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Looking for mixed race children in the East Midlands area.

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savoycabbage · 15/04/2008 19:36

Hi, I live kind of between Nottingham and Derby and I have two little girls aged one and four. I am white and my husband is black and we live in a REALLY white area and my children don't know many people who aren't white. My oldest is really starting to notice and talk about it. She has been known to point to black men on the street and shout 'DADDY!' which is obviously very embarrassing! She is not the most confident child and it would be fantastic for her to meet some other children who are not white. She met a little girl in IKEA nearly a year ago now and she is still talking about it and is really excited if she meets anyone with curly hair. Nottingham and Derby are both very multi-cultural places but you can't really go up to people and ask to be their friend - I know as I have actually tried....

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pinkmagic1 · 16/04/2008 12:05

I'm in Nottingham with 2 kids, a dd of 17 months and a ds whos nearly 4. I'm white British and DH is North African. Where abouts are you?

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savoycabbage · 16/04/2008 17:30

I live in Heanor which is not far from Nottingham really but it's like another world. Only this morning in the waiting room at the Doctors a bloke stopped his little girl from playing with mine. He didn't say why but he made her come out of the part with all of the toys and sit next to him and then stared at me to make sure I knew he had a problem with me marrying someone he didn't approve of.

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marialuisa · 18/04/2008 16:03

I know it's a drag but could you take her into Derby for activities? There are definitely mixed race kids at Derby Dance on a Saturday morning, for example.

chickenmama · 18/04/2008 17:48

at the doctors surgery story!

I'd love to meet up (my dd is almost 2) but we're all the way down in Essex.

159159 · 19/04/2008 15:50

hi, to this thread as i am in a simular situation and am unsure what to do as like you said you cant just walk up to people and ask to be there friend
Chickenmama - where abouts in essex are you? Im near Chelmsford........DD is almost 3.....

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savoycabbage · 19/04/2008 16:21

No you can't really. And it's not that bad if you have the non-white family around you but we don't. I want my four year old to know that there are other families like hers so when somebody says something unkind to her she doesn't feel that she's on her own.

Hi marialuisa, where is Derby Dance? I do go to Derby for swimming and I even go to the supermarket in Derby so that we can see other and I quote 'brown people'.

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159159 · 19/04/2008 16:28

lol lol savoycabbage i have just reread your orig post lol DD's dad is the only black person she speaks to so she also points to most if not every black man she see saying 'daddy??' in that question voice. Bless the kids eh

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savoycabbage · 19/04/2008 16:43

Yes, I look like I have trained her up to pick up men for me! I have to say "YOUR DADDY IS AT WORK" so that they can hear.

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159159 · 19/04/2008 17:18

Snap lol
To make things worse she calls my dad 'daddy', she refuses to call him 'grandad' lol She's said it a few times in her sleep so we know she can lol

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savoycabbage · 19/04/2008 19:27

That is worse! I'm glad it;s happening to someone else too.

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chickenmama · 19/04/2008 19:37

oooh 159159, I'm in Chelmsford... we'll have to meet up!

159159 · 22/04/2008 00:13

Chickenmama email me on [email protected]
savoycabbage i hope you find someone in your area There must be lots of mums on here in Nottingham.
I'll bump you every day im on here (4ish times a wk) its normaly late at night but it could help

marialuisa · 22/04/2008 12:21

Derby Dance www.derbydance.co.uk/

Just round the corner from Queens Leisure Centre.

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savoycabbage · 22/04/2008 14:22

Thankyou 159159 for that and thanks marialuisa. I will try Derby Dance.

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159159 · 23/04/2008 12:47

Bumping.......

159159 · 29/04/2008 16:44

Hey Savoycabbage Hows it going? Have you been to Durby Dance?

159159 · 30/04/2008 16:36

Bumping

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savoycabbage · 30/04/2008 18:35

Hi 159159, no I haven't as it clashes with football, at least until she is five which is not that long really. It has inspired me to do more things in Derby and Nottingham though.

All I want is one little friend for her!!!!!

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159159 · 30/04/2008 20:10

Oh sweety, come move to Chelmsford and we'll b ur friends
I'll keep bumping if you want- must say i expected more posts on here
xx

marialuisa · 01/05/2008 15:52

If you're up for travelling you might try activities here:www.lakesidearts.org.uk/

The Uni crowd is fairly diverse!

Hellsbells82 · 03/05/2008 12:36

Aww bless your little girl, our baby daughter is white-black mix but so light she looks white, everywhere we go people say "isn't she dark" without realising she's dual heritage, I think she's going to have the opposite problem and be convinced she's white! We live in Coventry which is a pretty mixed area and I really like the fact there's children from all different cultures at the nurseries etc.

159159 · 03/05/2008 20:55

Bumping xx

159159 · 04/05/2008 14:14

Lazy sunday bump

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savoycabbage · 07/05/2008 19:13

Still nobody!

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159159 · 09/05/2008 14:20

This is terrible There must be some lovely people out there who want a new friend ................... Where are you all?????

savoycabbage What have you been up to?? Been enjoying the sun?
It was my dd birthday this week she wasn't spoilt honest lolol
Having her party this weekend - god i have spent so much money on food its terrible haha i just hope everyone eats lol

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