Hi,
I’m writing on here for a bit of perspective. I’ve been married for 8 years now with one child and another on the way. I come from a different city to my husband and I moved cities once we married.
I lived with my in laws for a period of time (following custom) but the whole environment and people became toxic very quick. I was treat and spoken to really bad whilst I lived with them. They expected me to do all the housework and disagreed to me having a career etc. My husband and I decided not to give up on each other and moved out.
I had full right to close my doors on in laws then and cut them out of my life but I continued for the sake of my husband not being isolated. Since then they’ve tried their best to interfere but have been told where to go. I am currently expecting my second child and since moving out I put in a huge Effort with them. Making an effort on birthdays being involved for my kids sake and my husbands so they can have a “normal family”. During this pregnancy I have become completely bedridden and my MIL has decided to make zero effort to even offer to help. With lockdown my own family in unable to travel to another city and this has hurt me deeply.
Regardless of their behaviour and actions I made a conscious and almost forced effort to keep the relationship between my kids and their grandparents alive but they have shown zero compassion towards my situation.
Is it time to call it a day and cut them out of my life?