. I felt like my child wasn't being taken care of the way I would do it so I had to reverse all of that when I got home (feed her more, wipe her down good, hug and kiss her, etc) with no time being wasted which included taking my jacket off. Next thing I knew, leaving my jacket on became a habit, maybe even an addiction, lol , as I am now just way too comfortable to take my jacket off. And this is 12 years later. Sometimes I have it on until I go to sleep. lol. We listen and we don't judge.

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